Anonymous wrote:Any parent who lets their child drop the “F-bomb” on a caregiver & then does nothing about it is just teaching that child that you can disrespect any adult, then will not get punished because you can just use your Autism diagnosis to get your free pass.

Aspergers children are usually smarter + more aware of things.

That doesn't mean they can or know how to manage their emotions.
Sounds like this girl is living in a situation with very little family and social support. She's isolated and surrounded by people who don't know how to help her. It's not a good recipe for mental illness.

And of course, it's not right to curse at people. I don't think that's the major issue to be dealt with here, though, there are so many things that are a lot more pressing.

Honestly, you seem too hung up on whether it's right/wrong/acceptable for her to have responded to you that way.

That's not really the question. The question is whether or not you can be the one to help her deal with her emotions, learn to react in more socially acceptable ways, and just generally be there for her through a process that will look very different than it does for others. I think what people are saying is that you don't have the skills or desire. I would add that if you're this hung up on swearing and whether you are being disrespected, teenagers in general might cause you more stress than it's worth. Not because they shouldn't swear, but because it's too easy to push your buttons.

Any parent who lets their child drop the “F-bomb” on a caregiver & then does nothing about it is just teaching that child that you can disrespect any adult, then will not get punished because you can just use your Autism diagnosis to get your free pass.

Aspergers children are usually smarter + more aware of things.