Anonymous
03/29/2017 15:21
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
I ate Taco Bell drive through yesterday while my charge ate her snack. I was hungry, not sorry!
Anonymous
03/29/2017 14:02
Subject: Re:Nanny eating around kid
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Thanks for responses so far. As to the petty cash, the nanny has expressed some frustration at how difficult DD can be with eating (although she has gotten much better the past month, hopefully, it was just a phase) and I suggested the petty cash could be used to buy DD something to eat to add variety to nanny's repertoire, but still healthy. It didn't occur to me that while she's making healthy choices for DD, she would be choosing a doughnut for herself.
DD at this age knows what junk food is and is really, really interested in it. I just don't think it's a good idea for her primary caregivers to eat it around her, while expecting her to eat healthy food, on a regular basis, whether it's behind her back or not. There isn't anything we eat or drink (around her, anyway) that is off limits to her. I would never eat a cupcake, or anything, for that matter, in front of her and tell her she couldn't have some because it's for mommy or whatever reason. Even if it's something I know she won't like (e.g., spicy food), she's welcome to try it! I am not anal-retentive about junk and let her have an occasional treat, but am trying to teach her it is something we have in small quantities and likewise we savor.
As a FTM, this issue didn't occur to me so I didn't ask about it during the interview. I did get the overall impression that the nanny was into healthy living based on our conversations, and wouldn't ask her to not eat junk in front of DD if I thought it meant a radical change to her lifestyle. If she protested, saying she has to have a mid-afternoon snack of cookie or whatever to keep her going, I guess I would have to let it go.
You have mental issues. Your kid is going to eat tons of sweets in her life probably and become obese because of the hyper focus on food from you. you sound neurotic and need a therapist.
Anonymous
03/28/2017 21:50
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
Just stay home with your kid, seriously
Anonymous
03/28/2017 15:50
Subject: Re:Nanny eating around kid
This is OP. Thanks for responses so far. As to the petty cash, the nanny has expressed some frustration at how difficult DD can be with eating (although she has gotten much better the past month, hopefully, it was just a phase) and I suggested the petty cash could be used to buy DD something to eat to add variety to nanny's repertoire, but still healthy. It didn't occur to me that while she's making healthy choices for DD, she would be choosing a doughnut for herself.
DD at this age knows what junk food is and is really, really interested in it. I just don't think it's a good idea for her primary caregivers to eat it around her, while expecting her to eat healthy food, on a regular basis, whether it's behind her back or not. There isn't anything we eat or drink (around her, anyway) that is off limits to her. I would never eat a cupcake, or anything, for that matter, in front of her and tell her she couldn't have some because it's for mommy or whatever reason. Even if it's something I know she won't like (e.g., spicy food), she's welcome to try it! I am not anal-retentive about junk and let her have an occasional treat, but am trying to teach her it is something we have in small quantities and likewise we savor.
As a FTM, this issue didn't occur to me so I didn't ask about it during the interview. I did get the overall impression that the nanny was into healthy living based on our conversations, and wouldn't ask her to not eat junk in front of DD if I thought it meant a radical change to her lifestyle. If she protested, saying she has to have a mid-afternoon snack of cookie or whatever to keep her going, I guess I would have to let it go.
DD at this age knows what junk food is and is really, really interested in it. I just don't think it's a good idea for her primary caregivers to eat it around her, while expecting her to eat healthy food, on a regular basis, whether it's behind her back or not. There isn't anything we eat or drink (around her, anyway) that is off limits to her. I would never eat a cupcake, or anything, for that matter, in front of her and tell her she couldn't have some because it's for mommy or whatever reason. Even if it's something I know she won't like (e.g., spicy food), she's welcome to try it! I am not anal-retentive about junk and let her have an occasional treat, but am trying to teach her it is something we have in small quantities and likewise we savor.
As a FTM, this issue didn't occur to me so I didn't ask about it during the interview. I did get the overall impression that the nanny was into healthy living based on our conversations, and wouldn't ask her to not eat junk in front of DD if I thought it meant a radical change to her lifestyle. If she protested, saying she has to have a mid-afternoon snack of cookie or whatever to keep her going, I guess I would have to let it go.
Anonymous
03/28/2017 14:13
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
This has to be a troll post.
Anonymous
03/28/2017 12:41
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
I hope she feeds your kid donuts and cupcakes behind your back.
Anonymous
03/28/2017 03:48
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
I think you should have specifically addressed this before hiring her.
It's completely wrong to expect her to change her eating patterns at this point.
I was once hired as a Nanny & was told to bring a lunch from home every day upon hire.
No issue for me about that.
The Mother worked from home and would critique my lunches which I thought was out of line.
I would eat a lunchmeat sandwich, an apple or banana then some potato chips + a boxed juice.
She would say how great organic food was and that I should also be following a strictly organic diet too.
I told her I couldn't afford to (based on my Nanny salary, etc.)
Once I left a bag of potato chips on the kitchen counter and somehow they went missing during the day...??!
She never offered to provide my lunch or even eat any of their food plus my food choices were never brought up upon hire.
So I left.
Effective immediately.
Since then, no Nanny family has tried to micromanage my food choices.
If they did, I would walk.
It's completely wrong to expect her to change her eating patterns at this point.
I was once hired as a Nanny & was told to bring a lunch from home every day upon hire.
No issue for me about that.
The Mother worked from home and would critique my lunches which I thought was out of line.
I would eat a lunchmeat sandwich, an apple or banana then some potato chips + a boxed juice.
She would say how great organic food was and that I should also be following a strictly organic diet too.
I told her I couldn't afford to (based on my Nanny salary, etc.)
Once I left a bag of potato chips on the kitchen counter and somehow they went missing during the day...??!
She never offered to provide my lunch or even eat any of their food plus my food choices were never brought up upon hire.
So I left.
Effective immediately.
Since then, no Nanny family has tried to micromanage my food choices.
If they did, I would walk.
Anonymous
03/27/2017 22:59
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
Anonymous wrote:OP, modeling a healthy diet and lifestyle is a totally valid thing to look for in a nanny. But it has to be a quality she ALREADY possesses. If you hire the kind of nanny who regularly eats junk food, then you can't later try to manage what she eats while your kid is awake. That's too much. You need to decide whether this one issue is worth finding a new nanny over. If you either feel super strongly about this or you have other issues as well, then address this in the interview stage next time. "How do you feel about being a role model for your charges? What steps do you take to be a good example?" "What is your philosophy on food?" And for what it's worth, I am an overweight nanny who takes my charges hiking and outdoors in all weather and feeds them 100% from scratch, whole grain, minimal sugar, etc. So don't bank on the athletic-looking girl to automatically be good in this area.
This! Someone that doesn't understand that treats need to be very occasional, and still healthy, is not going to be able to keep up the modeling you want lkng-term. You have to decide whether this is a major issue, and if so, let her know.
Did you imply to the nanny that she and your daughter would both get a treat while out? Why would she pack for herself and then stop and buy for the child? On the other hand, it's your money, I do think you have tge right to expect her to follow your guidelines when she spends your money. But I'm a live-in nanny who has no issues with employers who agree to pay for any and all groceries I want, as long as they are healthy.
Anonymous
03/27/2017 20:55
Subject: Nanny eating around kid
Is she she smoking around your child? Is she leaving your child in a hot car? Is she swearing around your child? Is she abusing or neglecting your child? NO- She's enjoying a freakin doughnut! Give me a break. You sound INSANE.