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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

I also disagree. It's a cultural exchange. For us, we are happy to share our home, customs, traditions, weeknight dinners, holidays and travel. We ask that AP share her language. We are up front on this from the first communication.

+1. It's almost as if people believe that you can't learn a language and converse in a native language at the same time. What do you think any multilingual people do in this country? I grew up tri-lingual--and when I worked abroad, I learned a new language and taught mine.

Our current AP denied the family before us because they wanted her to speak German with the kids. She expressly wanted to be immersed in English. Those who are here truly to be serious about mastering English wont sign up to speak their native language with the kids. Plus they know that giving instruction or asking the kids to do anything in their non native language with be 2xs as much work and frustrating for wveryone.

LoL.
Post up about the cultural exchange aspects with your speak “French” or “spanish” as a requirement in your profile and have ZERO connections after 2 months on CCAP.

Enjoy the reality check.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

I also disagree. It's a cultural exchange. For us, we are happy to share our home, customs, traditions, weeknight dinners, holidays and travel. We ask that AP share her language. We are up front on this from the first communication.

+1. It's almost as if people believe that you can't learn a language and converse in a native language at the same time. What do you think any multilingual people do in this country? I grew up tri-lingual--and when I worked abroad, I learned a new language and taught mine.

Thankfully I have another year as our AP just extended, but I will be watching to see if the matching changes. On paper we are challenging (3 kids, close to or using all 45 hours), but 2 our of 3 extended with us and so I know we have a pretty food gig all considered. HOWEVER, we have been using the dare to match approach in the past- don’t really reveal perks until closer to the end of the interview process. I prefer that as I want someone who definitely wants our kids, but we will see!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

I also disagree. It's a cultural exchange. For us, we are happy to share our home, customs, traditions, weeknight dinners, holidays and travel. We ask that AP share her language. We are up front on this from the first communication.

Hopefully you are not with ccap or not matching soon with them until they fix the system. If you are with ccap be prepared for a new dynamic.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

I also disagree. It's a cultural exchange. For us, we are happy to share our home, customs, traditions, weeknight dinners, holidays and travel. We ask that AP share her language. We are up front on this from the first communication.

But do you understand why it limits the number of APs interested in your family?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

I also disagree. It's a cultural exchange. For us, we are happy to share our home, customs, traditions, weeknight dinners, holidays and travel. We ask that AP share her language. We are up front on this from the first communication.

I respectfully disagree. 5/5 APs happily speak French 100% with my kids. She is not tutoring them, she just speaks to them in French. I speak English with her, my husband speaks both, and all of her social interactions are also in English. This has never been an issue for us.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

+1
Our AP is extending and would deny any family requiring Spanish or had Spanish speakers in the home. Would drop the requirement and maybe encourage it here and there. Our lcc always says if you want language lessons hire a tutor. Not APs job to teach a language.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

They want to work on their English... It’s not surprising that you’re less interesting than a family who doesn’t care what language they learned at home.

I'm not having any luck - I've reached out to 30+ so far, only 5 have bothered to talk to me, and all but one have turned us down because we want the au pair to speak to our kids in Spanish (a total of about 4 hours a day).

Males. Not makes!

It just takes longer....the candidates that were in “demand” and being so selective are now readily a available....except for good extensions and makes...female ooc are much easier to connect with than 2 or 3 months ago.

Anonymous wrote:What will be interesting to me will be to see if more APs are matched or fewer APs are matched in 2018 vs. 2017. Put another way, will this "pickiness" and ignoring or declining of HF contacts will work for them (and they will get great matches) or will it backfire and more potential APs will be left with no match at all?

I can't imagine there's some great conspiracy. I wonder if something is suppressing interest.