Anonymous
09/29/2015 16:31
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Could you ask at the end of the day instead? I still think it's kinda intense of demand an explanation for every bump in a two year old's day, but at least it would be less stressful to be asked to provide an end of day summary rather than an in-the-moment explanation while she's in the middle of comforting your child.
I hope you're only using the cameras to periodically confirm that all is well. The 2 yo bumped into something or fell down, nanny rushed to comfort your child - I'd say nanny did her job! Awesome, everything is as it should be - now it's time to switch off the camera and go back to work. That's not the time to call and demand an explanation. I would be super stressed out if my husband did that to me.
I hope you're only using the cameras to periodically confirm that all is well. The 2 yo bumped into something or fell down, nanny rushed to comfort your child - I'd say nanny did her job! Awesome, everything is as it should be - now it's time to switch off the camera and go back to work. That's not the time to call and demand an explanation. I would be super stressed out if my husband did that to me.
Anonymous
09/29/2015 15:57
Subject: Re:Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were watching on the drop cam yesterday and saw that your child was fine - why did you bother your nanny with a call? What difference does it make why your kid was crying? Kids cry. Kids fall.
Op here. I have a right to know! He's my child!!!
Wow, you're so lucky you have kept a nanny. - Parent, not a nanny
Anonymous
09/27/2015 16:35
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
you be crazyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
09/27/2015 07:37
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Here's a tip for all nanny employers:
Before grilling your nanny on a given topic, ask yourself: "what will I do with this information?"
If your baby is crying, and then the nanny stops the crying, and they move forward with their day, in what way does it benefit you or your child for your nanny to detail for you exactly what caused the crying to begin with? If you have a decent nanny, then she will be on the lookout for patterns ("baby seems to want to eat earlier, let's have bottles ready about half an hour sooner than we have been," or " I have noticed that baby gets really fussy when swaddled in this type of blanket, let's try to avoid those if we can," etc.).
If you don't have a clear reason in your mind for your plan for that information, then that tells the nanny clearly that you do not trust her to make judgment calls about your children, even ones as simple as whether or not a specific type of crying needs a more universal solution. If you don't trust the nanny enough to allow her to make even very simple and small decisions like that, then you do not trust her enough to be caring for your child, and should look into a different form of child care. If you do trust the nanny, but want to know simply because it makes you feel more connected and involved with your child, then you need to realize that you are making decisions that will impact the nanny's ability to care for and bond with your child so that your own feelings can be managed. If your feelings about being away from your child are so strong that you cannot support your child's caregiver in forming an attachment to your child, the nanny care is not for you.
A good nanny wants to bond deeply with her charge. That bond takes nothing away from your babies bond to you. Babies are designed to bond with all of their caregivers. Allow your nanny to do her job when she is with your child and you focus on your career while you are at work so that you will be better able to bond with your child during your off hours. If that is not something that you can mentally and emotionally cope with, then you need to see a qualified therapist or quit your job.
Before grilling your nanny on a given topic, ask yourself: "what will I do with this information?"
If your baby is crying, and then the nanny stops the crying, and they move forward with their day, in what way does it benefit you or your child for your nanny to detail for you exactly what caused the crying to begin with? If you have a decent nanny, then she will be on the lookout for patterns ("baby seems to want to eat earlier, let's have bottles ready about half an hour sooner than we have been," or " I have noticed that baby gets really fussy when swaddled in this type of blanket, let's try to avoid those if we can," etc.).
If you don't have a clear reason in your mind for your plan for that information, then that tells the nanny clearly that you do not trust her to make judgment calls about your children, even ones as simple as whether or not a specific type of crying needs a more universal solution. If you don't trust the nanny enough to allow her to make even very simple and small decisions like that, then you do not trust her enough to be caring for your child, and should look into a different form of child care. If you do trust the nanny, but want to know simply because it makes you feel more connected and involved with your child, then you need to realize that you are making decisions that will impact the nanny's ability to care for and bond with your child so that your own feelings can be managed. If your feelings about being away from your child are so strong that you cannot support your child's caregiver in forming an attachment to your child, the nanny care is not for you.
A good nanny wants to bond deeply with her charge. That bond takes nothing away from your babies bond to you. Babies are designed to bond with all of their caregivers. Allow your nanny to do her job when she is with your child and you focus on your career while you are at work so that you will be better able to bond with your child during your off hours. If that is not something that you can mentally and emotionally cope with, then you need to see a qualified therapist or quit your job.
Anonymous
09/27/2015 07:35
Subject: Re:Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
I have no clue why everyone is crying "troll". My former MB was exactly like this - she never once gave me a compliment or even mentioned that I had done something right but my phone rang everytime my charge fell/cried.
Yes, I said "former MB" for obvious reasons.
Yes, I said "former MB" for obvious reasons.
Anonymous
09/27/2015 07:04
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
There are some parents who don't know or understand crying. They're never home, so how would they know anything?
Anonymous
09/26/2015 23:44
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
I hope that this is a fake posting because if it isn't, I truly feel for the nanny mentioned.
OP, as a parent I am sure you know that ALL two year old children cry. Daily. They may be hungry, hot/cold, tired, bored, etc.
This list goes on & on.....
Perhaps your nanny doesn't remember the specifics of why your child was crying on Friday, at 3:17PM. Who would....??!
Since you saw that your child was absolutely fine when you got home, I wouldn't have had an issue w/it.
The purpose of filming a nanny w/these cameras is to make sure abuse is documented if it is occurring, they are not made to nit pick + micromanage about the little things.
I don't blame your nanny one bit for being angry, I would have been to.
OP, as a parent I am sure you know that ALL two year old children cry. Daily. They may be hungry, hot/cold, tired, bored, etc.
This list goes on & on.....
Perhaps your nanny doesn't remember the specifics of why your child was crying on Friday, at 3:17PM. Who would....??!
Since you saw that your child was absolutely fine when you got home, I wouldn't have had an issue w/it.
The purpose of filming a nanny w/these cameras is to make sure abuse is documented if it is occurring, they are not made to nit pick + micromanage about the little things.
I don't blame your nanny one bit for being angry, I would have been to.
Anonymous
09/26/2015 15:02
Subject: Re:Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Anonymous wrote:Reasons my 2 yr old has cried today:
1. I wouldn't (couldn't) lift her up to touch the pretty clouds
2. I locked the front door when we were leaving the house
3. A dog barked at another dog
4. The bank wasn't open yet
5. Someone she thought was a girl was really a boy
6. Someone stepped on a chalk drawing someone else did
7. I wouldn't buy her a men's flannel shirt in a store
I could go on. That was over the course of three hours. If I called my nanny every single time I saw her cry, I would have to get fired for non-performance. You may have the RIGHT to call your nanny this way. But that doesn't make it the morally correct thing to do.
Love this!
Anonymous
09/26/2015 14:42
Subject: Re:Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Reasons my 2 yr old has cried today:
1. I wouldn't (couldn't) lift her up to touch the pretty clouds
2. I locked the front door when we were leaving the house
3. A dog barked at another dog
4. The bank wasn't open yet
5. Someone she thought was a girl was really a boy
6. Someone stepped on a chalk drawing someone else did
7. I wouldn't buy her a men's flannel shirt in a store
I could go on. That was over the course of three hours. If I called my nanny every single time I saw her cry, I would have to get fired for non-performance. You may have the RIGHT to call your nanny this way. But that doesn't make it the morally correct thing to do.
1. I wouldn't (couldn't) lift her up to touch the pretty clouds
2. I locked the front door when we were leaving the house
3. A dog barked at another dog
4. The bank wasn't open yet
5. Someone she thought was a girl was really a boy
6. Someone stepped on a chalk drawing someone else did
7. I wouldn't buy her a men's flannel shirt in a store
I could go on. That was over the course of three hours. If I called my nanny every single time I saw her cry, I would have to get fired for non-performance. You may have the RIGHT to call your nanny this way. But that doesn't make it the morally correct thing to do.
Anonymous
09/26/2015 14:34
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Troll OP.
I would only call if it appeared something seriously wrong was happening. And I would be pissed if the child was neglected or left crying for extended periods of time.
Basic rule is if everything in the contract is happening daily, no issues.
It has been interesting to see how many hours of downtime the nanny has with two kids. but again, everything we need for the kids and house are getting done.
I would only call if it appeared something seriously wrong was happening. And I would be pissed if the child was neglected or left crying for extended periods of time.
Basic rule is if everything in the contract is happening daily, no issues.
It has been interesting to see how many hours of downtime the nanny has with two kids. but again, everything we need for the kids and house are getting done.
Anonymous
09/26/2015 13:31
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
I've been with my nanny family for 8 years and it's wonderful.
Op will never know how this feels. She will be lucky if her next nanny last 8 days.
Op will never know how this feels. She will be lucky if her next nanny last 8 days.
Anonymous
09/26/2015 13:20
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
Your child is 2.. Your nanny has been with him since birth. I've been with my charge since birth she turns 1 next month. My NF stopped watching the cameras/unplugged them months ago because they know me and trust me. You show no trust with her, you micromanage and you should doing your job at work instead of watching your nanny. I feel bad for your nanny and hope she finds a new position
Anonymous
09/26/2015 13:19
Subject: Do you call your nanny when you hear your child cry on drop-cam?
I hope your nanny will give you her 2 weeks notice!
You are so crazy!
You are so crazy!