Anonymous
02/18/2017 22:18
Subject: Nanny Mistake?
Anonymous wrote:My 15 month old does not say words, he hardly babbles. My nanny is a native speaker who reads Rand, but she's super introverted and super quiet. I keep on telling the nanny to talk to the toddler, describe what she is doing, engage him with words. I tell her to read him books. She does for a few min. I work from home and my office is in the open family room. I can hear almost everything unless they are upstairs and shut the door. She hardly speaks to him! After a reminder, she will follow instructions for 1 day. I wonder if I am doing my kid a disservice and should change. In the meantime I send them library storytime once a week so at least he gets 30 min of language exposure. Sigh. No advice, just more that I kind of relate and sympathize.
Nannies tend to be quiet when one of the parents is at home. Maybe she doesn't want to disrupt your job.
Anonymous
02/17/2017 17:03
Subject: Nanny Mistake?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Kids talk when they talk. You can't change that. Early walkers make late talkers and vice versa. Encourage the nanny to talk and read to your child even if it's in her native language. Tell her not to do housekeeping outside of cleaning up messes incurred during the day. If you're still unhappy with the nanny, there is sure to be The One out there somewhere. You'll find her.
Far more important tan actual talking is a child's receptive communication. Does the child understand everything that you tell him/her? And he/she follow two and three step commands (eg "Please bring your dolly over here and put her in her crib with a blanket") A nanny can and should help a child with that.
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+1 Had an early eval for my non talking 19 month old. They said don't worry bc receptive language was fantastic. Sure enough he is chatting in full sentences by 2 years. Definitely don't blame nanny for the language.
I think you should work with her on the nutrition stuff or find a new nanny.
Anonymous
02/16/2017 16:22
Subject: Re:Nanny Mistake?
You don't sound very intelligent.
Anonymous
02/16/2017 14:53
Subject: Nanny Mistake?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
Thank you - Now I see keeping the first nanny for that long was a mistake. And it led to my other mistake of making an occasional sitter full time. She is a lovely lady, my baby loves her and she works hard. However just has no clue about child stimulation/development and nutrition. So I feel like I'm short changing my child?
Btw The old nanny was paid above average in my books because I'm including all the loans and PTO I gave her plus cost of fixing my car which she crashed plus the insane amount of groceries I bought for her.
The mistakes are made.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and managed to find a solution?
LOL you don't have car insurance? You're reaching. Is it a loan or not? If it's a loan you didn't "give" her money to be included in compensation. You bought groceries for her to eat while she's there? Many nanny families do that. You should switch to daycare.
Anonymous
02/15/2017 22:23
Subject: Re:Nanny Mistake?
Sorry, meant to say not really necessary
Anonymous
02/15/2017 22:22
Subject: Re:Nanny Mistake?
I was in a similar situation. My current nanny truly loves my kids and is a kind person and I decided that is most important. I did a little research and soul searching and came to the conclusion that a nanny teacher is really necessary at this age group, emotional connection and attention are more important. I also put my older child in part day preschool and that helps. But I agree with pp who suggested you outline your own criteria and hire for that.
Anonymous
02/09/2017 21:04
Subject: Nanny Mistake?
My 15 month old does not say words, he hardly babbles. My nanny is a native speaker who reads Rand, but she's super introverted and super quiet. I keep on telling the nanny to talk to the toddler, describe what she is doing, engage him with words. I tell her to read him books. She does for a few min. I work from home and my office is in the open family room. I can hear almost everything unless they are upstairs and shut the door. She hardly speaks to him! After a reminder, she will follow instructions for 1 day. I wonder if I am doing my kid a disservice and should change. In the meantime I send them library storytime once a week so at least he gets 30 min of language exposure. Sigh. No advice, just more that I kind of relate and sympathize.
Anonymous
02/08/2017 14:05
Subject: Nanny Mistake?
OP here.
Thank you - Now I see keeping the first nanny for that long was a mistake. And it led to my other mistake of making an occasional sitter full time. She is a lovely lady, my baby loves her and she works hard. However just has no clue about child stimulation/development and nutrition. So I feel like I'm short changing my child?
Btw The old nanny was paid above average in my books because I'm including all the loans and PTO I gave her plus cost of fixing my car which she crashed plus the insane amount of groceries I bought for her.
The mistakes are made.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and managed to find a solution?
Thank you - Now I see keeping the first nanny for that long was a mistake. And it led to my other mistake of making an occasional sitter full time. She is a lovely lady, my baby loves her and she works hard. However just has no clue about child stimulation/development and nutrition. So I feel like I'm short changing my child?
Btw The old nanny was paid above average in my books because I'm including all the loans and PTO I gave her plus cost of fixing my car which she crashed plus the insane amount of groceries I bought for her.
The mistakes are made.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and managed to find a solution?