Anonymous
Post 10/02/2017 09:17     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:You should receive a parting gift, OP, but it is not as certain as a holiday or year end bonus. Some parents do and some parents don't. I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to help a family that didn't bother get me anything on my last day - but that is just me.



+1
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2017 00:08     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
A gift is a personal decision...not an obligation. And might depend on whether the family views you as having let them down or them regretting that you can't meet the new travel duties. So expect nothing but be grateful (as with any gift) if you do receive something, be it monetary or a card from the children. Not everything is governed by the nanny contract. Nor should the lack of a gift preclude you from working with this "very nice" family again if they ask and your circumstances allow.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 09:04     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
You should receive a parting gift, OP, but it is not as certain as a holiday or year end bonus. Some parents do and some parents don't. I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to help a family that didn't bother get me anything on my last day - but that is just me.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 00:18     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, not all nannies receive a "parting gift" but all nannies who leave on good terms should receive a gift on their last day.

So here is mt PSA for parents... As an MB, you should want the nanny to stay in your child's life through the transition to a new nanny or school. You also have a vetted and known babysitter in this nanny and someone you can depend upon in an emergency (when my mother in Chicago needed emergency surgery, our former nanny drove over immediately and stayed with my kids overnight so DH and I could both be with my mom).

Basically - treat the departing nanny brilliantly well as you never know how often you will need her in the future.


We don't need the lecture pp. And many of us may not need or want the level of ongoing relationship you describe.

Great for you, terrific. But different strokes...


I had nannies growing up. Never ever had an interest in them. In my 20's my mom got an occasional phone call from one and I never cared. A nanny is a caretaker when my parents had to work. You are not a parent, you are a temporary caretaker.



NP here and I rarely comment on threads but... I named my daughter after my nanny growing up. I was very close to her and so appreciated her staying in my life after she stopped working for my family. Now that I am a mother, I hope our beloved nanny stays in my children's lives after they stop needing her as well.

"Different strokes" for sure!

And, for the record, I do think a parting gift is in order, OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 00:09     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, not all nannies receive a "parting gift" but all nannies who leave on good terms should receive a gift on their last day.

So here is mt PSA for parents... As an MB, you should want the nanny to stay in your child's life through the transition to a new nanny or school. You also have a vetted and known babysitter in this nanny and someone you can depend upon in an emergency (when my mother in Chicago needed emergency surgery, our former nanny drove over immediately and stayed with my kids overnight so DH and I could both be with my mom).

Basically - treat the departing nanny brilliantly well as you never know how often you will need her in the future.


We don't need the lecture pp. And many of us may not need or want the level of ongoing relationship you describe.

Great for you, terrific. But different strokes...


I had nannies growing up. Never ever had an interest in them. In my 20's my mom got an occasional phone call from one and I never cared. A nanny is a caretaker when my parents had to work. You are not a parent, you are a temporary caretaker.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2017 00:08     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, you quit. You should not expect a gift.


OP did not quit! It was s mutual decision. She should get a parting gift if the family wants her to babysit or fill in occasionally. Don't burn bridges for a foolish economy.


She quit.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2017 23:11     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, not all nannies receive a "parting gift" but all nannies who leave on good terms should receive a gift on their last day.

So here is mt PSA for parents... As an MB, you should want the nanny to stay in your child's life through the transition to a new nanny or school. You also have a vetted and known babysitter in this nanny and someone you can depend upon in an emergency (when my mother in Chicago needed emergency surgery, our former nanny drove over immediately and stayed with my kids overnight so DH and I could both be with my mom).

Basically - treat the departing nanny brilliantly well as you never know how often you will need her in the future.


We don't need the lecture pp. And many of us may not need or want the level of ongoing relationship you describe.

Great for you, terrific. But different strokes...



I actually agree with the first poster. Why burn bridges? Especially with someone whom your kids already know and love?

A gift is appropriate.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2017 19:42     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:No, not all nannies receive a "parting gift" but all nannies who leave on good terms should receive a gift on their last day.

So here is mt PSA for parents... As an MB, you should want the nanny to stay in your child's life through the transition to a new nanny or school. You also have a vetted and known babysitter in this nanny and someone you can depend upon in an emergency (when my mother in Chicago needed emergency surgery, our former nanny drove over immediately and stayed with my kids overnight so DH and I could both be with my mom).

Basically - treat the departing nanny brilliantly well as you never know how often you will need her in the future.


We don't need the lecture pp. And many of us may not need or want the level of ongoing relationship you describe.

Great for you, terrific. But different strokes...
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2017 11:36     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
No, not all nannies receive a "parting gift" but all nannies who leave on good terms should receive a gift on their last day.

So here is mt PSA for parents... As an MB, you should want the nanny to stay in your child's life through the transition to a new nanny or school. You also have a vetted and known babysitter in this nanny and someone you can depend upon in an emergency (when my mother in Chicago needed emergency surgery, our former nanny drove over immediately and stayed with my kids overnight so DH and I could both be with my mom).

Basically - treat the departing nanny brilliantly well as you never know how often you will need her in the future.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 18:11     Subject: Re:Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
You should get your annual/holiday bonus on your last day with a small gift - like a framed picture of your charges. That is only fair.

-MB here.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 16:06     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
You shouldn't,expect anything. But when I left my nanny job she gave me a couple of hundred extra also some maternity and baby clothes.( obviously I left because I was starting my own family)
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 15:23     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:No, you quit. You should not expect a gift.


OP did not quit! It was s mutual decision. She should get a parting gift if the family wants her to babysit or fill in occasionally. Don't burn bridges for a foolish economy.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 14:11     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
No, you quit. You should not expect a gift.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 14:00     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:I think it's pathetic that you're trying to decide NOW whether you should or shouldn't hold a grudge/be offended LATER depending on whether your employers give you a GIFT you are not at all entitled to.

Your level of pettiness astounds me.


Whatever.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2017 13:19     Subject: Do all nannies receive a "parting gift"?
Anonymous wrote:I think it's pathetic that you're trying to decide NOW whether you should or shouldn't hold a grudge/be offended LATER depending on whether your employers give you a GIFT you are not at all entitled to.

Your level of pettiness astounds me.


This did seem a little weird to me, too.

And the latest details tell me that it is even less likely, since they tried to figure out some way for her to stay on. They almost definitely see this as her being happy to be done earlier than planned, since she doesn't need to work anyway.

OP, they sound like good people, and if they can afford a travel nanny, they are not struggling for the cash to pay her. I think you will get something. I would not expect two-weeks' pay.