I agree with the therapy bit but not the part about falling in love PP.
Your logic just doesn't work there. Many of us fall for the wrong people and you can't control it. If we could, life would be a lot eaiser and less complicated all round.
I do wonder whether OP is confusing the feelings (Feeling emotionally close to MB) with sexual feelings. It can be an intense relationship and maybe can be complicated.

Anonymous wrote:You can love someone without there being any interest on their side you know? Some of these replies are disgusting.
If we all went to therapy as we had feelings for inappropriate people, we would all be there. It is hardly a rare phenomenon and OP isn't acting on it, just venting.

Wow, gotta love DCUM.

Actually, I would say that falling head over heels in love is not the same as having feelings for someone. If you have a little spark of attraction or interest in someone, that is one thing. Falling in love to the point where it is making you miserable that you cannot be with that person requires you to invest a lot of time allowing those feelings to grow and thinking about that person, usually in a very idealized way. On some level, you have chosen to get that invested in somebody who does not care about you/is not interested in the same way. That is a choice, and it is a self-destructive one. The idea that love is just a magical thing that happens to you outside of your control on any level is a very immature one. It is possible that OP was simply thrown because this is the first time she has felt this way towards a woman, and therefore she allowed herself to get more attached than she should have because she didn't realize until later in that process that this was not just a close friendship. But either way, therapy is not a sign that you are crazy. Therapy is getting tools for managing emotions, thought processes, and behaviors that are not in your best interest. OP definitely has some of those right now, and a skilled therapist could help her work through all of that and approach the rest of her love life in a way that makes it more likely for her to be successful in finding a partner who wants her back.

You can love someone without there being any interest on their side you know? Some of these replies are disgusting.
If we all went to therapy as we had feelings for inappropriate people, we would all be there. It is hardly a rare phenomenon and OP isn't acting on it, just venting.

Wow, gotta love DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:I am a NP, but I also suggest therapy and I would say the same if it were DB. You claim to be "in love" with your married boss who has shown no romantic interest in you. There is a major disconnect between your emotions and reality. That alone is enough to spend some time talking to a counselor or therapist about how to make healthier choices going forward. Add in the fact that you are experiencing a new facet of your sexuality and I think you definitely need to figure out how to pursue healthier relationships (with women or men who will actually be available and interested and won't put your livelihood in jeopardy).

Exactly.

Quit.

I am a NP, but I also suggest therapy and I would say the same if it were DB. You claim to be "in love" with your married boss who has shown no romantic interest in you. There is a major disconnect between your emotions and reality. That alone is enough to spend some time talking to a counselor or therapist about how to make healthier choices going forward. Add in the fact that you are experiencing a new facet of your sexuality and I think you definitely need to figure out how to pursue healthier relationships (with women or men who will actually be available and interested and won't put your livelihood in jeopardy).