Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it meant my kid was stuck indoors for the day for a nonshare kid, I wouldn’t be okay with it at all.

It’s not always about you. The nanny now has to keep all 3 kids entertained (if they’re inside all day), create activities etc. It’s a lot of work. Have you cared for 3 toddlers, simultaneously? How’d that go?

Which is EXACTLY why most share families would not agree to a third child tagging along while they are paying for a two-child share.

You should be setting a share rate for 3 and dividing that among the families. The original two should be paying less if you are adding a 3rd.

I do not permit my nanny to take on other kids while she is working for me ---- she can do whatever she wants when it's not my hours, but during my hours, she has to ask me. And I would say no - the main reason for a full time nanny that I pay a very high rate to is so she can give my kids her full attention.

Anonymous wrote:“ can see the other parent’s point: when you babysit for her, presumably you were giving all your attention to her kid. Now you would have 2 other kids and be in another house, so your attention is split and she would be reasonable to think that should be a lower rate. If for example you get $10 from each share family (for a $20 combined rate) and your usual babysitting rate is $15, she might well think she should pay at most $10. ”

Yep. This. Paying a regular sitting rate for someone who already is caring for 2 others kids seems wildly excessive.

With that said, I would not be ok with this as one of the share families.

They’re fine. It already happpened. I’m paid. Have a good weekend.

I think its fine but im curious why youre " stuck" in the house all day. I get not driving but is there literally nowhere to walk to? No sidewalks to even walk on?

“ can see the other parent’s point: when you babysit for her, presumably you were giving all your attention to her kid. Now you would have 2 other kids and be in another house, so your attention is split and she would be reasonable to think that should be a lower rate. If for example you get $10 from each share family (for a $20 combined rate) and your usual babysitting rate is $15, she might well think she should pay at most $10. ”

Yep. This. Paying a regular sitting rate for someone who already is caring for 2 others kids seems wildly excessive.

With that said, I would not be ok with this as one of the share families.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it meant my kid was stuck indoors for the day for a nonshare kid, I wouldn’t be okay with it at all.

It’s not always about you. The nanny now has to keep all 3 kids entertained (if they’re inside all day), create activities etc. It’s a lot of work. Have you cared for 3 toddlers, simultaneously? How’d that go?

The nanny is taking this on voluntarily. I would not be in favor of her being stretched and confined to the house with three toddlers, hence my response.

If I am fine with it and you know all the kids will be safe and have a fun filled day, what’s the problem? It’s no different if it’s too cold, hot, snowing etc and we can’t go out. Whether 1 day or 5 days. I’ve been in situations where we haven’t been outside in weeks due to the weather, both in a share and in a classroom with 12 kids and 2 adults- we will manage. However, with us possibly being limited to where we go and how long we stay out is ONE factor that made me decide to charge my babysitting rate, not to mention her “share rate” is less than what I get paid.

Zero excuse for a nanny keeping kids inside all day, especially for weeks. Daycare is different, and their rules are irrelevant.

Is this for one day, one week, etc.?

I can see the other parent’s point: when you babysit for her, presumably you were giving all your attention to her kid. Now you would have 2 other kids and be in another house, so your attention is split and she would be reasonable to think that should be a lower rate. If for example you get $10 from each share family (for a $20 combined rate) and your usual babysitting rate is $15, she might well think she should pay at most $10.

However, I sense you are not eager to take the job anyway and this is much more of a favor to her in a pinch than it is an opportunity for extra cash for you. So quote her a rate high enough that you will be happy to take the kid if she says yes, but low enough that you won’t be disappointed with the foregone money if she says no.