Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 17:44     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Don't night nanny jobs only last a month or two? This isn't a permanent thing OP. It's a few weeks at the most.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 17:33     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Under that theory OP no new mom should be caring for their child 24/7.

You know because she told you. How long has she had the second job?
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 16:31     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. You are not unreasonable. I'd ask her to drop the second job or I'd find someone else. Your baby deserves the best care and there is no way she can be rested enough to care for your baby after working all night and sleeping maybe 2 hours before working for you.


Have you not read through this thread? Where did you get 2 hours from? You people are clueless.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 16:27     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you actually seen an issue in her care? As a former night nanny, it is tough on your social life, but with that schedule I would be fine. First, I was rarely up the entire night during my overnight shifts. 10-6, I would typically come in, get bottles for the night organized, stay up until feed 1, then there is at least 2 hours until next feed and for that segment I would rest/doze, then after feed 2 I would wash overnight bottles and prep bottle for the day, handle final wakeup and then head out. I would get off at 6, sleep for an hour, shower and show up for a day shift. After my day shift, I would go home and go immediately to bed for my real sleep (e.g., 4-9 pm for your nanny), then wake and change and head to my overnight gig. On weekends I would catch up on sleep and stock up on convenience food (I did a lot of freezer meals since there was not time to cook midweek), then start over.


This is 100% accurate. Night nannies do NOT stay up all night.


False . I had two night nanny job where I was required to stay up for my full 10 hour shift.


Then you are doing it wrong. Ask any professional or agency.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 14:49     Subject: Re:Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
you are wrong for assuming she can't handle having both jobs, based on the schedule you posted she has enough time to sleep between jobs and be a great employee. unless she shows signs that she can't do an effective job for you there is no need to make demands.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 14:45     Subject: Re:Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Is the night nurse job temporary?

I was thinking that maybe the night nurse thing is to help out a family with a newborn baby for the first month or so after baby is born. If that is the situation. then maybe it won't really affect her performance with your family.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 14:44     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you paid her a livable wage she wouldn't need a second job.


Op here. We pay her $25 per hour ( $750 weekly) after taxes, for 30 hours ( 25 she works, and 5 is stipend for commute). We pay for her health insurance and dental, and pay a weekly stipend for commute. We also have told her we would be willing to pay for her gym membership. We provide her with lunch and snacks that she chooses. We specifically chose this package to ensure we didn't deal with this situation. We are more than fine with our nanny getting a second day job for the two days we don't need her. I am just not comfortable having a nanny up all night, than working with us.



Not your call, OP, until her personal life affects her job performance. Until then, you are absolutely in the wrong in asking her to quit. MB here (and an attorney) and you are threatening her.


Actually, a lot of jobs put a "no moonlighting" clause in their contracts, or require employees to get permission to moonlight.
Talk to her, OP. Without getting too emotional, find out exactly what this job entails and how she's ensuring she's rested enough. You might also explain your intent, and ask that she not do this again. Probably, though, she'll just not tell you next time.



Apparently this one did not or it would not be an issue.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 14:39     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you paid her a livable wage she wouldn't need a second job.


Op here. We pay her $25 per hour ( $750 weekly) after taxes, for 30 hours ( 25 she works, and 5 is stipend for commute). We pay for her health insurance and dental, and pay a weekly stipend for commute. We also have told her we would be willing to pay for her gym membership. We provide her with lunch and snacks that she chooses. We specifically chose this package to ensure we didn't deal with this situation. We are more than fine with our nanny getting a second day job for the two days we don't need her. I am just not comfortable having a nanny up all night, than working with us.



Not your call, OP, until her personal life affects her job performance. Until then, you are absolutely in the wrong in asking her to quit. MB here (and an attorney) and you are threatening her.


Actually, a lot of jobs put a "no moonlighting" clause in their contracts, or require employees to get permission to moonlight.
Talk to her, OP. Without getting too emotional, find out exactly what this job entails and how she's ensuring she's rested enough. You might also explain your intent, and ask that she not do this again. Probably, though, she'll just not tell you next time.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 13:54     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you paid her a livable wage she wouldn't need a second job.


Op here. We pay her $25 per hour ( $750 weekly) after taxes, for 30 hours ( 25 she works, and 5 is stipend for commute). We pay for her health insurance and dental, and pay a weekly stipend for commute. We also have told her we would be willing to pay for her gym membership. We provide her with lunch and snacks that she chooses. We specifically chose this package to ensure we didn't deal with this situation. We are more than fine with our nanny getting a second day job for the two days we don't need her. I am just not comfortable having a nanny up all night, than working with us.



Not your call, OP, until her personal life affects her job performance. Until then, you are absolutely in the wrong in asking her to quit. MB here (and an attorney) and you are threatening her.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 13:46     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:If you paid her a livable wage she wouldn't need a second job.


Op here. We pay her $25 per hour ( $750 weekly) after taxes, for 30 hours ( 25 she works, and 5 is stipend for commute). We pay for her health insurance and dental, and pay a weekly stipend for commute. We also have told her we would be willing to pay for her gym membership. We provide her with lunch and snacks that she chooses. We specifically chose this package to ensure we didn't deal with this situation. We are more than fine with our nanny getting a second day job for the two days we don't need her. I am just not comfortable having a nanny up all night, than working with us.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 13:04     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
If you paid her a livable wage she wouldn't need a second job.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 12:37     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Nanny here. You are not unreasonable. I'd ask her to drop the second job or I'd find someone else. Your baby deserves the best care and there is no way she can be rested enough to care for your baby after working all night and sleeping maybe 2 hours before working for you.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 09:53     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Should a new parent get laid off from their daytime job because they might not be well-rested?




If driving or operating heavy machinery is part of their gig, yes.

OP, you need to talk to her. Is she up all night or sleeping, but waking with the baby? If she's sleeping, I don't see the problem. If she's up all night and driving, I would not be ok with that, particularly b/c I wouldn't be around to judge level of impairment.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 09:46     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job
Anonymous wrote:
Should a new parent get laid off from their daytime job because they might not be well-rested?




Yes. New mother's are useless. Fire them all.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 08:04     Subject: Forcing Nanny To Quit Other Job

Should a new parent get laid off from their daytime job because they might not be well-rested?