Anonymous wrote:Do people pay extra when your child has a play date (serious question since mine is only 18 months and not having play dates). If your five year old wants a play date with a friend, do you pay the nanny more to watch two kids?

I don't disagree with paying the nanny for the time in this situation but if the kid is older (5-8) and your kid is a similar age, seems more like a play date (hence the question above). Other kid is 10 months, clearly not a playdate

If I arrange a playdate, it's either a trial (so that I know if it's workable for future) or ongoing (in which case, I know how much work is involved). I don't do playdates that the parents set up, they do them. The only time I am willing to do a playdate that they set up is when we've been trying to find a date with whom we used to do playdates, and the nanny or parent talked to my employer rather than me. Otherwise, nope, set it up and supervise yourself.

I'm not averse to watching kids for my employers' friends and family, but I reserve the following rights: I am not obligated until I agree; unless it's an emergency, I will meet the kid(s) and parent(s) first; I will be paid at a rate I set (no negotiation, based on meeting them); I will use the same discipline and rules with all of the children.

Anonymous wrote:Do people pay extra when your child has a play date (serious question since mine is only 18 months and not having play dates). If your five year old wants a play date with a friend, do you pay the nanny more to watch two kids?

I don't disagree with paying the nanny for the time in this situation but if the kid is older (5-8) and your kid is a similar age, seems more like a play date (hence the question above). Other kid is 10 months, clearly not a playdate

Nanny here. In my opinion, it depends. 3 hour playdate once a week or less often, no charge, More often than that and I would want to talk about getting paid extra.

Well, yes, nanny should be paid more as 1. She has more responsibility and 2. In my case, when my school aged charge has a friend round, they go off by themselves for a few minutes but most of the time they are with me and I am playing lego with them, supervising them in the activity area nearby my charges house or having dinner with them.

Do people pay extra when your child has a play date (serious question since mine is only 18 months and not having play dates). If your five year old wants a play date with a friend, do you pay the nanny more to watch two kids?

I don't disagree with paying the nanny for the time in this situation but if the kid is older (5-8) and your kid is a similar age, seems more like a play date (hence the question above). Other kid is 10 months, clearly not a playdate

Anonymous wrote:It's not okay to volunteer or just assume she will do it. You need to ask, and she'll most likely say it's fine. My MB has done this once with a friend of hers who didn't have care for her baby that day. The other mom offered me $100 for the day, so I was happy.

The big thing to remember is that you don't own your nanny and can't loan her to others without asking her first. Ask your nanny if she'd be willing to take on an extra kid for the day, then give her the other moms info so they can discuss rates.

This. Simply ask her.