Anonymous wrote:How many activities such as soccer, baseball and basketball games do you nannies attend of your charges each season ? My charges are both doing baseball and soccer this season. Going to every game would really tie up my weekends and my relaxation time. How many games are appropriate? I was thinking 1 each which would end up being 4 this season. Does that seem fair ?

Zero. You have no reason to mess up your week to watch them play. This is what their lazy parents are supposed to do

I aim for two game from their favorite sport each season. I enjoy watching them, but I would be busy every weekend if I didn't limit it. I also just do their favorite sport generally since they also play on some teams mostly just to be with friends.

I generally go to a couple games per kid (current charge and former charges). And dance recitals and birthday parties. It means so much to the kids.

None. If they aren’t during my working hours i do not attend

1 per season

Anonymous wrote:How many activities such as soccer, baseball and basketball games do you nannies attend of your charges each season ? My charges are both doing baseball and soccer this season. Going to every game would really tie up my weekends and my relaxation time. How many games are appropriate? I was thinking 1 each which would end up being 4 this season. Does that seem fair ?

Since I take him to all his practices during the week, I like going to the games on Saturdays. My schedule usually lets me attend every other game. It’s not an imposition and it’s something I like to do that means a lot to him.

To OP, I think one or two games per child sounds fine.

And what's wrong? You have a great nanny. Interested in children and sports. This is wonderful.

I would maybe do one if my charge was really excited about the sport and if I had a close relationship with the family. I was say something to MB before showing up.

Anonymous wrote:I tell my children it's not appropriate for them to ask my nanny to attend their events on her day off. That doesn't seem nice to me, to the nanny. She isn't working so she isn't required to be with my family.

She does seem the practice sports and instruments, of course, since she is home with the kids a lot.

It's not nice to invite someone with the understanding that they may not be able (or willing) to come? I'm invited to every single event, whether I'm working or not, and it's up to me whether I attend or not.

I tell my children it's not appropriate for them to ask my nanny to attend their events on her day off. That doesn't seem nice to me, to the nanny. She isn't working so she isn't required to be with my family.

She does seem the practice sports and instruments, of course, since she is home with the kids a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you take them to practices? If so, one each per season is plenty. To the MB, we aren't talking about what the parents require but about the relationship with the kids. Whether or not you care about the nanny, she may be important to your kids and they may value having her present in their lives beyond the scope of a paycheck.

If the nanny I employed showed up at my kids' events uninvited and outside of their working hours that would be weird and uncomfortable. I care about our childrens' nanny, and it's unclear why you extrapolated otherwise.

Sure you care about her in that you want her to be happy as long as she's not too close to you kids. With whom she spends her days. Yep. That seems possible.

Even my former charges still occasionally invite me to their events. Why on Earth would it be uncomfortable? If you are THAT uncomfortable spending time with you children's caregiver in an unpaid capacity, then you need a new nanny (because you don't get along with the current one) or you need to stay home (because you don't understand and value the role of a nanny).

I'm not going to stay home and we plan to keep our nanny as long as we can. Zero intention of getting anyone else. Look at the live-ins who said they were asked to attend games and don't want to go - I won't have my kids imposing that way on other people. If they're in a sports game every single weekend, that's not special. If they made it to state championships or something, that would be different. But even then, I wouldn't let the kids invite the nanny and if they did, I'd immediately explain a possible out so they didn't feel obligated. I don't want the kids' nanny to burn out.

Uh-huh. You said that having your nanny there would be "weird and uncomfortable" because you care about HER. Checks out.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you take them to practices? If so, one each per season is plenty. To the MB, we aren't talking about what the parents require but about the relationship with the kids. Whether or not you care about the nanny, she may be important to your kids and they may value having her present in their lives beyond the scope of a paycheck.

If the nanny I employed showed up at my kids' events uninvited and outside of their working hours that would be weird and uncomfortable. I care about our childrens' nanny, and it's unclear why you extrapolated otherwise.

Sure you care about her in that you want her to be happy as long as she's not too close to you kids. With whom she spends her days. Yep. That seems possible.

Even my former charges still occasionally invite me to their events. Why on Earth would it be uncomfortable? If you are THAT uncomfortable spending time with you children's caregiver in an unpaid capacity, then you need a new nanny (because you don't get along with the current one) or you need to stay home (because you don't understand and value the role of a nanny).

I'm not going to stay home and we plan to keep our nanny as long as we can. Zero intention of getting anyone else. Look at the live-ins who said they were asked to attend games and don't want to go - I won't have my kids imposing that way on other people. If they're in a sports game every single weekend, that's not special. If they made it to state championships or something, that would be different. But even then, I wouldn't let the kids invite the nanny and if they did, I'd immediately explain a possible out so they didn't feel obligated. I don't want the kids' nanny to burn out.

18.56 again. Actually, I said I'm not sure what I'm going to do, not that I don't want to go. For the record, my oldest charge is only 7, so state championships aren't on the table yet.

I'd never go to a charges game on my own free will, unless it were scheduled work time (parents were away that weekend, etc.) and I was getting paid. I'm sure I sound absolutely evil- but I just don't care to hang out with my nanny family outside work hours. I am already devoting 40+ hours/week with these kids, and though I care deeply for them, my favorite part of my week is Friday afternoon when I finally get a break. They're great people, but it's work. No matter how much you love your job, your off time is OFF time, and I don't want to even think about work during that time, much less spend a few hours of my weekend watching a kids little league (or whatever sport) game. And I'd be put off if an MB asked me to. Nope. No way. It's unrealistic to ask your nanny to not only devote her entire weekdays to you, but also part of her weekends.

I have a second job on the weekends so going to Saturday games is off the table for me but I will make it to a couple after hours (6PM) games a season. It means a lot to my charge that I go. I have no clue if my MB thinks it's weird or not - and frankly I don't care.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you take them to practices? If so, one each per season is plenty. To the MB, we aren't talking about what the parents require but about the relationship with the kids. Whether or not you care about the nanny, she may be important to your kids and they may value having her present in their lives beyond the scope of a paycheck.

If the nanny I employed showed up at my kids' events uninvited and outside of their working hours that would be weird and uncomfortable. I care about our childrens' nanny, and it's unclear why you extrapolated otherwise.

Sure you care about her in that you want her to be happy as long as she's not too close to you kids. With whom she spends her days. Yep. That seems possible.

Even my former charges still occasionally invite me to their events. Why on Earth would it be uncomfortable? If you are THAT uncomfortable spending time with you children's caregiver in an unpaid capacity, then you need a new nanny (because you don't get along with the current one) or you need to stay home (because you don't understand and value the role of a nanny).

I'm not going to stay home and we plan to keep our nanny as long as we can. Zero intention of getting anyone else. Look at the live-ins who said they were asked to attend games and don't want to go - I won't have my kids imposing that way on other people. If they're in a sports game every single weekend, that's not special. If they made it to state championships or something, that would be different. But even then, I wouldn't let the kids invite the nanny and if they did, I'd immediately explain a possible out so they didn't feel obligated. I don't want the kids' nanny to burn out.