You were certainly rude by saying it the way you said it.

You could have said "I understand you're having a hard time, this must be so difficult. However, hearing all of this about [ex] is putting me in a really uncomfortable place when he shows up to pick up the kids. It may be easier/better if I don't know so much about what's going on."

MB is going through a divorce, ex-husband is having a baby with new girlfriend and wants her to watch the child, and her mom is in ICU. That's a lot of stress, but it doesn't sound like she's about to fire the nanny.

Anonymous wrote:She refused to let you, the nanny, watch her kid when she went to the hospital?

Yeah... I'd start looking for a new job. My guess is she's not gonna keep you much longer.

Start looking for a new job, OP. You are about to be fired.

Anonymous wrote:Ex is within his right to have whom ever he chooses to watch his child on his time. Mom can continue to use you on your day. She isn't going to win a court battle forcing him to use her preferred child care on his time.

She never force the ex to use me on his time.


Currently the arrangement - I watch the child 3 1/2 days a week. The girlfriend watch the child 2 1/2 days a week. Sunday MB stay full time with the child.

The ex suggested instead of paying me why not the child stay with his girlfriend when my MB go to work and MB can pick the child up in the evening. He told MB he cannot afford to pay because the girlfriend is not working and he will have new baby soon.