Anonymous
04/19/2017 15:56
Subject: Difficult PTO request
I don't think this is a troll, since the post is so reasonable in tone... but it's such an unreasonable question, it's hard to know. Nanny gets to choose what we she wants to vacation. It's a bonus that she has a very good reason for her choice, objectively-speaking, but even if she didn't... It's her choice. She gets one single week all year and this is how she wants to spend it. How could you even think about saying no?
Anonymous
04/19/2017 15:13
Subject: Re:Difficult PTO request
Mb here. Nanny gets to pick the week.
If it were me, DH and I would split up the week so one of us could be home with DC as needed.
The only alternative I could see is offering an extra paid week off if she can change her selected dates
If it were me, DH and I would split up the week so one of us could be home with DC as needed.
The only alternative I could see is offering an extra paid week off if she can change her selected dates
Anonymous
04/19/2017 13:47
Subject: Difficult PTO request
Op don't you think it's more fitting for you to be a part of the transition and first week of school for your child than your nanny? This is plenty of notice. She may look for another position if you say no. Take off and be there for YOUR child yourself.
Anonymous
04/19/2017 08:31
Subject: Difficult PTO request
OP, I am sorry you are being ragged on. It is totally understandable that you would want your son to have a smooth transition to preschool and I think it's lovely that you understand and value the importance of your nanny in his life. And using a week of your own probably limited time off to handle that week yourself may not be plausible for you. I get that.
That said, you have to realize that this isn't something you can say no to easily. Sounds like this is her chance to see a close family member and that it's a rate opportunity for her and she has given you plenty of time to get creative with solutions.
You could enroll DC in a few weeks of camp so that that week isn't such a big transition. You could start him at school for the first 2 days (with you home to guide him) and have him stay home with a backup nanny the latter 3 days. You could delay his start at school to a different week. You could take the whole week off to help him transition. You could introduce a new sitter now by having her watch him every other week for a date night so that you and he feel comfortable with someone new for that week.
The good news is that even if you had to stick him with a complete stranger on the same week he starts preschool, he will likely be just fine! The transition to school seems so huge to you right now but most kids adjust within a month and a year into it, even a really rocky start just feels like a blip on the radar. So let your nanny go as she requested, do your best to find successful workarounds and know that it will all be fine. Really.
That said, you have to realize that this isn't something you can say no to easily. Sounds like this is her chance to see a close family member and that it's a rate opportunity for her and she has given you plenty of time to get creative with solutions.
You could enroll DC in a few weeks of camp so that that week isn't such a big transition. You could start him at school for the first 2 days (with you home to guide him) and have him stay home with a backup nanny the latter 3 days. You could delay his start at school to a different week. You could take the whole week off to help him transition. You could introduce a new sitter now by having her watch him every other week for a date night so that you and he feel comfortable with someone new for that week.
The good news is that even if you had to stick him with a complete stranger on the same week he starts preschool, he will likely be just fine! The transition to school seems so huge to you right now but most kids adjust within a month and a year into it, even a really rocky start just feels like a blip on the radar. So let your nanny go as she requested, do your best to find successful workarounds and know that it will all be fine. Really.