Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 11:29     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.


Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.


I think this thread took its own turn. I don't think anyone thinks that there's zero extra work involved, but that it's not $40/week worth. I think, more to the point, that the nanny appears to want to have her cake and eat it too- come late/leave early without a change in pay, but then wants to overcharge for a small increase in work.

Really, this is both parties' fault- If MB believes her (and her housekeeper's) flexibility should be valued, acknowledged and ultimately repaid, then she needs to say so, directly. But you can't spend years silent on the issue and then all of a sudden expect the nanny to volunteer to do the work for free. That flexibility needs to be identified as a perk or a benefit and MB should be able to say to the nanny, in exchange for us being so flexible on the time issue, can you make extra dinner twice per week? Alternatively, MB should be mindful of the hours and not be so flexible as to the nanny's coming and goings- but then she should expect to pay for any extra work or time.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 11:23     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


Just like you end up with no nannies. ...this already proves how miserable your life is.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 11:08     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.


Thank you! The fact that they can't see that boggles my mind. The entitlement of hiring a person to do one job, but then expecting that they start doing something completely unrelated, and for no extra pay, is just insane. But you can't reason with DCUM MBs.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 11:02     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


Just like you end up with no nannies. ...this already proves how miserable your life is.

Stop. Really.


J
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 10:40     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


I am neither nanny or mb but as a neutral observer, hands down. It is the mb's who are cheap, ridiculous job creepers, leaving dirty dishes, expecting housework from nannies. I marvel that a nanny would even consider ANY duty that is not child related, including taking care of pets.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 08:11     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.


Stop. Really.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2016 00:39     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Oh good lord, the nannies on this board are ridiculous. It's no wonder that so many of you end up with no jobs.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 20:39     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doubling a recipe is double the work. There's double prep and extra cooking time.
good grief, learn how to cook. Doubling the recipe is not by any stretch of the imagination double the work. Not even close. She's probably doing half the recipe right now and their just asking her to make the full recipe.


So if I cut up 4 carrots versus 2 and so on for the rest of the prep work, it's not doubling the time? Good to know, I was sure that it came close, if not doubled exactly. And cooking 4 quarts of something takes the same time that 2 quarts takes? Gee, I could have sworn that it too longer to cook. 13.22 here. I cook from scratch, so I prep every single thing that goes into my charges' food. If I had been making just enough for my charges and was asked to double it for the parents, yes, it would take somewhere between 1.5 times and twice as long to make.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 18:59     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doubling a recipe is double the work. There's double prep and extra cooking time.
good grief, learn how to cook. Doubling the recipe is not by any stretch of the imagination double the work. Not even close. She's probably doing half the recipe right now and their just asking her to make the full recipe.


Have you ever cooked?
every.single.day. I've taken several cooking classes as well. It's not a mystery beyond the comprehension of mankind.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 17:51     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doubling a recipe is double the work. There's double prep and extra cooking time.
good grief, learn how to cook. Doubling the recipe is not by any stretch of the imagination double the work. Not even close. She's probably doing half the recipe right now and their just asking her to make the full recipe.


Have you ever cooked?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 17:33     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:Mb is cheap... should hire housekeeper who can cook.


I think that's what she did. And now nanny needs to find a new gig.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 16:47     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:Doubling a recipe is double the work. There's double prep and extra cooking time.
good grief, learn how to cook. Doubling the recipe is not by any stretch of the imagination double the work. Not even close. She's probably doing half the recipe right now and their just asking her to make the full recipe.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 16:07     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Doubling a recipe is double the work. There's double prep and extra cooking time.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 14:32     Subject: Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Mb is cheap... should hire housekeeper who can cook.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2016 14:30     Subject: Re:Cooking for kids now MB wants nanny to double recipe for the parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:$40 a week seems like a lot to ask for a few minutes of extra work two days a week. I can see why the MB felt she was being taken advantage of.


Because twice a week will become 3 then 4 then 5. Then they'll be making specific requests. Then they'll want her to do the shopping since she's making dinner anyway. Do you think they'll offer more compensation for this extra work? No. They're entitled. This nanny realizes that this request is going to lead to more than a few minutes of extra work for her. She's basically taking on the dinner responsibilities for the entire family.


If she is really worried that this is a slippery slope to hell, then shouldn't her NF also be concerned that when she comes in late or leaves early that eventually she'll only be showing up 1/2 the time?


You're assuming that there is an equality to this dynamic. They are the employers. If they are worried about her showing up late, they can easily say something and eventually replace her. If nanny doesn't like something her employers do, she has far less power or options to change it. She can only find a new job, and bouncing from job to job looks bad on a nanny resume. Employers should not ask their employees for favors or free work. It simply isn't fair.

But it's ok for employees to ask for extra paid time off? Both parties have the same recourse - ending the relationship.


The employer is free to not okay it. This employer obviously has okayed it, but now she wants free services. It's actually pretty messed up.