Anonymous wrote:This is the nature of dealing with different people in their homes not sure why nannies here are so shocked. It’s really hard to entertain / tote around kids all weekend and have the house sparkling clean come Monday morning. our nanny does some stuff that I find really gross sometimes, last week she made tuna salad for her lunch and left the can top on the can opener with tuna juice all over the counter. That was really pleasant to find ( smell) after a long day at work. However I chalked it up to her forgetting while chasing the baby/ having a hard day or whatever.

But it's different, and not acceptable when a nanny does it (usually, thanks PP for being understanding!). Nanny here, and I never do that. Dishes may not be finished when the parents walk in, but I can guarantee they are before I walk out! I chase the kids just as much or more than the parents do (since there's only one of me!), but I seem to care more about cleaning up as I go.

This is the nature of dealing with different people in their homes not sure why nannies here are so shocked. It’s really hard to entertain / tote around kids all weekend and have the house sparkling clean come Monday morning. our nanny does some stuff that I find really gross sometimes, last week she made tuna salad for her lunch and left the can top on the can opener with tuna juice all over the counter. That was really pleasant to find ( smell) after a long day at work. However I chalked it up to her forgetting while chasing the baby/ having a hard day or whatever.

My employers leave a mess for me every morning, even when someone might be coming over... Add in a kid home from school and feeling better?

What the hell is wrong with these parents?!!

Same thing happens to me. Play room is A MESS. Toys everywhere, snacks and plates and cups everywhere. Family room has plates from dinner and cups. Crumbs of food everywhere. Kitchen is a huge mess too! Dishwater full of dirty dishes, sink full of dirty dishes and stove full of dirty pots and pans. What pisses me of the most is THEY NEVER BATHE THE OLDER BOY!!! if I shower him on Thursday he never gets a bath until Monday when I’m there. I know he’s a kid but cmon at least give him a bath on Sunday. They are not slobs and are pretty clean. However they know that i come in Monday’s and know I’ll pick up. It’s started to become to much to handle so I asked them if they could at least bathe him on the weekend. There’s also a younger infant brother and it’s hard to have the older boy with the baby.

I am dreading tomorrow morning, too. They are such slobs over the weekend. My charge’s clothes and toys will be all over the house and I won’t be able to find anything I need. I have to get groceries before I come to work. I love my charge but I hate Monday mornings.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. It is a beautiful Sunday morning in California and I am already dreading the mess I am going to walk into tomorrow.

I have to talk to my employers - this isn't normal!!!

It isn't normal or healthy, PP. Talk to your employers. No one should dread work like this.

NP here. It is a beautiful Sunday morning in California and I am already dreading the mess I am going to walk into tomorrow.

I have to talk to my employers - this isn't normal!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh I hope my nanny doesn’t write something like this about me. I try very hard to have a clean house Monday am. Certainly no dishes or dirt anywhere. I am guilty of leaving my dds laundry for the nanny to do during the week but that’s about it. We are routine sticklers though and do the same thing on weekends as weekdays with lunch, snacks, clothes and bath so it’s not a dramatic change for dd.

MB here. I used to pick up everything, too.

I stopped. I've told our nanny it doesn't all have to be put to rights on Monday (we have a housekeeper who helps pick up, too), but I'm not going to do it.

Flame away.

No need to flame you, PP. Your child is learning from you. If you are certain that he/she can survive and thrive without regard for personal property or organization-okay.

Exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh I hope my nanny doesn’t write something like this about me. I try very hard to have a clean house Monday am. Certainly no dishes or dirt anywhere. I am guilty of leaving my dds laundry for the nanny to do during the week but that’s about it. We are routine sticklers though and do the same thing on weekends as weekdays with lunch, snacks, clothes and bath so it’s not a dramatic change for dd.

MB here. I used to pick up everything, too.

I stopped. I've told our nanny it doesn't all have to be put to rights on Monday (we have a housekeeper who helps pick up, too), but I'm not going to do it.

Flame away.

No need to flame you, PP. Your child is learning from you. If you are certain that he/she can survive and thrive without regard for personal property or organization-okay.

Anonymous wrote:^ I don’t think anyone has to “flame away.” Your post says miles more about you than anyone else could.

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^ I don’t think anyone has to “flame away.” Your post says miles more about you than anyone else could.

Anonymous wrote:Gosh I hope my nanny doesn’t write something like this about me. I try very hard to have a clean house Monday am. Certainly no dishes or dirt anywhere. I am guilty of leaving my dds laundry for the nanny to do during the week but that’s about it. We are routine sticklers though and do the same thing on weekends as weekdays with lunch, snacks, clothes and bath so it’s not a dramatic change for dd.

MB here. I used to pick up everything, too.

I stopped. I've told our nanny it doesn't all have to be put to rights on Monday (we have a housekeeper who helps pick up, too), but I'm not going to do it.

Flame away.

Anonymous wrote:Um, this is definitely particular to your family. Our house is clean, there's always food in the house, and our kids were bathed Sunday night, clothes for Monday laid out.

This is really good to hear.

OP here. My employers are actually great parents. They dedicate most of their weekend to their child and always have some fun outing for her. They are just chaotic by nature. They have a housekeeper three times a week who takes care of the house and their laundry. I actually enjoy doing my charge's laundry and do think it is my job -- it is just the inside-out clothing all bunched together and on the floor... and all over the house. And the general chaos of everything. I honestly don't even know how they can made such a mess of her drawers and closet in three days.

I really appreciate the responses. I think I have to accept both them for who they are - good and bad - and that Monday mornings are always going to be tough.

Thanks, Everyone!