OP please take me with you loool I am married but will leave my husband here to go work….heck he can come visit me every couple weeks looool. I will need your guest house though cause can't pay rent out there. Let me know so we can talk.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you just tell her that you know they have considered moving and that you would gladly continue to employ her there if moving works for them. I definitely think you could offer her some substantial overtime or bonus time to come out with you for a month to help ease transition, but I can't imagine just ditching my husband for several months. Even a month would be long (but doable).

Wow there is traditional married involve with her commitment not like I still husbands she is not that type don't think. We should give head comes up and say goodbye

Honestly PP are you (a) drunk (b) foreign and using a really bad translate tool or (c) some other explanation I can't even imagine? Every night around this time you post some incoherent, irrelevant b.s. on multiple threads, often multiple times in a row. Could you just stop?
Yes, I know I could just ignore it and move on, but the sheer volume of your posts is becoming beyond obnoxious.

Anonymous wrote:I think you just tell her that you know they have considered moving and that you would gladly continue to employ her there if moving works for them. I definitely think you could offer her some substantial overtime or bonus time to come out with you for a month to help ease transition, but I can't imagine just ditching my husband for several months. Even a month would be long (but doable).

Wow there is traditional married involve with her commitment not like I still husbands she is not that type don't think. We should give head comes up and say goodbye

We are prepared to include housing cost in our raise or as a separate bonus or perk. And we would cover the cost to move them and stuff ther .

When I bring it up do I need to include a week or more where they can go check it out and see for themselves. On us of course.

Anonymous wrote:The COL is insane here in the bay area. Housing is crazy. Don't bring your nanny.

+1 We recently made the move as well and expenses are insane even with COL wage increase. OP, have you looked at housing market here? No way you can pay your nanny to keep hers as well unless you are going to make atleast 3x DC wage and even then it is going to be tough to pull this.

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Anonymous wrote:OP:

They have both mentioned moving even before hiring. We have known each other for years and the young women who is my nanny is amazing. She has been with us for three years and we have 4 difficult kids of varying ages and needs. I don't think I could find another nanny of her caliber. When she is away every replacement has called very short.


With the raise I will recieve I could meet her at 75-85k with raises yearly and as I get them. We could probably promise a salary of 90k in 3 years.

They don't have family but I imagine they will want to start their own family at some point...

If her husband can find a job, I imagine this would be a good offer. I would never suggest someone move across the country from family, though, ow that I've lived that way my entire adult life. You'll have to ask and see.

Anonymous wrote:OP:

They have both mentioned moving even before hiring. We have known each other for years and the young women who is my nanny is amazing. She has been with us for three years and we have 4 difficult kids of varying ages and needs. I don't think I could find another nanny of her caliber. When she is away every replacement has called very short.


With the raise I will recieve I could meet her at 75-85k with raises yearly and as I get them. We could probably promise a salary of 90k in 3 years.

They don't have family but I imagine they will want to start their own family at some point...

If her husband can find a job, I imagine this would be a good offer. I would never suggest someone move across the country from family, though, ow that I've lived that way my entire adult life. You'll have to ask and see.

Listen, OP, I'd sit down and discuss it with her NOW. Be honest about the salary you would increase her to for the cost of living (I'm assuming that the jobs you are moving to will offer a higher salary because of the higher COL out there, or otherwise you will end up being in trouble trying to pay her with the same salary)

then I'd ask her to discuss it with her husband and get back to you in X time. Like 2 months, not 2 weeks. This is a big decision - he will have to find another job, they both must want to move to San Francisco area, etc. Perhaps they can take a weeks vacation to go and visit and see if they want to.

And don't request that she promise you to work there for 5 more years, etc. Or that you will PROMISE that, either. Because who knows where eveyrone will be in the next 3 to 5 years.

Heck, if they have children, she may end up staying home with her child and not nannying any longer. Or if she has a baby, would you want her to bring her baby with her? I'm not sure I would want to nanny for another family and have my child in family childcare, since that's what I could afford.

So I'd say you should get a ocmmitment if she moves to SF "with" you that she should commit to one year, but no longer. And you with her.

If they are young and don't have ties here, they may view this as exciting (I would!) but remember, not everyone wants to move and relocate across the country - not everyone views these things as exciting. And, of course, her husband must be able to find a job out there, that is on him, not you, to find the job.

But be honest, discuss it with her, then remember that you both might want to have a few more discussions over the next 2 months as they make their decision. Could they afford to live near enough to where you'll live that her commute to your house would work? I don't know, but your combined salary is WAY more than their combined salary (although their combined salary isn't anything to sneeze at) but what if where they live is 50-60 minutes away from your new house? That's a BEAST of a commute.

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They have both mentioned moving even before hiring. We have known each other for years and the young women who is my nanny is amazing. She has been with us for three years and we have 4 difficult kids of varying ages and needs. I don't think I could find another nanny of her caliber. When she is away every replacement has called very short.


With the raise I will recieve I could meet her at 75-85k with raises yearly and as I get them. We could probably promise a salary of 90k in 3 years.

They don't have family but I imagine they will want to start their own family at some point...

Unless they already had thoughts of moving to San Francisco, I can't imagine they would want to uproot themselves to accommodate the A) lower paying and B) somewhat temporary career.

Do they have family here (or there?)

I'm a live-in nanny, so this is somewhat different to me. I have no issue relocating with the family. However just like the family's vacation when I go with them and work, I have my own room, I have the right to decline any hours outside of my normal hours, and I expect to the paid for all time I work (overtime if the state requires it, but it's not always required for live-in nannies). Personally, I've found that it worked best when I took the kids to the park for the day (normally a day off), the parents had the furniture delivered, and were able to put boxes in the appropriate rooms. Kids and I unpacked their boxes during my normal work hours, I unpacked myself during evenings, and I was willing to unpack common areas with the kids, as long as I had a say in where things were put (wonderful, that way things were in places that were more convenient for kids and I).

We could and would increase her pay to cover COL.
We have even thought about paying for housing on top of her adjusted salary as we would want them closer to us. As well as a car for full use.

We would hate to say goodbye

Anonymous wrote:I moved from the West Coast to the East Coast with my Nanny Family. It was a great move for me and I'm so glad that I did it.


I live in San Fran now. Something to keep in mind, the cost of living here is really high compared to most other places. I'd make sure you and her look at apartments and how much things cost to make sure they can afford what they want here. I've met many nannies who relocated here with boyfriends, husbands, etc.. and didn't quite realize how much it would cost to live.

Rent here is insane. I pay $2500/month for a 1 bedroom.

My thoughts exactly. The myriad other issues aside, unless you increase her pay significantly, she will likely not even be able to afford the move. Cut your losses, EARLY, and move on...let her do the same.

The COL is insane here in the bay area. Housing is crazy. Don't bring your nanny.

I moved from the West Coast to the East Coast with my Nanny Family. It was a great move for me and I'm so glad that I did it.


I live in San Fran now. Something to keep in mind, the cost of living here is really high compared to most other places. I'd make sure you and her look at apartments and how much things cost to make sure they can afford what they want here. I've met many nannies who relocated here with boyfriends, husbands, etc.. and didn't quite realize how much it would cost to live.

Rent here is insane. I pay $2500/month for a 1 bedroom.