Anonymous
09/17/2015 18:51
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
The nanny is there to care for children NOT to wait on mother. If you wsnt help, then hire you own, PERSONAL assistant. OP is a major PITA and I hope she leaves her to work for a decent, reasonable family.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 15:40
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
We had a blast the last month of my maternity leave. We switched off who got what kid once the baby was 6 weeks or so, and took a couple fun field trips a week.
I would try to take the baby upstairs with me a portion of the day so the toddler wouldn't get distracted from eating, playing, etc.
Both the nanny and the MB need to be realistic. It's MBs house, mat leave and kids. Yes nanny has a job, but she should be able to pitch in in a variety of ways. Going out for the morning sounds good too. Big deal, unless you said you wanted the toddler that morning in order to do something.
I would try to take the baby upstairs with me a portion of the day so the toddler wouldn't get distracted from eating, playing, etc.
Both the nanny and the MB need to be realistic. It's MBs house, mat leave and kids. Yes nanny has a job, but she should be able to pitch in in a variety of ways. Going out for the morning sounds good too. Big deal, unless you said you wanted the toddler that morning in order to do something.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 14:58
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
Really? WHERE??? I haven't seen a nanny not glued to her phone in the last year.
Because you don't notice the ones who are actually doing their job.
It is best to hire one over the age of 35. My nanny doesn't even have a data plan. There's not much for her to do on the phone anyway.
No, I am a children's librarian and I see nannies every single day. I have an older and wonderful nanny who carries a flip phone that only DH and I have the number to - but I have never known or seen a nanny as good as she is (she was a former preschool teacher and is a brilliant teacher). Trust me - I know who the nannies are and who the mothers are. Once the nannies are out of the sight of the nanny cam, the cell phone use is CONSTANT.
If you have a great nanny - like we do - you are never so cavalier about "just get another nanny" when anything goes wrong.
My advice, OP, is to back the hell down and stop the constant texting. Let your nanny do the job she was hired to do and fulfill the responsibility she will have when you go back to work.
I agree with you, but I don't really think that the OP has a great nanny. Great nannies don't make their employers feel uncomfortable or sneak off to the BK playground. I think that she would be better off firing her current nanny and at least giving herself the chance of hiring someone great.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 14:12
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
It seems to me that many if you resent your nannies. The horrible things you say about them is shocking. I am not a nanny and id this attitude is prevalent it is amazing that nannies stay with you
What really comes through is your jealousy.
What really comes through is your jealousy.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 10:06
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
Really? WHERE??? I haven't seen a nanny not glued to her phone in the last year.
Because you don't notice the ones who are actually doing their job.
It is best to hire one over the age of 35. My nanny doesn't even have a data plan. There's not much for her to do on the phone anyway.
No, I am a children's librarian and I see nannies every single day. I have an older and wonderful nanny who carries a flip phone that only DH and I have the number to - but I have never known or seen a nanny as good as she is (she was a former preschool teacher and is a brilliant teacher). Trust me - I know who the nannies are and who the mothers are. Once the nannies are out of the sight of the nanny cam, the cell phone use is CONSTANT.
If you have a great nanny - like we do - you are never so cavalier about "just get another nanny" when anything goes wrong.
My advice, OP, is to back the hell down and stop the constant texting. Let your nanny do the job she was hired to do and fulfill the responsibility she will have when you go back to work.
thank you!!! so true (nanny here)
Anonymous
09/17/2015 06:27
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to know how many parents on these boards only carry their no-data-plan flip phone that can only receive calls from their bosses with them at work!
And of course you all lock your Iphones in your desk for the day and ONLY look at them during your HR selected lunch that you eat with your superiors.
I bet you wouldn't be insulted at all if your boss implied that your age was a huge negative factor and they should really be hiring middle aged luddites because at least they never take their eyes off of their job duties!
Dcum nanny on display here! Come one, come all. See the positive, caring attitude for yourself! Nevermind the bitchy nonsensical attempt to convince you she isn't on her smartphone half the day.
You're an ass, PP.
However the ridiculous addiction to the cell phone is going to be the demise of childish nannies.
I agree with the librarian - good nannies are damn hard to find. So stop irritating your nanny, OP, and step back and let her care for your child/children.
Anonymous
09/17/2015 05:15
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:I'd love to know how many parents on these boards only carry their no-data-plan flip phone that can only receive calls from their bosses with them at work!
And of course you all lock your Iphones in your desk for the day and ONLY look at them during your HR selected lunch that you eat with your superiors.
I bet you wouldn't be insulted at all if your boss implied that your age was a huge negative factor and they should really be hiring middle aged luddites because at least they never take their eyes off of their job duties!
Dcum nanny on display here! Come one, come all. See the positive, caring attitude for yourself! Nevermind the bitchy nonsensical attempt to convince you she isn't on her smartphone half the day.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 23:55
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Can you blame her?
Anonymous
09/16/2015 21:45
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
I'd love to know how many parents on these boards only carry their no-data-plan flip phone that can only receive calls from their bosses with them at work!
And of course you all lock your Iphones in your desk for the day and ONLY look at them during your HR selected lunch that you eat with your superiors.
I bet you wouldn't be insulted at all if your boss implied that your age was a huge negative factor and they should really be hiring middle aged luddites because at least they never take their eyes off of their job duties!
And of course you all lock your Iphones in your desk for the day and ONLY look at them during your HR selected lunch that you eat with your superiors.
I bet you wouldn't be insulted at all if your boss implied that your age was a huge negative factor and they should really be hiring middle aged luddites because at least they never take their eyes off of their job duties!
Anonymous
09/16/2015 21:27
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
Really? WHERE??? I haven't seen a nanny not glued to her phone in the last year.
Because you don't notice the ones who are actually doing their job.
It is best to hire one over the age of 35. My nanny doesn't even have a data plan. There's not much for her to do on the phone anyway.
No, I am a children's librarian and I see nannies every single day. I have an older and wonderful nanny who carries a flip phone that only DH and I have the number to - but I have never known or seen a nanny as good as she is (she was a former preschool teacher and is a brilliant teacher). Trust me - I know who the nannies are and who the mothers are. Once the nannies are out of the sight of the nanny cam, the cell phone use is CONSTANT.
If you have a great nanny - like we do - you are never so cavalier about "just get another nanny" when anything goes wrong.
My advice, OP, is to back the hell down and stop the constant texting. Let your nanny do the job she was hired to do and fulfill the responsibility she will have when you go back to work.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 21:07
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
Really? WHERE??? I haven't seen a nanny not glued to her phone in the last year.
Because you don't notice the ones who are actually doing their job.
It is best to hire one over the age of 35. My nanny doesn't even have a data plan. There's not much for her to do on the phone anyway.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 21:06
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
When my bosses work from home, I try to be out of the house as much as possible. The kids just act up more with the parents around and will go ask them for studs after I already said no and such things.
It's just easier to not be around as much.
Having you there all day not working while she's there for 10 hours is probably really hard on her. And your child is in the prime age to act up around you.
Just have her let you know if they stay out a little after class so you know where they are. But let her have a little breather.
It's just easier to not be around as much.
Having you there all day not working while she's there for 10 hours is probably really hard on her. And your child is in the prime age to act up around you.
Just have her let you know if they stay out a little after class so you know where they are. But let her have a little breather.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 20:58
Subject: Re:I think my nanny is avoiding me....
You are probably bugging the crap out of her. Seriously, lay off the constant texting and let her do her job.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 20:57
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
Really? WHERE??? I haven't seen a nanny not glued to her phone in the last year.
Anonymous
09/16/2015 20:55
Subject: I think my nanny is avoiding me....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Fire here and hire a new one when your leave is up. There are so many great qualified nannies out there.
I agree. 90% of the nannies out there are good with kids. You need to find someone who is also great for you and makes your life easier. After all, that is why you hired a nanny. I would not tolerate my nanny lying to me about where my kids are, and I do not want to have to walk on eggshells in my own home. If she is an introvert, but you need to be in constant contact, then you two are not a good match. There are plenty of extroverted nannies out there who are happy to send pictures of their charges. Find one.
You don't have to be an extrovert to send a picture.