Anonymous
Post 09/15/2015 09:30     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.


That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?


Actually, in many jobs there are team lunches, client lunches, etc, which means it is dictated when, with whom, and to some extent what (if you go to a certain restaurant) you eat! Another example of nannies thinking there job is in some super-special category without the requirements many working people face.


What job has corporate/client lunches every single day?
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2015 09:28     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.


That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?


Actually, in many jobs there are team lunches, client lunches, etc, which means it is dictated when, with whom, and to some extent what (if you go to a certain restaurant) you eat! Another example of nannies thinking there job is in some super-special category without the requirements many working people face.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2015 07:33     Subject: Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:I think it is very important that DC always have "family meals". Our nanny, who is wonderful, is always on a diet and prefers to eat her lunch (which she brings everyday) after DC goes down for her nap. While I understand her position, I think it is important that DC eat lunch with the nanny.

Anyone else face this and what did you do?



Of corse nanny like to have peaceful time when the baby or kids going to take the nap.
Just respect her.
Anonymous
Post 09/15/2015 06:37     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.


I don't think anyone is suggesting the nanny should leave DC alone at the table. Op doesn't seem to be asking just that the nanny sit there either.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 23:26     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.


That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?[/quote

We actually agree- my point was that you can do whatever and still give a child the experience of enjoying a meal together (I don't think a nf should try to say what a nanny eats. But seem reasonable to sit with the child while the child eats).
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 22:57     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.


That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 22:49     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Get a life that is not your business about her diet I hope you get help .
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 22:48     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Get a life that is not your business about her diet I hope you get help .
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 22:35     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 14:21     Subject: Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Most toddlers love nibble trays ! Google nibble tray for some ideas
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 13:58     Subject: Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Maybe she's used to those nutty "don't touch my food" parents. So she got used to having to bring her own food every day.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 13:47     Subject: Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Ask her how she can help you get the child to eat and eat well-balanced meals.
That is a basic nanny duty (nutritious child meals, feed child) and good nannies will have some good ideas to try.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 13:13     Subject: Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Nope this is over the line. I understand your concerns, but take care of it during breakfast and dinner, and don't try to control her lunch. You cannot tell her when or what to eat, simply that she sit with him during his lunch. Kids are not fun to eat with, especially if they aren't your own. Don't take this one grownup downtime activity away from her. And don't try to force her to eat things she doesn't want to! What does your therapist say about that???
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 13:13     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have her fake it. Kid will see right through that.


Not until age 2.5. Before that they want to use the fork themselves and are learning different foods, chewing, getting more teeth finally, and mirroring adults!
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2015 12:10     Subject: Re:Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC
Op, have you considered that your nanny might need the down time to actually enjoy her meal (whatever it is) and not have to rush? I've tried eating with DC and find that I end up with a cold blob of congealed mess at the end as it's impossible to eat my own food and make sure DC stays seated and isn't throwing food or painting his potatoes all over the high chair. Also, one meal per day can't possibly make or break your child's nutritional goals. Is this really necessary or something that would be nice/ideal?