Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 15:09     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound like a dream MB. Not.
Do tell me how your nannys personal life has anything to do with jer abilities as a nanny? Also, it's very different caring for kids who are not your own. Yes, you do the best job for YOUR child but could you be as great with someone elses?

Your nanny deserves better.


Her personal life has nothing to do with her abilities as a nanny. I thought we were talking about whether I respect her or look up to her as a person. And honestly, she never tries to excel at anything, she never does anything difficult either at work or in her personal life, and I have never seen her stand up for her values. But like I said, she is a nice person, and she loves on my kids.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but people don't respect and admire you just for being you. You have to do something.



I do not know what you have done but from your posts, I definitely do not have any respect for you.


+1 She sounds like a shitty mom.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 13:48     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
But you DO question your nannys life and the activities she enjoys so yes, you are judging her as you said your past nanny had a social life which you approved of more. Unless it has a negative impact on your children than it is none of your business and does not impact on her abilities as a nanny either.
She certainly deserves better than you as a boss.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 12:07     Subject: Re:Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
My employers respect what I do, and they are grateful because they know they couldn't have the lives they have without competent help.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 11:04     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound like a dream MB. Not.
Do tell me how your nannys personal life has anything to do with jer abilities as a nanny? Also, it's very different caring for kids who are not your own. Yes, you do the best job for YOUR child but could you be as great with someone elses?

Your nanny deserves better.


Her personal life has nothing to do with her abilities as a nanny. I thought we were talking about whether I respect her or look up to her as a person. And honestly, she never tries to excel at anything, she never does anything difficult either at work or in her personal life, and I have never seen her stand up for her values. But like I said, she is a nice person, and she loves on my kids.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but people don't respect and admire you just for being you. You have to do something.



I do not know what you have done but from your posts, I definitely do not have any respect for you.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 11:03     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, what your telling your kids is that being a
parent isn't full filling, correct?


Professionally fulfilling? Obviously not. A parent is only part of who I am. I am professionally trained, with a rich professional life.


Which appears to be the crowning glory of your life. Obviously, your children are "accessory"children. I am happy that you job gives you so much joy because your children already know that they are not the number one priority of your life. I am not a nanny but my children, DH, and a happy home are the no. 1 priorities of my life.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 09:41     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
i admire a persons integrity and work ethic, it doesn't matter
that they don't win a nobel award.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2017 07:47     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound like a dream MB. Not.
Do tell me how your nannys personal life has anything to do with jer abilities as a nanny? Also, it's very different caring for kids who are not your own. Yes, you do the best job for YOUR child but could you be as great with someone elses?

Your nanny deserves better.


Her personal life has nothing to do with her abilities as a nanny. I thought we were talking about whether I respect her or look up to her as a person. And honestly, she never tries to excel at anything, she never does anything difficult either at work or in her personal life, and I have never seen her stand up for her values. But like I said, she is a nice person, and she loves on my kids.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but people don't respect and admire you just for being you. You have to do something.

Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 23:55     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:It's been my personal experience that I get along better with moms who only need a nanny part time. I've put together 2-3 part time jobs for the past several years and I am much happier as a result. I don't worry about moms feeling guilty, or thinking I do a menial job etc.



Yes towards the end of my nannying I did this too. Moms who work part time seemed happier with this setup.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 22:32     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
It's been my personal experience that I get along better with moms who only need a nanny part time. I've put together 2-3 part time jobs for the past several years and I am much happier as a result. I don't worry about moms feeling guilty, or thinking I do a menial job etc.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 19:40     Subject: Re:Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I like my nanny, and I consider us friends, but frankly, her job is literally what I do in my free time. And I do it better. In her free time, she seems to join a lot of clubs, go to a lot of restaurants, and watch a lot of TV, which is great and sounds like fun, but not something I have a ton of respect for.
My previous nanny was a catholic school teacher who had raised 5 children into adulthood. I did actually have a lot of respect for her, but we moved, and I ended up with not a lot of time to search for a new nanny and found someone more run of the mill. She sounds better than a lot of nannies on here though. At least she doesn't refer to my children as "difficult," and she seems to genuinely care about them.


" Her job is what I so in my free time". You mean parenting and raising your child? That is what you should be doing 24/7. Your nanny deserves better.


Just to be clear, that's what I was responding to. The idea that any parent "should be" parenting 24/7. Wrong.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 18:08     Subject: Re:Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:I like my nanny, and I consider us friends, but frankly, her job is literally what I do in my free time. And I do it better. In her free time, she seems to join a lot of clubs, go to a lot of restaurants, and watch a lot of TV, which is great and sounds like fun, but not something I have a ton of respect for.
My previous nanny was a catholic school teacher who had raised 5 children into adulthood. I did actually have a lot of respect for her, but we moved, and I ended up with not a lot of time to search for a new nanny and found someone more run of the mill. She sounds better than a lot of nannies on here though. At least she doesn't refer to my children as "difficult," and she seems to genuinely care about them.


You sound like a real piece of feces. I hope your nanny reads this and finds a new job with someone decent.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 14:53     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, what your telling your kids is that being a
parent isn't full filling, correct?


Professionally fulfilling? Obviously not. A parent is only part of who I am. I am professionally trained, with a rich professional life.


You're not fulfilled. People who are truly happy don't have to bad mouth others. You sound very judgmental and unhappy. I know myself and what I need to feel fulfilled. Right now its being at home with my 1 year old. So far, I'm happy. You come on a NANNY forum to shit on nannies profession. Maybe take a break from shitting on other women because they're not as "important" as you.


+1

OP sounds like she has a terrible boss. Deranged MB responding sounds like she has a bad nanny, and is turning it into a pretty gross diatribe against all nannies and even the concept of being a nanny.

I wouldn't have a nanny I didn't respect, and I hope my nanny would also respect me. We're not going to be the exact same people with the same priorities and strengths, but that doesn't mean that there's no room for respect. I also can't imagine ranting on a message board that SAHP's are "unambitious failure[s]' and then try to get on a high horse about how I'm modeling empathy, generosity and fairness to my children.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 14:45     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, what your telling your kids is that being a
parent isn't full filling, correct?


Professionally fulfilling? Obviously not. A parent is only part of who I am. I am professionally trained, with a rich professional life.


You're not fulfilled. People who are truly happy don't have to bad mouth others. You sound very judgmental and unhappy. I know myself and what I need to feel fulfilled. Right now its being at home with my 1 year old. So far, I'm happy. You come on a NANNY forum to shit on nannies profession. Maybe take a break from shitting on other women because they're not as "important" as you.


No one said anything about being a professional nanny, only about dropping out of one's profession (could include nannying) to stay home.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 13:06     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, what your telling your kids is that being a
parent isn't full filling, correct?


Professionally fulfilling? Obviously not. A parent is only part of who I am. I am professionally trained, with a rich professional life.


You're not fulfilled. People who are truly happy don't have to bad mouth others. You sound very judgmental and unhappy. I know myself and what I need to feel fulfilled. Right now its being at home with my 1 year old. So far, I'm happy. You come on a NANNY forum to shit on nannies profession. Maybe take a break from shitting on other women because they're not as "important" as you.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 08:57     Subject: Anyone else get fed up when MB treats you like a nobody?
Anonymous wrote:PP, what your telling your kids is that being a
parent isn't full filling, correct?


Professionally fulfilling? Obviously not. A parent is only part of who I am. I am professionally trained, with a rich professional life.