Anonymous
03/06/2018 16:42
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Look, if she took him out for a 1 hour play period at the playground in the morning, (and she can heat up a bottle and the put a warming pack around the bottle and put it in a thermos bag, it will be fine by the time the infant needs it an hour later), and ran him ragged at the park (which is easy now that the baby is in a stroller and isn't crawling around). The baby would have a stroller nap in the morning during this playground time.
Then came back and fed him lunch, and then put him down on the living room couch with all lights out, curtains drawn, make it pitch dark in the room and a really boring something on tv (not the ipad he can touch), then he might fall asleep in front of tv. And voila, a nap.
(Mind you, this is NOT my idea of a great parenting/nannying but YOU created a monster with "won't sleep anywhere but in the car' bullcrap and she inherited this problem, so she'll have to try to figure it out.
Soon enough, perhaps she can start putting him in his crib and see if he'll fall asleep there (with quiet music on) - but it might entail some crying as he figures this out. Or she'll just let him fall asleep to the video every day, but at least he has a nap so he isn't too exhausted all afternoon.
of course, he still might not sleep, in which case after 1 hour on the couch with all lights off and him snuggled in a blanket, and the baby waking up from his afternoon nap (or before his 5pm nap, depending on baby) I'd take that toddler out again, and run him around at the playground again. He'll be ready for dinner and bed when you get home!
Soon enough he'll get enough exercise that his body will need to sleep, and he'll be able to sleep in his crib, or on the couch.
Then came back and fed him lunch, and then put him down on the living room couch with all lights out, curtains drawn, make it pitch dark in the room and a really boring something on tv (not the ipad he can touch), then he might fall asleep in front of tv. And voila, a nap.
(Mind you, this is NOT my idea of a great parenting/nannying but YOU created a monster with "won't sleep anywhere but in the car' bullcrap and she inherited this problem, so she'll have to try to figure it out.
Soon enough, perhaps she can start putting him in his crib and see if he'll fall asleep there (with quiet music on) - but it might entail some crying as he figures this out. Or she'll just let him fall asleep to the video every day, but at least he has a nap so he isn't too exhausted all afternoon.
of course, he still might not sleep, in which case after 1 hour on the couch with all lights off and him snuggled in a blanket, and the baby waking up from his afternoon nap (or before his 5pm nap, depending on baby) I'd take that toddler out again, and run him around at the playground again. He'll be ready for dinner and bed when you get home!
Soon enough he'll get enough exercise that his body will need to sleep, and he'll be able to sleep in his crib, or on the couch.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 15:27
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
Wow. Nanny here. Any nanny worth her salt can figure this out, but only if the parent gives her latitude to do it! Baby is in the carrier, toddler in the stroller. Double stroller. Carry toddler and baby in the stroller (30 pounds is NOT too heavy!).
Op here. It's not that simple. If 2 year old wakes up he will not go back down. The five month old is not on a schedule yet. It would be a miracle if I could get them sleeping at the same time. It's easy to say get a carrier or stroller but that hasn't worked for us. Baby will start screaming when the car stops and wake up the toddler. It's really a mess and I think 2 nannies might be better.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 14:57
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:She's says my children are too difficult. I have a soon to be 2 year old and 5 month old. She said she will be happy to take care of the baby but the toddler is too hard. He's a handful and he doesn't really nap during the day. I can't miss work and I don't know what to do!
What did you do before you had this nanny? And did she know what was going on with your children? We're moving so our nanny is currently looking for a new job and interviewed with someone who had five-month old twins (we have twins) and didn't have them on a schedule at all - it was just utter chaos all the time. Our nanny quickly said no. So either your other nanny didn't know how bad things were or she was so desperate for a job that she took it and kept looking for something else. You probably ought to work on getting your two-year-old under control if you want a nanny who will stay.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 14:38
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
Wow. Nanny here. Any nanny worth her salt can figure this out, but only if the parent gives her latitude to do it! Baby is in the carrier, toddler in the stroller. Double stroller. Carry toddler and baby in the stroller (30 pounds is NOT too heavy!).
Anonymous
03/06/2018 13:40
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
OP here. I think you're right!!
You live in an apartment with outdoor parking but you can afford two nannies? Hmmm ....
We recently moved to a new city. Condos are very popular in Florida. We will definitely have a garage the next time we move. Are you always this nosy?
I'm not being nosy, but I do think you're ridiculous. You'd hire a second nanny before buying a double stroller or letting the kids sleep in the car. If you have that kind of money, then your nanny quitting is no big deal, because you can call an agency and have another one tomorrow while you look for someone who can manage your child better than you can.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 13:02
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
OP here. I think you're right!!
You live in an apartment with outdoor parking but you can afford two nannies? Hmmm ....
We recently moved to a new city. Condos are very popular in Florida. We will definitely have a garage the next time we move. Are you always this nosy?
+ 1. We are building our dream house in Malibu and currently living in a condo in Santa Monica.
So many on DCUM are middle class suburbanites.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 12:55
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
OP here. I think you're right!!
You live in an apartment with outdoor parking but you can afford two nannies? Hmmm ....
We recently moved to a new city. Condos are very popular in Florida. We will definitely have a garage the next time we move. Are you always this nosy?
Anonymous
03/06/2018 12:50
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
OP here. I think you're right!!
You live in an apartment with outdoor parking but you can afford two nannies? Hmmm ....
Anonymous
03/06/2018 12:30
Subject: Re:Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Is the 2 yr old not able to walk? Wake him up and make him walk. He's old enough.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 12:20
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
OP here. I think you're right!!
Anonymous
03/06/2018 11:57
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
So get a double stroller. You're basically saying there's no solution, and you're doomed to quit your job.
Either let them sleep in the car, or solve this problem.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 11:49
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
You need two nannies--one for the demon and one for infant.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 11:30
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 11:29
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
Op here. I would NEVER expect a nanny to carry a 30 pound toddler and push a baby stroller across the parking lot and up the elevator. No freaking way. You're a bad employer if you think this is reasonable.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.
Anonymous
03/06/2018 10:45
Subject: Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.
As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.
It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.
The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.
Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.
I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.
Op, your making excuses! He’s 2 not 6. She’s walking from the car to the elevator, right? How is that a long distance? If you don’t get your child on a schedule or allow the nanny to help, then you’re going to have this problem with the next nanny.