Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you're peeved at the parents for this. You clearly went over the allotted TV time, and the parent found out. Why is the parent in the wrong here?

Because she has faithfully followed this rule for the duration of her employment with only one exception. Most nannies expect a fair bit of "checking up," such as looking at the netflix history daily, when they are new to a job, but once you have worked with them for a while, one would expect them to trust you to some extent as tou have proven what kind of person and what kind of nanny you are. So from the nanny's perspective, this series of events shows that a) they are still regularly checking the netflix history to track the amount of tv and b) the first and only time she disobeyed this rule they felt the need to bring it up, instead of viewing it within the context of her history of adherance. It shows a lack of good faith on their part. Yes, she made a mistake, but watching slightly too much tv is a very small mistake. If there is no allowance for even that level of mistake as a one-off, then there is no understanding that nanny is a human being with understandable imperfections and no appreciation for the times when she overlooks their inevitable flaws or times when she goes above and beyond. In a healthy nanny/family relationship, they would not be tracking daily, but would maybe still do spot checks on things like tv time, and if they noticed a trend towards more tv over a period of a few weeks, THEN they would bring it up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you're peeved at the parents for this. You clearly went over the allotted TV time, and the parent found out. Why is the parent in the wrong here?

Because she has faithfully followed this rule for the duration of her employment with only one exception. Most nannies expect a fair bit of "checking up," such as looking at the netflix history daily, when they are new to a job, but once you have worked with them for a while, one would expect them to trust you to some extent as tou have proven what kind of person and what kind of nanny you are. So from the nanny's perspective, this series of events shows that a) they are still regularly checking the netflix history to track the amount of tv and b) the first and only time she disobeyed this rule they felt the need to bring it up, instead of viewing it within the context of her history of adherance. It shows a lack of good faith on their part. Yes, she made a mistake, but watching slightly too much tv is a very small mistake. If there is no allowance for even that level of mistake as a one-off, then there is no understanding that nanny is a human being with understandable imperfections and no appreciation for the times when she overlooks their inevitable flaws or times when she goes above and beyond. In a healthy nanny/family relationship, they would not be tracking daily, but would maybe still do spot checks on things like tv time, and if they noticed a trend towards more tv over a period of a few weeks, THEN they would bring it up.