OP Here:

Yes, I was assigned things to do that were outside of my normal working duties.

And no, the Sister thing was outside of normal working hours.

Life lesson learned for '16.

Really it is.

Happy New Year Everyone!!

Working for a small family unit and working for a big corporation are two very diff things....you shouldn't compare the two. It's true sometimes nannies want to go above and beyond for their employers but it can create conflict when the employers aren't appreciative. Per the Mb response that just shows how unappreciative they really are. Sorry op look for a new position.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Sorry for any confusion, and the slow response. Been busy the past few days.

Anyway, I just wanted to clarify that while my NF is still paying me for the childcare services (which I am still working a regular schedule), they are asking me to do other things which they are not compensating me for. The housesitting for the sister, collecting their mail, etc.

I actually emailed a message to the MB and she responded only that "We need all the help we can get!"

Which has left me more confused than ever. I mean...I sent her a detailed/comprehensive message and that is the only sentence she responded back to.

Will keep you posted....

Merry Xmas to all of you btw.

op please do not be dense. you are not help. you are an employee who's focus should be on her charges. your mb is being condescending and taking advantage of you. she completely ignored what your concerns were. they know what they are doing. you do not owe them extra "help" because you are traveling with them for work.

My husband travels for work and all expenses get paid for by the company. This is no different. It would be like his employer emailing him to run by his sisters house and check the mail and walk her dog. Has nothing to do with the job. If anything you should be paid more for traveling with them than you usually are paid. Not paying them back in favors because they paid for the "help's" plane ticket and room because she is an employee traveling with the family and leaving behind the comforts of her own lifestyle to do so. Believe me, it won't be a vacation for you. These don't sound like good people at all. smh

The thing with the sister...was that during working hours or during your off hours? How far does she live from the NF? If it's close and during working hours, I'd let it slide this time but say no in the future.

OP, you need to email again, and request compensation for everything that you have done to date that they wanted gratis. You need to list specific dates and times, and the amount due for every instance. In a separate paragraph at the bottom, state that you are happy to come along to Cali with the family if you are working and will receive your normal salary, otherwise you need to pass to pass on this trip.

Does your contract guarantee hours? If so, you need to mention that when you say that you are passing on a non-working trip.

DB started pushing the boundaries between nanny and friend, then MB and the sister pushed even more. If you have any hope of staying with the family long-term, you need to get the relationship firmly back to a more professional footing.

Personally I would go so that things don't become akward between you but let this serve as a lesson. Next time they have these kind of side things not pertaining to your normal duties ask to be fairly compensated or say you aren't available. They are taking advantage of you and you are allowing it....why make comments like this is a great opportunity? U can go to Cali on your own dime if you wanted to, lol its not Paris, Tokyo, or Cairo: Those places would impress me!