Anonymous
01/08/2016 17:37
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:You guys are really something else.
I guarantee you if you flat out went behind your bosses wishes on something involving their child. You would be fired in a second. Especially something that the parents and doctors decided on.
Nope, I've never been fired for disagreeing with the parents. However, I've persuaded some to try things my way, that or I quit if I felt that the parents' decision was counter-productive and/or detrimental to the children's well-being.
Anonymous
01/08/2016 10:48
Subject: Re:Naps
In my job it is understood that as I am the primary caretaker of the children and am the person who spends the most time with them, my opinion on what the kids should be doing and not doing is the most valued.
If your nanny thinks this is the case you need to sit her down and explain your expectations to her. If she isn't ok with them she will quit, if she is ok with them her behavior will change accordingly. If you want your nanny to behave like your employee, treat her like one by having preformance meetings and lots of communication about expectations.
If your nanny thinks this is the case you need to sit her down and explain your expectations to her. If she isn't ok with them she will quit, if she is ok with them her behavior will change accordingly. If you want your nanny to behave like your employee, treat her like one by having preformance meetings and lots of communication about expectations.
Anonymous
01/08/2016 09:28
Subject: Naps
You guys are really something else.
I guarantee you if you flat out went behind your bosses wishes on something involving their child. You would be fired in a second. Especially something that the parents and doctors decided on.
I guarantee you if you flat out went behind your bosses wishes on something involving their child. You would be fired in a second. Especially something that the parents and doctors decided on.
Anonymous
01/08/2016 08:31
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:No I don't agree. Our nanny is hired by us to do as we wish. We the parents make the final decision. Even more so when our ped is on board. This isn't new we assumed the last 6-8 weeks she had cut their naps. Why they have been wonderful the days she isn't here staying up until 2. We do a big am trip or play dates, lunch, bath and then they go down.
To the OK you prob would have balked at us sleep training all of our kids at 2-3 months. Or stretching their meals times to achieve this. In which we would have said bad fit and goodbye. The issue is more her hiding it.
You're right, I would never have agreed to to sleep training at 2-3 months, nor would I have forced a hungry baby to wait to make the child conform to a sleep schedule. 2-3 months is way too early to force it.
Anonymous
01/08/2016 02:12
Subject: Re:Naps
My bosses hired me to be a third parent. I have only ever held nanny jons where this was the case.
Perhaps the conversation you need to be having with your nanny isn't simply about the naps but also about her role in your childrens lives and your family in general. Her idea of what her role is and your idea of what her role is may be different.
Perhaps the conversation you need to be having with your nanny isn't simply about the naps but also about her role in your childrens lives and your family in general. Her idea of what her role is and your idea of what her role is may be different.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 22:11
Subject: Naps
Same reason I do what my boss wants. Its my JOB.
A Nanny is NOT a parent. Their personal opinion should not hinder their job if they are in fact a professional. Feel.free to bring up and discuss but also respect employers wishes. That is professional.
A Nanny is NOT a parent. Their personal opinion should not hinder their job if they are in fact a professional. Feel.free to bring up and discuss but also respect employers wishes. That is professional.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 22:05
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:No I don't agree. Our nanny is hired by us to do as we wish. We the parents make the final decision. Even more so when our ped is on board. This isn't new we assumed the last 6-8 weeks she had cut their naps. Why they have been wonderful the days she isn't here staying up until 2. We do a big am trip or play dates, lunch, bath and then they go down.
To the OK you prob would have balked at us sleep training all of our kids at 2-3 months. Or stretching their meals times to achieve this. In which we would have said bad fit and goodbye. The issue is more her hiding it.
Why would any professional do whatever you ordered? Get yourself a sitter, not a nanny. You'll be happier and so will she!
Anonymous
01/07/2016 22:02
Subject: Naps
No I don't agree. Our nanny is hired by us to do as we wish. We the parents make the final decision. Even more so when our ped is on board. This isn't new we assumed the last 6-8 weeks she had cut their naps. Why they have been wonderful the days she isn't here staying up until 2. We do a big am trip or play dates, lunch, bath and then they go down.
To the OK you prob would have balked at us sleep training all of our kids at 2-3 months. Or stretching their meals times to achieve this. In which we would have said bad fit and goodbye. The issue is more her hiding it.
To the OK you prob would have balked at us sleep training all of our kids at 2-3 months. Or stretching their meals times to achieve this. In which we would have said bad fit and goodbye. The issue is more her hiding it.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 21:10
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here they do the 2-5 nap on the winds non problem for the past 6 weeks. They still sleep 8-8
I really don't want to bring it up with her again. But looks like I'll have to
Just get an obedient babysitter. This nanny is done with you.
I agree that maybe OP needs someone more biddable, and for that, perhaps she needs to go with a babysitter, not a nanny. However, sitting down and talking to the nanny, explaining the rationale and discussing a strategy might help.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 21:08
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:
Or a nanny who will actually do what the parents wish
If it's not in the child's best interests, absolutely not. I would quit before I did something that would adversely affect my charge, just because a parent told me to do it.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 21:07
Subject: Naps
Anonymous wrote:Op here they do the 2-5 nap on the winds non problem for the past 6 weeks. They still sleep 8-8
I really don't want to bring it up with her again. But looks like I'll have to
Ok, if they are sleeping 3 hours in the afternoon and 12 at night, I can agree that they don't need the morning nap. But from 8 am to 2 pm cold turkey is too much for kids who are only 17 months old. I agree with a PP, you need to ease into it. 2-3 days of the nap starting at 11, then 2-3 days at 11.30, etc. Eventually, they'll be comfortable doing it every day, not just weekends. The issue is that kids know that there is one routine for weekdays with one person and another routine for weekends with other people.
Anonymous
01/07/2016 21:00
Subject: Naps
Or a nanny who will actually do what the parents wish