Anonymous wrote:Op here. I followed up with them through email. They told me they have been super busy and appreciate my patience, but that they still haven't made a decision. They want someone to start in early May, so I would like to know soon. I think it's kind of rude of them and am reconsidering the position.

It's not rude. From the time I started interviewing until we hired someone (as in, they signed a contract) it was five weeks. In that time period DH and I considered me quitting my job, we traveled across the country to see a sick relative, then traveled back a second time when he died, we bought a house, etc

I think they've extended an offer to someone else, and they're waiting to hear from her, or they're hoping a daycare spot opens up, or something. It's possible they just haven't made a decision, but that sounds more like an excuse to me so that you won't know that you weren't the first choice.

Anonymous wrote:"super busy" is nothing more than "I am a self-centered and entitled jerk and I'll treat you like 'the Help'."

OP, it is mid-April and they want someone to start by May 1. They have interviewed several candidates and should be able to choose. They do not know what they want and they will be horrible employers. Keep looking and good luck.

This. 100% this.

"super busy" is nothing more than "I am a self-centered and entitled jerk and I'll treat you like 'the Help'."

OP, it is mid-April and they want someone to start by May 1. They have interviewed several candidates and should be able to choose. They do not know what they want and they will be horrible employers. Keep looking and good luck.

Anonymous wrote:I had an interview last week, and I thought it went wonderful. I felt we really hit it off and had the type of chemistry I look for in MBs and DBs. They were quite impressed with my experience and qualifications as well. I have not heard from them since the interview. From your experience, does this mean you will probably not get the job?

No contact 3 days, move on.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I followed up with them through email. They told me they have been super busy and appreciate my patience, but that they still haven't made a decision. They want someone to start in early May, so I would like to know soon. I think it's kind of rude of them and am reconsidering the position.

Move on, OP. I personally loathe the "super busy" cliche from young parents. Hopefully the nanny they offer the job to will be "super busy" and not decline their offer for over a week.

They are showing you who they are and will be as employers - believe them and find another job.

All the best to you, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I followed up with them through email. They told me they have been super busy and appreciate my patience, but that they still haven't made a decision. They want someone to start in early May, so I would like to know soon. I think it's kind of rude of them and am reconsidering the position.

I don't think they're rude. You're free to decline their offer, if it comes. Did you thank them after the interview? I'm kind of a stickler for that. -MB

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I followed up with them through email. They told me they have been super busy and appreciate my patience, but that they still haven't made a decision. They want someone to start in early May, so I would like to know soon. I think it's kind of rude of them and am reconsidering the position.

I think so too OP!!
Keep interviewing & I wish you the best in your search.

Op here. I followed up with them through email. They told me they have been super busy and appreciate my patience, but that they still haven't made a decision. They want someone to start in early May, so I would like to know soon. I think it's kind of rude of them and am reconsidering the position.

Please keep us posted, OP. Did you follow up and did you get an offer?

In most of my Nanny positions, I have usually heard back within 2-3 days.

Reason being is that when a prospective family meets someone they really like, they know it.

And they want to snatch her up before another family does.
So they will make sure to check references & background quickly in order to make a job offer since they know she is currently interviewing w/other families.

I find it rude if this family hasn't given you a general time frame for when they will make their final decision.
If they don't mention it, I always make sure to inquire + they always understand why.

If this family never gets back to you either way, then they are a family you wouldn't want to work for anyway.

In the meantime do not keep all of your eggs in one basket.

Keep interviewing....Good luck!

I've never had a hiring family who didn't follow up pretty much immediately. Maybe not 24 hours, but max 48. My references all fall over themselves to help me in job searches so even the ones who are otherwise difficult to get ahold of will call back immediately for that, so I am lucky in that a 24-hour turnaround on a reference check for me is totally plausible. I follow up immediately (like as soon as I get home from the interview) via email. If I didn't love them I just say "Thank you so much for your time. It was lovely to meet your beautiful child/baby/children, after further consideration, I don't think I will be the best fit for your family, but I wish you the very best in finding the perfect nanny for you!" If I plan to take the job I say, "Thank you so much for welcoming me into your home. It was lovely to meet little Larla, and I can't wait to take her to the Zoo/teach you that swaddle technique/show them that card game as we discussed." I wish you luck in finding the perfect nanny for you. Please let me know if you need any further info from me in making that decision."

I once had a call back 3 months after a great interview. The family was just not ready yet for a new nanny as they still had one. From first interview to start date it took 5 months.