Anonymous wrote:OP - Admittedly I am also at fault for allowing her to take so much emergency leave. I'm a first time mom and she is my first nanny - I found it hard to say no to her requests. And now she's just taking advantage of my kind (or wuss!) nature.
I'm interviewing nannies and have made it clear that this is a job without flex for multiple unscheduled absences.

Did you have a frank conversation with her EVER?

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Anonymous wrote:It may be the right time to switch to a daycare. We switched our dd to daycare around the 18 mo mark. The adjustment was hard for her for a couple weeks but then she settled in. The reliability was fantastic and just what we needed. My DH and I both work long hours, but we alternated pick up and drop off.

Hmmm I wonder why you even have kids... poor baby girl. At least she sees one of you before she goes to sleep for a few minutes and the weekends I suppose

so we can have loved ones to send to the best schools and do something great with their lives, and someone to pass our large inheritance too.

I hope you're being sarcastic.

Anonymous wrote:OP - Admittedly I am also at fault for allowing her to take so much emergency leave. I'm a first time mom and she is my first nanny - I found it hard to say no to her requests. And now she's just taking advantage of my kind (or wuss!) nature.
I'm interviewing nannies and have made it clear that this is a job without flex for multiple unscheduled absences.

That should be a given. Just say vacation time will be two weeks, which will be accrued throughout the course of the year. Also, hiring people from this country lessens the odds that they'll take long vacations "home." A week will be enough to go to Ohio. They won't need to go to Guatemala or Thailand, where people often say "it's such a long trip that we stay a month once getting there."

OP - Admittedly I am also at fault for allowing her to take so much emergency leave. I'm a first time mom and she is my first nanny - I found it hard to say no to her requests. And now she's just taking advantage of my kind (or wuss!) nature.
I'm interviewing nannies and have made it clear that this is a job without flex for multiple unscheduled absences.

This is why my employees have to work in order to accrue vacation days. She's been working for you for NINE months, but FOUR months ago you let her use her two weeks of vacation?

By my employee's fifth month of employment they would only have five days of vacation accrued, and wouldn't be allowed to use any of it during their probationary period of their first two months of employment.