Sorry. 4-6 months is often THE easiest infancy stage. Next they are mobile and need closer supervision than when immobile, and feeding them solids is messy and time consuming. If you're saying this at 6 months, just don't do it. It doesn't get easier.

SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!! Glad you ended that arrangement!

Wow OP, this sure took a huge wrong turn.

A true friend would have thanked you for helping her out this far & would be grateful to you for all the help you provided.

This person, I hesitate to even call her your "friend" at this point.....should be handling this situation more maturely + gracefully.
By giving your phone no. # to an abusive ex is outrageous.

I hope you cut her out of your life FOR GOOD.

She is young, selfish and very immature.

After she got her allegedly physical abusive ex involved and gave him your phone number, I would sever all ties immediately. Good for you for getting the police involved. Poor kid, for having such screwed up parents.

I would tell her she has one week to find other arrangements. It is too difficult for you to care for two kids and financially it makes no sense. You are not a professional.

the initial question was whether it gets easier - and no it does not. even when you earn what is considered fair/reasonable wage for a share.

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

I know. I am so shaken up by all this. My friend told me recently that he was very physically abusive towards her and that's why they broke up. It's scary that he knows where we live.

Wow.

Op here: things got so out of line with her ex boyfriend that I got the police involved. He would not stop calling and texting offensive language.

She wanted something for nothing. Your friendship is over, which sucks, but you also got to see how she treats people, and you don't want to be friends with someone like that anyway.

A parent at my child's preschool pulled her daughter out when the school asked her to pay tuition (not even the regular tuition, just something -- they were willing to work with her). She got huffy about it, and it came out that she had been telling all of her friends to send their children there because the ladies who run it are too nice to ask for money. It made me so angry! But there are people out there who think it's their right to take advantage of other people.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here: omg her boyfriend just called me using lots of offensive language. I don't know what to do. It was really scary.

Sorry I meant to write exboyfriend .

Wow. That is scary.
I don't want to assume but how did you put it to her? I would have told her you can watch the baby for another x weeks and then she needs to pay you more or find alternate arrangement. Finding infant care is hard and expensive so I get that she's frustrated but she and her xbf are out of line. And now you can just sever contact if you want to.

I wrote her a very nice email telling her circumstances needed to change. I told her to think about it and we can discuss it more in person. She was mad that her son was crying while I was nursing my son when she came to pick him up. This kind of thing is bound to happen. An hour before she came my son was crying while I fed her son. Anyway I'm happy this is over now.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here: omg her boyfriend just called me using lots of offensive language. I don't know what to do. It was really scary.

Sorry I meant to write exboyfriend .

Wow. That is scary.
I don't want to assume but how did you put it to her? I would have told her you can watch the baby for another x weeks and then she needs to pay you more or find alternate arrangement. Finding infant care is hard and expensive so I get that she's frustrated but she and her xbf are out of line. And now you can just sever contact if you want to.

Anonymous wrote:Op here: omg her boyfriend just called me using lots of offensive language. I don't know what to do. It was really scary.

Sorry I meant to write exboyfriend .

Op here: omg her boyfriend just called me using lots of offensive language. I don't know what to do. It was really scary.