OP, time to move on

The only families that never wished me a happy birthday were the families that didn't respect me as a nanny and only saw me as an employer. I have learned to let it go. That hurts, yes, but you're less disapointed when you don't expect anything.

OP, grow up please and stop whining. She does not have to acknowledge it even if she otherwise likes you. You do not have to acknowledge hers, either. It also sounds sick to be with the same family for 5-6 rs, don't you want change? You sound boring, Op

Hi I know how your feeling I am a nanny and been working for them for 4 years now and every year they get me cupcakes and sing happy birthday first birthday they gave me cash + cupcakes 2nd year I got cupcakes that’s it (still appreciated I didn’t expect much) 3rd year I got cupcakes + a little cash this year they didn’t acknowledge ALL. When I started my boss had said you’ll be off on your birthdays Paid and he did kept his work but for some reason not this year I came into work it was a Dino day stayed inside with baby girl she’s 18 months had a rough day and he asked if i brought lunch I said no and he offered to Uber eats and I said sure so he ordered some food but with out acknowledging my bday and I am not complaining but it feels horrible when someone does something consistently then boom they stop like say something communicate with us and say “hey I don’t like you doing this, I don’t like you doing that” you did this me we didn’t like it or this is bothering us” or “hey we are going thru difficult times this year happy birthday” and hey I appreciate your honesty I love communication my brain just functions more when there’s communication. To be honest I might have a clue why they didn’t acknowledge my bday this year so I am not really hurt about it but it did make me feel a little off just for that day but I moved on right after. I am the type that don’t like getting taken advantage off so I speak up obviously in the most kindest mane-rabble way but to me they seemed very resentful so that might be the reason why.

Maybe there is marriage problems or something big going on that you don't know about. Still weird but if everything is as normal as it ever was, I would try and carry on as normal and just be very professional with her.

OP, I will tell you that this would be a pretty ridiculous way to let your employee know that she was going to be fired. Usually, you could expect things like conversations about your job performance, etc. Not ignoring a birthday.

Op again- Thanks for all the replies. She's acting totally normal and talking about the plans for the summer, so it doesn't feel like I'm getting fired. Still hurt, but going to let it go. I know it said I was going to stop doing extras, but the extras benefit the kids so I don't want to do anything that would take away from them. My Boss isn't usually so thoughtless but oh well. Thanks everyone for replying!

Give MB the benefit of the doubt that she forgot or is embarassed she didn't get you anything. I would feel the same way after so many years. Hang in there. This is probably not about you and more about her dropping the ball.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- Thanks everyone. I'm not going to say anything, I think that would just make things even weirder, I'm just very sad because I have no idea what I could have done. I go above and beyond, never call in sick or come late and I'll drop everything to help with the boys on my day off. Even if she's upset with me I don't get this. I'm not asking for s card or a gift, but just to ignore my bday? Not even say happy bday? I know the kids have talked to her about it several times because they're both old enough to IM me when I'm off and told me they asked their mom if we could make a cake etc. It will be 6 years in September and I really didn't think it would ever come to this.

I REALLY think you're overthinking things. Nothing came to anything. She was busy or stressed and couldn't deal with doing something for her nanny's birthday. Maybe you place more importance on the day than she does. Let it go. Stop assuming her lack of celebration means something about your work.

Agree, since she's acting normal.

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my family for almost 5 years. In previous years. Boss always said happy birthday, gave me a card and a gift. It was my birthday two weeks ago and she knew it because the kids were talking about it. Not even a happy birthday? Yes I'm an employeee blah blah blah but this feels weird. Maybe I'm getting fired? There's no question she knew because the kids told her the day of and also several times coming up to the day. I don't care about not getting a gift (usually it's quite an expensive gift $500+) but not even acknowledging my bday? We always go all out for the parents bday and mine so this feels weird and now I'm worried.

I would not worry. MB might have been distracted with personal or work stuff in her life.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- Thanks everyone. I'm not going to say anything, I think that would just make things even weirder, I'm just very sad because I have no idea what I could have done. I go above and beyond, never call in sick or come late and I'll drop everything to help with the boys on my day off. Even if she's upset with me I don't get this. I'm not asking for s card or a gift, but just to ignore my bday? Not even say happy bday? I know the kids have talked to her about it several times because they're both old enough to IM me when I'm off and told me they asked their mom if we could make a cake etc. It will be 6 years in September and I really didn't think it would ever come to this.

No good deed goes unpunished or appreciated. Your MB is inconsiderate. If I were you, I would best her to the draw, find a new job and give two weeks notice. After six years of stellar employment and she treats you so shabbily. Inexcusable.