Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. For a nanny who has not yet been with us a year, and especially when I've already increased pay, I would not give cash. I would give flowers, or wine, or a gift certificate for a mani/pedi, or a gift certificate to a restaurant she likes, etc.... plus a card.

I've sometimes given cash, but not this early on. And I've sometimes made a cake, or breakfast, or given a day off - but again, not this early on (and in light of already having increased salary.)[/quote

You’re probably a cheap MB. I’ve always given my nannies cash for their birthdays, if it’s early on about $60-$80. Eventually, I give more. I’ve never liked to give flowers or anything else because you never know if they’ll like flowers or wine (unless they explicitly state they like something, then maybe buy it). Find out your nannies likes and based off that you can get her a gift if you don’t want to give cash.

Not OP; not PP, but this sounds so nasty!! Just because not everyone does things as you do, they are "cheap?" It's a shame because there are occasional nuggets of wisdom in this forum, but too often the anonymity breeds mean-spiritedness.

I’m the person who posted that. And honestly I was just surprised that so many MBs didn’t think a cash gift was ok to give. You don’t have to give as much as I do I guess, but I know it’s better than a crummy gift card. And it sounds like op really likes her nanny and is good at her job. Other suggestion like wine and flowers wouldn’t be good only if the nanny has expressed her fondness of something. For example, I know my nanny doesn’t drink or likes flowers. It’s a matter of knowing what you afford and what the nanny likes

I'm the pp MB you called cheap. OP has a part time nanny who has worked for them for half a year and for whom she's already increased pay. I don't think additional cash gifts are standard or necessary for that scenario.

I happen to really enjoy getting to know someone well enough to give gifts that are tailored to them, loved, a real treat, etc... Cash is certainly fine and easy but it also requires zero thought or attention so I like to do both. Of course you have no idea whether or not I pay well, or give regular bonuses, or give cash gifts on occasion to reward particular performance things, etc... It happens that I do but that's still irrelevant to the question OP asked. And your comment on my post was unnecessarily unpleasant and presumptive of the worst case scenario .