Anonymous wrote:I know. I hate people too. I don't want to deal with any adults... I can hardly stand kids. Why should I be expected to tell my employers anything. They should know what bothers me.

Ok, troll.

I know. I hate people too. I don't want to deal with any adults... I can hardly stand kids. Why should I be expected to tell my employers anything. They should know what bothers me.

Leaving early could make the aggravation worth it.

The grandparents would come over and MB would give me a heads up about it. Basically when they were there it was a "break" for me. They played, read books while I cleaned or made dinner. Also I got to leave early sometimes too.


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Anonymous wrote:No, the family should absolutely structure their lives to make it as convenient as possible for the nanny. You should quit.

+1 smh

No, the family should absolutely structure their lives to make it as convenient as possible for the nanny. You should quit.

I would definitely say that it depends on the situation. You should have a contract with guaranteed hours, so uncle taking hours wouldn't affect your pay. Additionally, you can take steps to be out of the house for the afternoon. If you can do that, it should be minimal interaction.

Doesn't sound like a good arrangement to me, so I'd quit.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well,Yes they do appreciate me less as they don't rely on me so much. They have him as back up so I am not as needed as I was. It seems crazy to have so many adults doing childcare as well.

Hmm. This may not be your motive OP, but this is now coming across more like possessiveness or jealousy. Is uncle disruptive because your nanny kids like to spend time with him and he doesn't mind?

OP here. Well,Yes they do appreciate me less as they don't rely on me so much. They have him as back up so I am not as needed as I was. It seems crazy to have so many adults doing childcare as well.

Anonymous wrote:I would not put up with a loud uncle in the house with my charge and me all afternoon. If I were you, OP. I would start looking for another job and give notice.

It is just creepy.

Why is it creepy for an adult who lives in the house to be in the house?

OP: It sounds like this change was sudden. Did the uncle just move in? Just lose his job? Why is it disruptive? If you want to continue with the job, I'd put together the best version of my objection and present it to the parents... but be prepaed for them to say "uhm, he lives here."

The only red flag for me in your post is that you think they don't appreciate you as much any more... That sounds odd to me. Why do you think that? Does he do child care for them? Is that the reason he moved in? That remark just makes me feel like there's more going on here than you're letting on...

I would not put up with a loud uncle in the house with my charge and me all afternoon. If I were you, OP. I would start looking for another job and give notice.

It is just creepy.

You don’t have the right to ask your NF to keep uncles or grandparents out of the house. You do have the right to find a job that’s a good fit.

I ask upfront if there will be anyone in my workspace and how often. That way when Grandma is here 50% of the time and I turn in my notice they aren’t caught off guard.

Most nannies don’t work with family members for a reason.

Ugh... I would start looking for another job and give my notice. No way would I work with a creepy brother in the house.

You can’t expect a resident to be kicked out because he annoys the nanny. They can’t expect to dramatically change your working conditions and have you stay on. You need to figure out if there is some reasonable accommodation they could make that would make this acceptable to you. If so, you then need to decide whether financially you can afford to give them heads up that this is a dealbreaker and risk that they will let you go right away. If you can think of a reasonable accommodation that would make it tolerable to you and you think that they would be willing to do it and are OK risking them just firing you on the spot, then you have a conversation about it. But my guess is that you will end up having to quit.