Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 11:45     Subject: Re:what do your kids call your nanny?
Nanny or Nanny First Name. My choice as a nanny.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 15:26     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Her first name.

Tho I had to laugh when I had a couple summer Friday’s off and my kids siad, “ are you babysitting us today??”
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 15:07     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:First name. I've seen little kids who call their nanny "Miss Julie" hit, spit on, and kick their nannies. So forcing them to call them "miss" does not create respect.


I am called Miss 1st Name, but not out of a demand for respect, as PP seems to want. I am similar to a teacher, not a casual friend. As kids get older and I stop working for them, they generally move to my first name but not always. My first two nanny families (part time at the same time) called me that and it has stuck over 10 years later. I like it and would hate to be called Nanny 1st Name and do like the differentiation between myself and random friends, given that I am an authority figure in their lives.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 15:47     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
First name. I've seen little kids who call their nanny "Miss Julie" hit, spit on, and kick their nannies. So forcing them to call them "miss" does not create respect.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 13:49     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
First name. I’ve had all my charges call me by my first name
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 10:35     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.

Did you teach your children to call you by your first name?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 10:12     Subject: Re:what do your kids call your nanny?
The kids couldn't say name when I started so I became Lala. It stuck and that's what they still call me 9 years later.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 07:43     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.


If I tell your kid not to run out in the street, he doesn't listen and then gets hurt or killed, then you blame yourself. This is why children need to learn to listen to adults and have to have respect for them:. SAFETY.

Obviously, you teach them not to interact with strangers and to tell you if they are touched inappropriately but they need to learn have respect for authority. Your kid, no kid, is the equal of an adult.


My kid should listen to me because he trusts me and has experienced that I have rules for a reason. Not because I am taller than they are.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 16:09     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.


If I tell your kid not to run out in the street, he doesn't listen and then gets hurt or killed, then you blame yourself. This is why children need to learn to listen to adults and have to have respect for them:. SAFETY.

Obviously, you teach them not to interact with strangers and to tell you if they are touched inappropriately but they need to learn have respect for authority. Your kid, no kid, is the equal of an adult.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 15:49     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.


I think it's fine to use the nanny's first name if you expect the relationship will become almost a familial one, not a formal one which calls for a title. However, I think parents should teach their children to respect their elders and to display good manners which often times calls for using titles for adult who are not family members. They will almost certainly be expected to call their teachers Mr./Mrs./Ms. The children can still use some critical thinking and discuss with their parents anything that seems "off" in their relationships with other adults (including extended family), but kids who call all adults by their first names will be considered rude in most environments.


A) I disagree with your last sentence. B) I don’t tell my kids to call all adults bu their first name, but I also don’t tell my kids to call all adults by Mr/Mrs Last Name. I am not advocating for first names but for not treating All Adults as a group in general. Their teacher is in a position of authority and has a title related to that. For other adults I ask them, “What would you like to be called?”
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 14:25     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.


I think it's fine to use the nanny's first name if you expect the relationship will become almost a familial one, not a formal one which calls for a title. However, I think parents should teach their children to respect their elders and to display good manners which often times calls for using titles for adult who are not family members. They will almost certainly be expected to call their teachers Mr./Mrs./Ms. The children can still use some critical thinking and discuss with their parents anything that seems "off" in their relationships with other adults (including extended family), but kids who call all adults by their first names will be considered rude in most environments.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 12:33     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.


But many of us don’t actually care if ours kids “respect their elders” in the sense pf deferong to adults just because they are adults. I want my kids to respect all people by treating them kindly and compassionately, but I suspect you mean respect as in “obey without question” and I don’t think of that as a positive trait.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 11:53     Subject: Re:what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have always been called Nanny.


I don't like that.


I love it!
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 10:51     Subject: Re:what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:I have always been called Nanny.


I don't like that.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 10:43     Subject: what do your kids call your nanny?
Anonymous wrote:In the DC area, first name.

In the more-south-south, where we are now, Ms. FirstName.


Children should never call an adult by their first name because it teaches them to respect their elders.