Another vote here for Do Not Sign. They obviously have something up their sleeve. Happens all the time.

A non disclosure to protect their child? Sounds like they intend to try to keep his special needs a secret when hiring and wouldn't want you to spoil it. I wouldn't agree to sign anything without an explanation. And like another poster said, get an equivalent agreement signed by them and a glowing reference letter!

I would not sign. No reasonto sign. If she ever bad mouths you, you can sue her.

the original poster said she was let go immediately and was paid up salary wise. Maybe they gave her severance, but the poster doesn't mention it either way expect that she is paid up.

Why can't you answer why the NF shouldn't pay the nanny the two weeks severance??

Anonymous wrote:Long story short...
I worked for a family for a few mo with a high functioning child. Had a decent relationship with parents. I got an unexpected job offer that was a big step up in terms of pay/benefits/dependability etc. I decide to take the job, I gave my two weeks(with the option of 4 if needed. MB in a big tantrum let me go immediately. Then I hear from them a few hours later saying they want me to sign a non disclosure agreement to "protect" their child. I am a good nanny, but also I like to think I am a decent person. I would never speak badly of a child let alone medical issues. I am all paid up salary wise, and really I have no incentive to sign. I kind of ignored the request but now I have received another email saying to please sign, and that they will change the agreement to include that they will not talk about me. I guess I am curious on what you would do? I mean what are they going to say about me? I gave appropriate notice,I was polite and considerate, I even offered to help them find someone else.

OP, what is the harm in signing? You don't plan to talk about the child ever, and it sounds like it's important to the family for some unfathomable reason. I don't see how signing this damages your standing or limits your options in any way, so why not? I am assuming that with this agreement in place, they still will give you a good reference and speak of you well if contacted.

I would just sign it. She should have asked at the beginning of employment, but did not. Something has freaked her out and if you agree with the principles of non-disclosure agreements I would sign it. I assume when you didn't respond to the first request they probably thought long and hard about what you were thinking so offered the same to you thinking you were worried or that somehow the agreement wasn't balanced.

I think signing it is showing good will. Also - as an MB, it is unfortunate, but reference letters don't mean much. You could write them yourself, so unless I can call a previous employer, I really don't rely on them much. She is much more likely to give you a glowing review if you are cooperative and not combative. Is there any reason not to sign?

We have a non-disclosure agreement in our work agreement. I hadn't ever thought of it until a friend mentioned it. I assume our nanny sees and hears things that would normally be private. It is simply saying, please do not gossip about how much junk food I eat or bank statements lying around or whatever.

Anonymous wrote:I would not consider signing until you have examined her reference letter. Has she even given you one yet? Even if you don't necessarily need it, I'd first want to see exactly what she has to say about your work, and if it was honest or not. You want this in writing.

This NF has already proven themselves to be untrustworthy, from what I can see. They're likely to screw you even more as soon as they think they can get away with it.

Her nasty reaction to your notice is all too common.

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There's something fishy about her saying that she wouldn't talk about you if you signed.

Also, conduct all communication with this woman in writing. Explain that you never reveal personal information about your past charges or their families, and fully intend to honor her child's privacy, but you don't understand why she's asking you to sign a non-disclosure agreement now, especially given that she fired you when you gave her two weeks' notice.

I would not consider signing until you have examined her reference letter. Has she even given you one yet? Even if you don't necessarily need it, I'd first want to see exactly what she has to say about your work, and if it was honest or not. You want this in writing.

This NF has already proven themselves to be untrustworthy, from what I can see. They're likely to screw you even more as soon as they think they can get away with it.

Her nasty reaction to your notice is all too common.

Sign the agreement, OP, and move on with your life. You never know when bad employers (and these were clearly bad employers) may come back to haunt you in the future. Especially in DC when you or your DH may need security clearance one day.

Good luck in your new career!

MB here.

These parents are idiots. A non-disclosure agreement is done concurrent with hiring, or with dismissal. It isn't done after the fact as they are trying to do.

It also reads to me a bit like a threat - you sign this and we'll do the same, read a bit to me like they might be threatening to not give you the best reference in the future.

In any case, it sounds like you're well rid of them. It also sounds like you would have zero problems signing such a document as it's in line w/your personal and professional ethics anyway.

So, in your own best interests then I would tell them that of course you would be happy to sign something like that, as it would in no way ever occur to you to disparage any child, let alone their perfectly lovely charge whom you enjoyed caring for. Then make sure you do in fact get the equivalent document from them, along with a glowing reference letter.

Seems like you could protect yourself a bit here by giving them what they want, and if she's a loose cannon (as her behavior would seem to indicate) it would serve you well to have good written references as well as something they sign that they feel binds them to non-disparagement.

Make it work for you, and be glad you moved on!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you wouldn't simply sign the agreement. I work for high profile families and nondisclosure statements are always presented at the start of employment but I would have no issue with signing one after the fact.

Why don't you want to sign it, OP?

Shouldn't NF pay the nanny for the two week notice period they were given?

Why not?

Sure if it was written into the contract. Like a PP, I just don't see the big deal in signing after the fact.

Anonymous wrote:There's only one shameless person here encouraging the poor nanny to be a doormat. Enough is enough of that.

Yes, we all heard you, PP. Now please - stop. NP here and I don;t agree with the PP but I am certainly not going to sink into name calling.

Grow the fuck up, PP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you wouldn't simply sign the agreement. I work for high profile families and nondisclosure statements are always presented at the start of employment but I would have no issue with signing one after the fact.

Why don't you want to sign it, OP?

Shouldn't NF pay the nanny for the two week notice period they were given?

Why not?

There's only one shameless person here encouraging the poor nanny to be a doormat. Enough is enough of that.