Anonymous
Post 01/07/2021 13:29     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:seriously? your child is going to here other people talk to you during his life.

explain that he calls you mommy, grownups call you mary, other children call him mrs ____. when he calls you mary, correct him.


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Your kid's not an idiot. Just explain it. It might take some time, but he'll figure it out!

Better than the little girl I (still!) remember in my 1st grade class who didn't know her parents had real names, they were just mommy and daddy. Don't let your kid be that kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2020 20:17     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:Which is great but DC is getting confused. He is 2 and when nanny says, "Good Morning, Mary", DC repeats "Mary" and not "Mommy".

What do you guys do about this? Generally, DH and I refer to each other as Mommy and Daddy in front of DC.

TIA


So? Are you so special that the nanny needs to genuflex to you and address you as ma'am as in ham. If your kid can't tell you from the nanny, he isn't very smart.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2020 17:30     Subject: Re:Nanny calls me by my first name
Does your nanny have kids? If so, her name is technically Mommy as well. Why would you hire a nanny with the same name as you only to confuse your child? The only thing to do is hire a single nanny so that your child can distinguish Mommy from Nanny. That should solve half your problem.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2020 11:03     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
My children know that they are the only people who call me Mommy. I have a name that everyone else, including my husband, uses.

In fact, I get called by a nickname by childhood friends, my maiden name by people sometimes, Mrs. So and So by people who don't know me well, etc... Amazingly, my kids grasp that I'm only Mommy to them.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2020 19:56     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Wait... you want your nanny to call you mommy. So your husband would be ..... daddy?!?!?


These is either going to play in peoples mind as some fifty shades or a bad cailou


Daaaaadddddyyyyy
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2020 16:16     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Which is great but DC is getting confused. He is 2 and when nanny says, "Good Morning, Mary", DC repeats "Mary" and not "Mommy".

What do you guys do about this? Generally, DH and I refer to each other as Mommy and Daddy in front of DC.

TIA

Curious what the above OP called the nanny.


Why are you resurrecting a 3 year old thread? OP is long gone.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2020 14:04     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Your kid is going to learn your name and there will be times when he calls you by your first name for fun and games but just correct your child. I’d look at you crazy if you asked me to not say your name in front of your child. What do family members call you? Do that not say your name?
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2020 12:45     Subject: Re:Nanny calls me by my first name
Honestly, OP, at two your child should know you and her father have names and what mommy and daddy mean. Don’t you ever read to her? Pretty much every little kid’s book has characters referring to their mommy and daddy.

If you truly think this is confusing her, I would suggest intervention.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2020 11:37     Subject: Re:Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:My kids both knew way before 2 that Mommy and daddy had names and knew what they are. I think DS was younger than 1.5. Kids still called us Mommy and Daddy.


Is your child special needs, OP? I don’t mean to be offensive, but I promise you if your child is developmentally normal, he’s not confused.


That was my first thought if Op's baby is a special need. I have been a nanny for many years, and I can't recall a single child who doesn't call their mommy, mommy by the age of two. Some do it before 2. I always address my MBs by their first names. If everything is ok, he will figure it out soon.

I do remember one particular child that would call his mom and me, mommy. When he did it I would say my name and play a game with him like where is "Taylor" (his name)? and where is "Larla" (my name)? where is mommy? where is Daddy? in less than a month he figured it out.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 20:49     Subject: Re:Nanny calls me by my first name
My kids both knew way before 2 that Mommy and daddy had names and knew what they are. I think DS was younger than 1.5. Kids still called us Mommy and Daddy.


Is your child special needs, OP? I don’t mean to be offensive but I promise you if your child is developmentally normal, he’s not confused.


Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 20:45     Subject: Re:Nanny calls me by my first name
Does your husband call you “mommy”?
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 19:11     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:Which is great but DC is getting confused. He is 2 and when nanny says, "Good Morning, Mary", DC repeats "Mary" and not "Mommy".

What do you guys do about this? Generally, DH and I refer to each other as Mommy and Daddy in front of DC.

TIA

Curious what the above OP called the nanny.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 08:22     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:Do you want a situation in which your son is stranded and the police officer/other authority figure gets Mommy and Daddy as responses when asked what parents' names are? It happens, you turn around and the child isn't there, but it's not a big deal, as long as your child knows their first and last name, and full names for you and your husband.


We taught our daughter her last name and home address from a very early age.
DH lost her in town one day when she was 4, somebody took her to the closest police station where she was asked for her name - she only "knew" her first name and when asked where she lived she said "With mommy and daddy." Just because they "know" their full name and mommy's and daddy's name and their address doesn't mean that they will be able to tell anyone in an emergency. Unfortunately.

Regarding OP's question I really have no idea what she thinks nanny is supposed to say. Child will learn that mommy is mommy. No matter if nanny or next door neighbour or the lady next door call her by her first name. So far, to him "mommy" and "Mary" are only descriptions of her as a person. He most likely has no concept of "mom", yet. He calls her mom because she taught him to but that doesn't mean that he can connect the feelings he has for her as his mom to calling her mom. It really doesn't matter. He knows she's mom that's what is important.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2015 12:28     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
Anonymous wrote:Which is great but DC is getting confused. He is 2 and when nanny says, "Good Morning, Mary", DC repeats "Mary" and not "Mommy".

What do you guys do about this? Generally, DH and I refer to each other as Mommy and Daddy in front of DC.

TIA


Do you want a situation in which your son is stranded and the police officer/other authority figure gets Mommy and Daddy as responses when asked what parents' names are? It happens, you turn around and the child isn't there, but it's not a big deal, as long as your child knows their first and last name, and full names for you and your husband.
Anonymous
Post 09/20/2015 04:12     Subject: Nanny calls me by my first name
In all honesty, I would let it go.

Sure, you can always bring it up to her, but she may take offense as well as see it as a form of micro-management. I know I would.

Your child will learn to adapt later on. I promise you...This is not affecting him one bit.