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Anonymous wrote:What about all the not-so-honorable NFs that fire nanny on the spot when the nanny gives notice? It happens all the time and all of you know it happens yet you see nothing wrong with this.

. There you are. Why do you assume that every nanny family behaves this way? Why do you assume the worst of people? I’m sorry that your life has been so terrible, but many of us have mutually respectful relationships with friends, lovers, employers, etc. Maybe there is a reason you are so jaded, but my guess is that it is internal and you should focus on becoming a happier and more stable person and not letting one bad thing turn your world upside down. And certainly don’t attempt to make others see the world through your shit colored glasses.

Get off your soap box! Nannies post about being fired the minute they give notice all the time.

Anonymous wrote:What about all the not-so-honorable NFs that fire nanny on the spot when the nanny gives notice? It happens all the time and all of you know it happens yet you see nothing wrong with this.

. There you are. Why do you assume that every nanny family behaves this way? Why do you assume the worst of people? I’m sorry that your life has been so terrible, but many of us have mutually respectful relationships with friends, lovers, employers, etc. Maybe there is a reason you are so jaded, but my guess is that it is internal and you should focus on becoming a happier and more stable person and not letting one bad thing turn your world upside down. And certainly don’t attempt to make others see the world through your shit colored glasses.

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Anonymous wrote:I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Offer to babysit for free? Ridiculous. Give teo week s notice. She owes them zilch.

I didn’t say for free. And actually, she owes them the same respect she would expect, which at the very least is to honor your contract. Do you treat everyone this way? Am I super lucky to consistently have mutually respectful employment relationships? Grow up!

Yes, I agree with respect and honoring contracts but I also think OP needs to look out for herself too. Nobody, not the NF or anyone, is doing it except for her. If she has a better opportunity she needs to go for it but try to give as much notice as possible. On the other hand, it IS risky because you hear of many nannies being fired on the spot after giving appropriate time. Again, OP needs to do what she needs to for herself.

Are you the person that said she owes them “zilch”? If so, I said that she has to put her needs first in the post that you responded to.

What about all the not-so-honorable NFs that fire nanny on the spot when the nanny gives notice? It happens all the time and all of you know it happens yet you see nothing wrong with this.

The long notice period in nanny contracts is generally in place to give both parties time to find something new. In this case, she decided to hedge her bets by interviewing before she gave notice. That's the safe way to do it, but that's why her NF may be upset when she now gives less than the agreed-upon notice.

30 days in nanny contracts is designed to prevent either party from having to scramble in what can be a lengthy hiring process, and she would have been beyond angry if they hadn't given her the 30 days.

If OP is an honorable person, she will try to figure this out.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Offer to babysit for free? Ridiculous. Give teo week s notice. She owes them zilch.

I didn’t say for free. And actually, she owes them the same respect she would expect, which at the very least is to honor your contract. Do you treat everyone this way? Am I super lucky to consistently have mutually respectful employment relationships? Grow up!

Yes, I agree with respect and honoring contracts but I also think OP needs to look out for herself too. Nobody, not the NF or anyone, is doing it except for her. If she has a better opportunity she needs to go for it but try to give as much notice as possible. On the other hand, it IS risky because you hear of many nannies being fired on the spot after giving appropriate time. Again, OP needs to do what she needs to for herself.

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Anonymous wrote:I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Offer to babysit for free? Ridiculous. Give teo week s notice. She owes them zilch.

Um, she owes them what she agreed to when she took the job. 4 weeks. If she is going to be honorable about that, she should not have agreed to it when she took the position. It's not only her livelihood and her life that are affected. If this is the way most nannies act in the face of a better offer, APs or a daycare center are perhaps better options.

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Anonymous wrote:I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Offer to babysit for free? Ridiculous. Give teo week s notice. She owes them zilch.

I didn’t say for free. And actually, she owes them the same respect she would expect, which at the very least is to honor your contract. Do you treat everyone this way? Am I super lucky to consistently have mutually respectful employment relationships? Grow up!

Anonymous wrote:I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Offer to babysit for free? Ridiculous. Give teo week s notice. She owes them zilch.

I would offer to help in any way you can. I would offer to babysit in the evenings so they can interview. You can supply them with info about backup care through agencies (not just the numbers but actual cost and other details that pertain), look for candidates on Care or other sites if they don’t use an agency, offer to sit in on interviews, help train new nanny, etc. Do as much as you can to soften the blow, but ultimately you must do what is best for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I would be floored if our nanny gave us only two weeks notice. Yes, they're not likely to sue you for breach of contract, but I'm pretty sure they could think of some negative things to say about you as a reference. I mean, no one is perfect, and we love our nanny, but if she left us high and dry I'm not sure why I'd be willing to say only good things about her if someone called me. I think it says something about someone who would do that to a family, unless they weren't treating you well. But if I heard someone say a nanny prospect had done that to them, I wouldn't be interested anymore.

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I would be floored if our nanny gave us only two weeks notice. Yes, they're not likely to sue you for breach of contract, but I'm pretty sure they could think of some negative things to say about you as a reference. I mean, no one is perfect, and we love our nanny, but if she left us high and dry I'm not sure why I'd be willing to say only good things about her if someone called me. I think it says something about someone who would do that to a family, unless they weren't treating you well. But if I heard someone say a nanny prospect had done that to them, I wouldn't be interested anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if your employers decided to only give you two weeks notice, rather than the 4 weeks specified in the contract?

You signed a contract. Whether or not it's worth enforcing for your employers is one issue. But whether you want to retain a good reference and standing with them, and whether you care about your personal integrity or not are still relevant.

Most employers fire the nanny the minute she gives notice.

True.

I think you have no choice but to take the new job and give the two weeks' notice. It would be great if you could find the backup nanny.

I honestly do not think you will even have an issue w/this.

Many families whos Nanny gives them notice is likely to let her go on her own right away.

Weird, but it happens all the time.

Alternatively, you could redeem yourself if you did the grunt work yourself & found them a Nanny within the two-week notice period.

Good luck.