Yep - this happened to me. AP needed me to drive her and her friends at 5:30am to the metro on a Saturday morning to go out of town. I did it, but as I was driving around picking up her friends, I realized there was not enough gas left in the car to get to the metro and back. I stopped at a gas station on the way and made her pump/pay since I was paying her extra weekly for gas. The real kicker was this was all on my birthday.


Why in the world would you even do this?


I did it because it was part of the weekend AP class she was taking and they were going out of town that weekend for the trip portion.I was trying to follow the rules. I was responsible for transportation to the class.

Next time, put your AP in an Uber and let your APs friends find their own rides.

Anonymous wrote:You people get what you pay for. And by the way why are you complaining many of you are not too clean yourselves? Maybe the AP saw how you do things and she is only following you. I have been a nanny for many, many years and no one can call me a slob, the way I carry myself and my car said everything about me. A matter of fact I carry myself better than some of the mothers I see and smell awesome as well. And if I happened to go to anyone's home and I am thirsty I wouldn't take a glass of water from them if their house is filthy. This go back to what you people want, do you want someone who will care for your children and your home, and car as she would her own belongings? Or do you want to pay less salary to people whom you really don't know of their habits? You get what you pay for therefore stop complaining.....you go and clean the car with all the money you have saved from hiring a responsible nanny?

You sound like the perfect mom. Congratulations. LOL.

I had both Nannies and APs. We gave a car to drive for all of them. Some of them trashed the car on regular basis. Some of them did not. Really depends on the person. Trash could have come from nannies/APs or my kids, did not matter. Some people just like things being clean. For others, it is just not a priority.

The biggest difference between a Nanny and an AP: AP is around on the weekend when I actually notice the mess, and she cleans up without hesitation. If I'm not happy with the cleanup, I repeat my request. For a nanny, I had to clean on the weekend, or wait till Monday, and remember to tell her to do it (and then it is like, wait maybe I drove the car over the weekend, so whose mess is it anyway?) I have not heard a complaint from AP regarding cleaning up HER mess, or even mess after my kids that was created when she was in charge.

You can get Nannies and APs that are neat loving, and will keep your house/cars absolutely clean. Be prepared though to keep it up that way, otherwise they will call you a slob.

Anonymous wrote:It's about give and take. Please clean after your Au pair if it bothers you.

Ha! As a HP, I give the AP a car with insurance and gas money. She takes the car and trashs it. I give again by cleaning up after her. Seems like HP are the only ones giving. What is AP giving?

Anonymous wrote:It's about give and take. Please clean after your Au pair if it bothers you.

Yep. So with that give and take, it would definitely be fair to ask the AP to clean up the kitchen after the host family if it bothers her.

It's about give and take. Please clean after your Au pair if it bothers you.

Nanny troll, why waste your fine smelling time on an AP chat board? Seriously, why bother?