Anonymous
11/14/2017 00:59
Subject: Re:NF posted footage of me online
There is a lot of overreaction here. You *could* go the lawyer route, but it will be such a waste of time and money for something that could be resolved by just talking to the offending party. I am not even sure how much legal ground there is for suing over such footage -- the place where the video was taken is the nanny's place of employment (and expectation of privacy for an employee at the workplace is pretty limited). The MB is clearly also not using the footage for commercial purposes, where there's more grounds for requiring consent.
Just TALK to her, at least to start with, and you can take a different course of action if she doesn't react well to your concerns. The parent/nanny relationship is not an equal one and it's not necessarily because there's intentional disrespect. As a parent, I'm allowed to do all sorts of things with my kid without my nanny's permission (like taking her out of the country, piercing her ears, dropping her off at a neighbor's house while I run out for an errand, etc), but it certainly should be a fireable offense for the nanny to do those to the kid without the parents' permission. Your MB may well consider security footage from cameras in her house as something she gets to decide what to do with, just as you might feel you get to decide what to do with photos on your phone, even if other people are visible in them.
Just TALK to her, at least to start with, and you can take a different course of action if she doesn't react well to your concerns. The parent/nanny relationship is not an equal one and it's not necessarily because there's intentional disrespect. As a parent, I'm allowed to do all sorts of things with my kid without my nanny's permission (like taking her out of the country, piercing her ears, dropping her off at a neighbor's house while I run out for an errand, etc), but it certainly should be a fireable offense for the nanny to do those to the kid without the parents' permission. Your MB may well consider security footage from cameras in her house as something she gets to decide what to do with, just as you might feel you get to decide what to do with photos on your phone, even if other people are visible in them.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 23:59
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
See a lawyer and have lawyer write to her requesting that no photos of you can be posted in future WITHOUT your permission.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 23:20
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Get a new job. I would.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 22:42
Subject: Re:NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What did you do, OP?
Nothing yet.
It does bother me, it’s a public video anyone could see and it’s not flattering. I’m supper self conscience and it just feels... wrong. I know I’d be fired if I posted a picture of their child without permission. I feel hurt I’m not given the same consideration.
Why haven't you said something, OP? She is going to do it again unless you tell her to stop.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 22:20
Subject: Re:NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:What did you do, OP?
Nothing yet.
It does bother me, it’s a public video anyone could see and it’s not flattering. I’m supper self conscience and it just feels... wrong. I know I’d be fired if I posted a picture of their child without permission. I feel hurt I’m not given the same consideration.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 19:15
Subject: Re:NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My contract reads that I recommend video, that way they can see what happens with the children. However, it also states the parameters for viewing it (I can request to see it any time, the parents may not share it) and the repercussions if those parameters are ignored (quitting without notice, suing them if it appears online).
Excellent! Every nanny should include this.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 16:38
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Wow, I feel like some if you are overreacting in such a big way! She probably just didn't think about it. Talk to her and tell her that you do not want photos or videos of you posted. Personally, I wouldn't think twice about it. My current family posts photos on a private webpage and my last family has posted a few pictures on their fbk page. I just don't care. But it's fine that you do. Just TALK to your employer. Or quit without any consideration to her thought process, to each their own.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 16:12
Subject: Re:NF posted footage of me online
What did you do, OP?
Anonymous
11/13/2017 15:57
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:MB here.
Do you enjoy this job otherwise? Do you have a good working relationship w/ your employers that you want to maintain? How you choose to handle this should be based on your overall satisfaction with the job (IMO). Also, how do you know about the video?
If it's a crummy job and you're planning on leaving then you can take whatever position/attitude you want.
If you saw the video through some transparent, innocent means that is also good. (Versus coming across it by lurking/stalking somehow.)
If you like the job and want to maintain a good relationship, and if you legitimately/innocently saw the video, then you start with something like: "Mary, can we talk about something? Facebook showed me a video of me on my feed the other day - I guess because of some face recognition software or something. So it was video from the nanny cam of the day when Buster took his first steps. I have no problem with the nanny cams, but I do not want my image posted publicly by anyone other than me. Could you please take it down, and edit me out of anything you want to put up in the future? Thanks."
No, no. The relationship has been forever changed because the MB had no regard for OP. THE MB deserves no benefit of the doubt. What she did is despicable.
That's a perfectly fine mindset and opinion - unless OP needs (and maybe even likes) her job. Choosing to stake out the most outraged moral ground simply may not be a good idea for someone who needs a job.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 14:11
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:MB here.
Do you enjoy this job otherwise? Do you have a good working relationship w/ your employers that you want to maintain? How you choose to handle this should be based on your overall satisfaction with the job (IMO). Also, how do you know about the video?
If it's a crummy job and you're planning on leaving then you can take whatever position/attitude you want.
If you saw the video through some transparent, innocent means that is also good. (Versus coming across it by lurking/stalking somehow.)
If you like the job and want to maintain a good relationship, and if you legitimately/innocently saw the video, then you start with something like: "Mary, can we talk about something? Facebook showed me a video of me on my feed the other day - I guess because of some face recognition software or something. So it was video from the nanny cam of the day when Buster took his first steps. I have no problem with the nanny cams, but I do not want my image posted publicly by anyone other than me. Could you please take it down, and edit me out of anything you want to put up in the future? Thanks."
No, no. The relationship has been forever changed because the MB had no regard for OP. THE MB deserves no benefit of the doubt. What she did is despicable.
Anonymous
11/13/2017 10:28
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
MB here.
Do you enjoy this job otherwise? Do you have a good working relationship w/ your employers that you want to maintain? How you choose to handle this should be based on your overall satisfaction with the job (IMO). Also, how do you know about the video?
If it's a crummy job and you're planning on leaving then you can take whatever position/attitude you want.
If you saw the video through some transparent, innocent means that is also good. (Versus coming across it by lurking/stalking somehow.)
If you like the job and want to maintain a good relationship, and if you legitimately/innocently saw the video, then you start with something like: "Mary, can we talk about something? Facebook showed me a video of me on my feed the other day - I guess because of some face recognition software or something. So it was video from the nanny cam of the day when Buster took his first steps. I have no problem with the nanny cams, but I do not want my image posted publicly by anyone other than me. Could you please take it down, and edit me out of anything you want to put up in the future? Thanks."
Do you enjoy this job otherwise? Do you have a good working relationship w/ your employers that you want to maintain? How you choose to handle this should be based on your overall satisfaction with the job (IMO). Also, how do you know about the video?
If it's a crummy job and you're planning on leaving then you can take whatever position/attitude you want.
If you saw the video through some transparent, innocent means that is also good. (Versus coming across it by lurking/stalking somehow.)
If you like the job and want to maintain a good relationship, and if you legitimately/innocently saw the video, then you start with something like: "Mary, can we talk about something? Facebook showed me a video of me on my feed the other day - I guess because of some face recognition software or something. So it was video from the nanny cam of the day when Buster took his first steps. I have no problem with the nanny cams, but I do not want my image posted publicly by anyone other than me. Could you please take it down, and edit me out of anything you want to put up in the future? Thanks."
Anonymous
11/12/2017 19:36
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd discuss this with an attorney.
I'd talk to the employer first and tell her you do not want any image of yourself on line but especially "surveillance" footage!
Why? I agree that this time the nanny owes the parent no consideration.
How would any employer think this is ok?
People are stupid. New parents are blinded by the cuteness of their new baby. And a lot of people don't seem to think anyone would care about being on social media.
Talk before you quit.
Anonymous
11/12/2017 19:32
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd discuss this with an attorney.
I'd talk to the employer first and tell her you do not want any image of yourself on line but especially "surveillance" footage!
Why? I agree that this time the nanny owes the parent no consideration.
How would any employer think this is ok?
Anonymous
11/12/2017 16:14
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd discuss this with an attorney.
I'd talk to the employer first and tell her you do not want any image of yourself on line but especially "surveillance" footage!
Nope. Speak to attorney first and let her know to hat you have done do. She is a cretin posting your photo and you owe her no consideration
Anonymous
11/12/2017 14:33
Subject: NF posted footage of me online
Employer should beg the nanny for forgiveness.