Anonymous
Post 10/20/2015 09:30     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:Hello OP, She isn't coming back. Stop kidding yourself, ok?


This is what I think, too. She doesn't want to lose her job in advance, and she may not have decided 100% that she wants to stay, but I also think she's planning to not come back.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2015 06:03     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Hello OP, She isn't coming back. Stop kidding yourself, ok?
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2015 01:31     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:What would you do? Our nanny of one year asked if she could take a month off to go home. I agreed although only two of the weeks will be paid.
Just yesterday she informed me that she is taking 5 1/2 weeks off and already bought her plane ticket. I"m dumfounded as to why she would not ask before increasing the amount of time she is taking off. She's been good with the kids and flexible with our schedule but I feel like this is a slap in the face. My husband and I both work full time and feel her taking off so much time is simply unreasonable.
Would you start looking for someone else?


Yes. Your nanny is being unreasonable expecting she can just take 5 1/2 weeks off because she feels like it. Tell her she is welcomed to take as much unpaid time off as she likes, but you won't guarantee her job will be available when she feels like returning. Look for someone in the interim and fire the first for cause.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2015 11:47     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What were you planning to do for childcare during the one month?


That's part of the issue. She said one month in December which worked for us because we plan to be gone one week in early December and then I will take one week off in late December which would have left me with only two weeks where I needed to find someone to care for the kids. But she just informed me she is going to be gone mid-December until late January.


Did you agree that she would be off for December specifically? If so it seems the problem is not only that she is taking extra time, but also leaving two weeks later than you anticipated, leaving you in an even bigger bind.

Honestly I would let her go. She sounds very entitled and you are being incredibly generous to offer 4 weeks off to begin with.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2015 16:01     Subject: Re:I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Well - it depends on how much you like her otherwise. Of course she won't get paid for more than two weeks of vacation. You could look for a new nanny. You could tell her that because she is costing you a headache for the extra unauthorized week and a half, you will no longer pay for the two weeks you agreed to pay for. (She would be really mad about that, but she can change the ticket if she is mad enough.) You could tell her that you are counting this leave as advance, and that she will not be paid for two full weeks of vacation next year, but only 2-3 days.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2015 10:29     Subject: Re:I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:This is not the matter of hiring an American or a foreigner. A nanny should be well trained and professional. We should choose the one who are professionally trained and who are willing to follow our conditions. If you notify your conditions clearly in the contract, then selecting a foreign nanny will not create any problem. In my case, I had chosen a caregiver from an adult care home in Oregon ( Prestige care). We had clearly mentioned about the wages, Off days, hours to be worked and all other needs in the contract before hiring her. And so far no problems arrived and I’m satisfied with her service.

How well is she compensated?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2015 09:59     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How come parents don't have back up babysitter.....Nannies are human .


A back-up sitter is for a few days here or there when the nanny can't make it.

It's not a replacement for a nanny who wants to take many, many weeks off. What's human about taking long vacations, besides the fact that we'd all like to?


Then go find a slave.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2015 01:32     Subject: Re:I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
This is not the matter of hiring an American or a foreigner. A nanny should be well trained and professional. We should choose the one who are professionally trained and who are willing to follow our conditions. If you notify your conditions clearly in the contract, then selecting a foreign nanny will not create any problem. In my case, I had chosen a caregiver from an adult care home in Oregon ( Prestige care). We had clearly mentioned about the wages, Off days, hours to be worked and all other needs in the contract before hiring her. And so far no problems arrived and I’m satisfied with her service.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 20:50     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
That is outrageous and she is basically telling you "take it or leave it. I'm fine without a job." Sucks for you but you need to find a new nanny. Consider it notice.

Most jobs don't give 4 weeks leave and definitely not 5.5 weeks.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 18:59     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you should hire an American nanny and not a cheap foreign one.
You don't know what you talking about they are lazy that's why !
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 18:58     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:This is why you should hire an American nanny and not a cheap foreign one.
You don't know what you talking about they are lazy that's why !
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 15:58     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Absolutely.

After only one year, for her to be taking so much time off is just plain inconsiderate. And selfish.

I cannot believe she actually added more time off w/out your consent OP.

She sounds to me as if she doesn't value her job enough nor does she have a decent work ethic either.

I would start searching for her replacement ASAP.

Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 15:56     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:The nanny's moving on. OP should to.


*too
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 14:48     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
Anonymous wrote:How come parents don't have back up babysitter.....Nannies are human .


A back-up sitter is for a few days here or there when the nanny can't make it.

It's not a replacement for a nanny who wants to take many, many weeks off. What's human about taking long vacations, besides the fact that we'd all like to?
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2015 14:21     Subject: I agreed to let nanny take one month off and she bought a ticket for almost 6 weeks off
How come parents don't have back up babysitter.....Nannies are human .