Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Require it and make a daily plan of where she should go.

Manage her.

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Right. Treat her as though she is an idiot. Manage her and see how fast she finds another position.

Some nannies, especially those less experienced or less proactive, need and sometimes even want a daily plan. Particularly in the beginning.

Anonymous wrote:Require it and make a daily plan of where she should go.

Manage her.

Y
Right. Treat her as though she is an idiot. Manage her and see how fast she finds another position.

Thanks all for the suggestions! I'm going to bring it up today...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do I say that without sounding pushy? No, most days the weather has been fine. Chilly but not freezing. And they all have coats/hats/gloves etc.

"Today please take Larlo and Larli to the playground two blocks away, and let Larlo run around and play for at least two hours. After his nap is ideal."

Then when it goes well, tell her "There's another playground one block away in the opposite direction. Please take Larlo and Larli to check it out tomorrow. Larlo needs to be outside playing there for at least an hour."

Then tell her, "I've made a basket of toys for Larlo to play with in the yard and put a blanket in there for Larli. I want the kids to spend at LEAST an hour outside each day with you."

You are going to have to say something at least this direct. Your nanny doesn't really sound very good.

What are you paying her? Contrary to what you might think, when you hire a nanny, the less you pay, the more you are going to have to micromanage. You may think that if you aren't paying much, you can offer a lot of freedom and be very kind in return, and if you pay more, then you can be more demanding about how she spends her days (be more pushy). But it is the opposite. If you aren't paying much, you are probably hiring someone who either isn't very bright or doesn't have a lot of experience, and you are going to have to manage more of her day (telling her where to go, what to feed Larlo, nap schedules, how to potty train, etc.). On the other hand, if you want to be relatively hands off and leave these decisions up to your nanny, then you are going to need to pay more to find someone with a lot of experience who can think on her feet.