Anonymous wrote:we have a part-time nanny I consider part of the family! She works about the hours you describe - mostly til 6 but sometimes 8-9 depending on work, and can also come on weekends when work is really bad. she gets 20 hrs guaranteed on the books plus a metro card, and her pay comes out to around $22/hr. Generous bonuses and time off. Like everything it’s a trade off - she doesn’t cook or clean and takes a lot of time off, but she loves my kid and is almost always available for emergency situations. she’s a student very slowly working her way through college. She could get a full time nanny job but seems to prefer having different gigs (millennials!)

Weird that call her jobs gigs.

we have a part-time nanny I consider part of the family! She works about the hours you describe - mostly til 6 but sometimes 8-9 depending on work, and can also come on weekends when work is really bad. she gets 20 hrs guaranteed on the books plus a metro card, and her pay comes out to around $22/hr. Generous bonuses and time off. Like everything it’s a trade off - she doesn’t cook or clean and takes a lot of time off, but she loves my kid and is almost always available for emergency situations. she’s a student very slowly working her way through college. She could get a full time nanny job but seems to prefer having different gigs (millennials!)

Sitter is a one time job. But treat both equally good. Pay starts from $17 per hour

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, my kid is going to suffer. I don't have a choice. If I can stick it out for about a year, I can probably get another job. My family can come once in a while. Maybe I can work from home some nights after she goes to bed. Dad isn't capable of stepping up, it will not happen.

I may also consider an au pair. This person will become part of the family.

Go to the AP forum here. There are a ton of things you haven’t considered yet about an AP. You need to budget a week off when they first arrive to help set up a bank account, ssn, etc. Show them how to do EVERYTHING (including follow the directions on boxed mac and cheese and how to use the washing machine without breaking it)! Evaluate driving, and if you have to have a driver, then possibly pay for driving classes.

An AP can only work 45 hours per week and has a maximum of 10 hours per day. If you travel for work, it won’t work. What do you intend to do when your daughter is sick, or there’s a snow day or vacation?

APs are paid roughly $200 per week by the families, but the families also pay around $8k per year to the agency and $500 per semester for classes. AP has two weeks vacation. Can you handle all of that?

You are expected to treat the AP like a member of the family. If the above sound daunting, pervasive s you could consider a student or someone that primarily wants part-time work as a live-in nanny. With only one 7 year old, that’s an easier position in a lot of ways.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, my kid is going to suffer. I don't have a choice. If I can stick it out for about a year, I can probably get another job. My family can come once in a while. Maybe I can work from home some nights after she goes to bed. Dad isn't capable of stepping up, it will not happen.

I may also consider an au pair. This person will become part of the family.

If you can afford it do this.

OP here, yes, my kid is going to suffer. I don't have a choice. If I can stick it out for about a year, I can probably get another job. My family can come once in a while. Maybe I can work from home some nights after she goes to bed. Dad isn't capable of stepping up, it will not happen.

I may also consider an au pair. This person will become part of the family.