Anonymous
04/25/2016 12:49
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Oh, please. We're talking about two different things. If my nanny won't "allow" me to come in and say hello to my child, then they don't deserve to have a job. Thankfully my nanny was amazing and we worked as a team until my child started preschool.
Daycares limit access to children as well, by the way, and I'm suspicious of anyone who doesn't allow me 100% access on my terms to my child. What are you hiding?
Anonymous
04/22/2016 19:42
Subject: Re:Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:I am in a situation now where it is working out. But during the first few weeks the child would constantly try to interrupt his father when he was working for the lamest reasons. I tried to stop him and it never worked. Until he finally got used to coming to me instead and quit doing that so often.
But I have worked for a family where the mom stayed home, but not working. Just resting, sometimes reading, sometimes studying. She tried to stay out of the way but would randomly walk into the kitchen/living room to get things, to cook, to go out. It was horrible as the kid was not a fan of listening to begin with, whenever mom was home the kid was horrible, did not want to do anything I asked, would go upstairs to talk to mom all the freaking time. Mom wanted me to stop the kid sometimes, but really, there's only so much you can do. Other times she was fine with her coming upstairs and I mostly had to guess when it was okay and when it wasn't. Mom also constantly undermined me AND herself. She would tell me to make sure child did not leave the table until she finished her meal. Child stayed in the table but not eating, mom comes downstairs and sees child, child whines, asks to leave the table, mom says yes. This happened all the time. It was maddening. And mom thought kids did not respect me because I sometimes asked her how she wanted me to do certain things since she was never able to clearly let me know what the rules were (she had none apparently).
It's a really awkward position to be in. The kids have a much harder time respecting you, if they ever do, and they keep insisting to see their parents and you have no freaking clue if the parent is too busy or if they will think the kid's reason is valid for wanting to see them because there's no rhyme or reason in my experience. They are never clear about when they are ok with being interrupted.
My current situation is still not clear but the father has never complained about anything I have ever done, ever. Even when he was constantly interrupted by his child for reasons such as seeing a masterpiece the child drew, their latest lego project, etc.
But I'm still uncomfortable when the kid interrupts him, because I think it's rude and it annoys me that they think it's okay for him to interrupt them to show them something that can wait.
I've noticed it's much easier when it's a dad vs mother. My current db will sometimes work from home. I didnt sign up for this at all. I have 2 charges and one is an infant. It's hard to watch both the infant and the older child at the same time if the older one keeps running into the room with the parent and I got sick of following after her and trying to hold her attention. So I just stopped. I let her go and interrupt because it makes no sense for them to set up to work on the main floor as us. I had an infant on my hip running after a toddler. Not cool. I had even told the mom that it was very difficult and she listened then they continued to do so a few times per month. So once I stopped the dad got fed up and began pretending to leave and would sneak to another floor and close the door. He only comes out when the kids are occupied or sleeping and will text me to check. You would think this would've been common sense in the first place but it wasn't.
Anonymous
04/22/2016 19:28
Subject: Re:Stay out of it WFHM!!!
I am in a situation now where it is working out. But during the first few weeks the child would constantly try to interrupt his father when he was working for the lamest reasons. I tried to stop him and it never worked. Until he finally got used to coming to me instead and quit doing that so often.
But I have worked for a family where the mom stayed home, but not working. Just resting, sometimes reading, sometimes studying. She tried to stay out of the way but would randomly walk into the kitchen/living room to get things, to cook, to go out. It was horrible as the kid was not a fan of listening to begin with, whenever mom was home the kid was horrible, did not want to do anything I asked, would go upstairs to talk to mom all the freaking time. Mom wanted me to stop the kid sometimes, but really, there's only so much you can do. Other times she was fine with her coming upstairs and I mostly had to guess when it was okay and when it wasn't. Mom also constantly undermined me AND herself. She would tell me to make sure child did not leave the table until she finished her meal. Child stayed in the table but not eating, mom comes downstairs and sees child, child whines, asks to leave the table, mom says yes. This happened all the time. It was maddening. And mom thought kids did not respect me because I sometimes asked her how she wanted me to do certain things since she was never able to clearly let me know what the rules were (she had none apparently).
It's a really awkward position to be in. The kids have a much harder time respecting you, if they ever do, and they keep insisting to see their parents and you have no freaking clue if the parent is too busy or if they will think the kid's reason is valid for wanting to see them because there's no rhyme or reason in my experience. They are never clear about when they are ok with being interrupted.
My current situation is still not clear but the father has never complained about anything I have ever done, ever. Even when he was constantly interrupted by his child for reasons such as seeing a masterpiece the child drew, their latest lego project, etc.
But I'm still uncomfortable when the kid interrupts him, because I think it's rude and it annoys me that they think it's okay for him to interrupt them to show them something that can wait.
But I have worked for a family where the mom stayed home, but not working. Just resting, sometimes reading, sometimes studying. She tried to stay out of the way but would randomly walk into the kitchen/living room to get things, to cook, to go out. It was horrible as the kid was not a fan of listening to begin with, whenever mom was home the kid was horrible, did not want to do anything I asked, would go upstairs to talk to mom all the freaking time. Mom wanted me to stop the kid sometimes, but really, there's only so much you can do. Other times she was fine with her coming upstairs and I mostly had to guess when it was okay and when it wasn't. Mom also constantly undermined me AND herself. She would tell me to make sure child did not leave the table until she finished her meal. Child stayed in the table but not eating, mom comes downstairs and sees child, child whines, asks to leave the table, mom says yes. This happened all the time. It was maddening. And mom thought kids did not respect me because I sometimes asked her how she wanted me to do certain things since she was never able to clearly let me know what the rules were (she had none apparently).
It's a really awkward position to be in. The kids have a much harder time respecting you, if they ever do, and they keep insisting to see their parents and you have no freaking clue if the parent is too busy or if they will think the kid's reason is valid for wanting to see them because there's no rhyme or reason in my experience. They are never clear about when they are ok with being interrupted.
My current situation is still not clear but the father has never complained about anything I have ever done, ever. Even when he was constantly interrupted by his child for reasons such as seeing a masterpiece the child drew, their latest lego project, etc.
But I'm still uncomfortable when the kid interrupts him, because I think it's rude and it annoys me that they think it's okay for him to interrupt them to show them something that can wait.
Anonymous
04/22/2016 12:25
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
This thread should be linked to the mb wants advice thread
Anonymous
04/16/2016 16:21
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
I am a nanny and just quit a job because the father stopped working a year ago and has been hanging around the house. The interruptions and unpredicatability really wore me out. I felt like, at any moment, he might upset whatever activity we were doing (eating, crafts, puzzles, or just quality time) stroll through the kitchen, and stare into the fridge for a while (it is his house, after all.) The problem is that he would linger and the kids would want to eat what he was eating (chips, etc.) and then fall apart when he left the room. I got no support from the mother, who simply brushed off his annoying habits, not fully understanding that his behaviors undermined my ability to do my job well. I miss the kids. I took care of them for 3 years!
Anonymous
04/08/2016 13:41
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Lol I'll never do another parent working at home job. My mb and DB loved to walk in while the kids were eating and cause fits. The worst was opening the door to the nursery when I was putting the kids down. Seriously get out!
Anonymous
04/07/2016 23:27
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR!!!!!
Been there many times, never will do that again. You couldn't pay me all the money in the whole wide world.
Boundaries need to be set, micro-managing needs to be completely eliminated and interference should only occur in the extremist of emergencies!!
Good for you, I hope you get another position very soon.
Your current one sounds like a second form of Hell.
Been there many times, never will do that again. You couldn't pay me all the money in the whole wide world.
Boundaries need to be set, micro-managing needs to be completely eliminated and interference should only occur in the extremist of emergencies!!
Good for you, I hope you get another position very soon.
Your current one sounds like a second form of Hell.
Anonymous
04/06/2016 19:24
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
It has nothing to do with being lazy.
When a parent comes running into the room every time a child cries, the parent is teaching the child to scream when things aren't going the way they want.
When a parent won't allow the nanny five minutes to sit down and eat lunch while the child is sleeping, it breeds resentment.
Anonymous
04/06/2016 11:05
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Right, because it doesn't allow her to be lazy. Understood.
Anonymous
04/05/2016 20:53
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
How can the nanny do her job when she is constantly interrupted? How can she have any authority with the children if she is constantly undermined?
Anonymous
04/05/2016 18:24
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:When my MB was on maternity leave for baby #2, I used to X off days on the calendar until she went back to work. When she extended her maternity 16 weeks (thanks a lot California) I literally went home and cried all night. 9 months of absolute hell. Then she went back to work and life was happy and normal again.
Even if you were well paid, they didn't deserve you.
Anonymous
04/05/2016 17:48
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
[b]Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
Then I guess she should stay home and take care of her own kids. No nanny wants this job anyways!
Anonymous
04/05/2016 17:34
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
IDIOT
Anonymous
04/05/2016 17:34
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
Anonymous wrote:They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
That's the reason every single nannies don't work with WFHM...and it's hard to find one who wants to work with crazy WFHM.
Anonymous
04/05/2016 16:54
Subject: Stay out of it WFHM!!!
They're her kids.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.
I'd fire every single one of you in a second.