Anonymous wrote:My MB tells me all the time how lucky she is to have me working for her because she can now do things she's been putting off for months, but it takes away from all the things I've been doing or needing to do. It's actually frustrating to hear.

so don't work and just do personal admin. or work and hire a housekeeper, then give her extensive directions each month on what to do and how to do it. will you feel better then?

A) Watching the kids for 9-10 hours in someone else's house means you can focus.

B) Watching your kids for 9-15 hours a day in your own house, means you often try to do a billion other things at the same time (cook dinner, pay bills, clean this/that, cull clothes, research summer camps, plan a family trip, organize the closets or office, do yardwork, etc. ).


If you are paid to do your nanny job, do your nanny job. Whatever one or both of your employers do with their time is irrelevant to you. If you cannot handle your boss doing personal/household admin while you are paid to care for the children, you need to grow up or get in a different line of business.

I think my MB thinks I have a super easy life. If only she knew how lonely I felt outside of work and how much I wish I had what she did in terms of the family connections and great friends.

My MB tells me all the time how lucky she is to have me working for her because she can now do things she's been putting off for months, but it takes away from all the things I've been doing or needing to do. It's actually frustrating to hear.

Anonymous wrote:I've had several employers tell me how easy I have it... I'm a live-in nanny who spends more time with their children than they do, but they think I have it easier because I'm not the parent. I don't go into my fertility issues, it's not their business, but yes, it's been very hurtful, especially because they spend so much time complaining about their kids to me, and I would give the world to call any one of those kids mine.

I don't think most nanny employers want to admit that you're doing the hard work they'd rather not do.

I've had several employers tell me how easy I have it... I'm a live-in nanny who spends more time with their children than they do, but they think I have it easier because I'm not the parent. I don't go into my fertility issues, it's not their business, but yes, it's been very hurtful, especially because they spend so much time complaining about their kids to me, and I would give the world to call any one of those kids mine.

I don't read any of this the same. Sometimes, people tell you how much they envy what you have to be polite. The know, like your MB, that they have it made. They are trying to put a nice spin on things by pointing out the positives others may have. They're not jealous. They're trying to sound modest. They're trying to connect with you. Maybe they're not doing it well, but it sounds well intentioned.

PP are you for real? So you assume every childless woman has fertility issues? It isn't thr 1950's anymore you know. Some of us choose not to have them by choice. Imagine that.
What a strange comment to make.

My first MB did this....

It annoyed me, but not because I wanted what she had, but because she assumed my life was so easy because I didn't have a husband/kiddos. I too had responsibilities, and I don't think anyone held a gun to her head and told her to get married and have three kiddos.

It was constant, she acted like I had it made.

I would say it's always a bad idea to tell a childless person they're lucky they have children, chances are that person has fertility issues.

Anonymous wrote:Does it ever annoy you when your MB talks about how lucky you are to have freedom and do what you want? I am 31 and my MB is 35. I don't have kids and am not married but she has 1 (obviously) and is married. Sometimes I feel like saying to her 'You know what? Maybe I AM lucky to have my freedom but you have a gorgeous child and a husband to come home to every night. Something I can only dream of.' She also has a better social life and better friends then me as well.
Just irritates me. I really like her but she never seems to value what she has.

don't sweat it. you won't know what you're missing or what you really got (marrying, having kids 18 hour days, etc. ) until you're there. then you can gossip about how great or awful it is some days.

I usually just say yeah I love being able to come to work with a full nights sleep. That's how I'm able to do what I do. Then the conversation moves on.