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Anonymous wrote:This is my new mantra. I am tired of every tiny decision I make regarding my charge being questioned and contradicted. From now on I will have no opinion or advice when asked - "whatever you feel is best" is my new response to anything and everything MB asks. If she feels that my charge should never touch a leaf or blade of grass due to the potentially toxic pesticides which are banned in our area - fine. His feet and hands will never leave the stroller again. If she feels that non-fat milk is the best choice for a 20 month old baby - fine. No more discussion from me.

I will continue to do the very best I can for my charge within his mother's guidelines. I am done receiving constant criticism when the choice is left to me and I always seem to make the wrong choice in her eyes. (If I make him broccoli, MB tells me it should have been green beans. If I make him green beans, MB tells me it should have been broccoli.)

I have been my charge's nanny since he was born. Everyone tells me how wonderful I am with him - his "Parent & Me" teacher, the librarians at the children's library, the "Music Together" teacher, neighbors who see us out and about -- but all I ever hear from MB is what she thinks I am doing wrong. My weekend nanny job made me realize how bad the MB/DB of my weekday job are.

I stay in this job ONLY because I love my charge and am not happy with any thought of leaving him.

Vent over. Thank you.

I certainly don't want to hand hold my nanny through things, so I'd get sick of that fast.
I noticed you praise yourself and give examples only of fun stuff like outings and playing. What about the equally important things such as nutrition, meal planning, cleaning up habits, nap time discipline, and potty training? Nannying is more than guzzling up play classes, and you have to be good at it all to do well.

You see going to library story time with a room full of two and three year olds "fun stuff"?! LOL You need to get out more, PP. Clearly you have never been to one or a Music Together Class or Parent & Me with a two-year-old. You're an ass, PP, and offer no help to OP whatsoever. Do you seriously think that a nanny who is reprimanded for serving broccoli over green beans is going to get any say whatsoever in potty training, meal planning, nap time discipline, etc.?

Folks, now here is someone you should have watching your children 9 hours a day. What a role model indeed.

LOL God, PP you really are an ass! But thanks so much for my first good laugh of the day!

no, no thank YOU for serving up some choice DCUM nanny curses and diction and then getting called out on it. anytime, anytime! LOL LOL LOL #$@&

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't understand the nannies on this board who seem to have an issue with having an employer and that a job means following the employer's wishes.

Seriously, it is her child and she has the absolute right to have preferences on how to care for that child and expect the nanny to follow her directions.

That doesn't give her an excuse to be rude, but nearly all the responses on this thread make no mention of that. This is just another MB bashing thread merely because she has directions she expects her employee to follow.

I don't get it and reading the hatred you all have for MBs, I wonder why you bother to be in the childcare field. You all sound absolutely horrid.

OP here. I have no issue whatsoever with "following the employer's issues". I have an issue with being asked my opinion/advice on something and then MB directly contradicting me. Let me give you and example - and this is basically word-for-word:

MB: "Larla [her Facebook friend with a severe eating disorder] switched her daughter to nonfat milk. Do you think that is something we should do with Baby [who is 20 months old]?

Me: No. The American Pediatric Association recommends keeping a baby on whole milk for the first two years. And so many of the vitamins in milk are fat-soluable so Baby won't get those nutrients with nonfat milk.

MB: I'm going to try it anyway.

Of course she has the right to do whatever she thinks is best for her baby - so why bother to ask me?! If feels very dismissive to be actively asked your opinion - and then discard it with no reason given except that it is what you want to do. This has been happening with virtually everything lately. If you feel this is the correct way to handle an employee then you and I simply need to agree to disagree.


And to the PP who thinks I am only in it for the "fun stuff"... That is simply nonsense. I care for him every single day to the very best of my ability. Because of my experience and education, as well as my gentle consistency, my charge sleeps, eats, behaves and learns well for the entire time I am with him. I know what I am doing and I love doing it. I don't consider story time or classes "fun stuff" but I am happy to do it as those classes are in my charge's best interest.


And to those who think that loving my charge isn't enough of a reason to stay... That is my only reason. I cannot defend or explain it beyond my devotion to him and his well-being. Of course he will love his next nanny and of course I will love my next charge. But right now staying with this charge feels like the right thing to do for me.


This was clearly labeled as a VENT.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is my new mantra. I am tired of every tiny decision I make regarding my charge being questioned and contradicted. From now on I will have no opinion or advice when asked - "whatever you feel is best" is my new response to anything and everything MB asks. If she feels that my charge should never touch a leaf or blade of grass due to the potentially toxic pesticides which are banned in our area - fine. His feet and hands will never leave the stroller again. If she feels that non-fat milk is the best choice for a 20 month old baby - fine. No more discussion from me.

I will continue to do the very best I can for my charge within his mother's guidelines. I am done receiving constant criticism when the choice is left to me and I always seem to make the wrong choice in her eyes. (If I make him broccoli, MB tells me it should have been green beans. If I make him green beans, MB tells me it should have been broccoli.)

I have been my charge's nanny since he was born. Everyone tells me how wonderful I am with him - his "Parent & Me" teacher, the librarians at the children's library, the "Music Together" teacher, neighbors who see us out and about -- but all I ever hear from MB is what she thinks I am doing wrong. My weekend nanny job made me realize how bad the MB/DB of my weekday job are.

I stay in this job ONLY because I love my charge and am not happy with any thought of leaving him.

Vent over. Thank you.

I certainly don't want to hand hold my nanny through things, so I'd get sick of that fast.
I noticed you praise yourself and give examples only of fun stuff like outings and playing. What about the equally important things such as nutrition, meal planning, cleaning up habits, nap time discipline, and potty training? Nannying is more than guzzling up play classes, and you have to be good at it all to do well.

You see going to library story time with a room full of two and three year olds "fun stuff"?! LOL You need to get out more, PP. Clearly you have never been to one or a Music Together Class or Parent & Me with a two-year-old. You're an ass, PP, and offer no help to OP whatsoever. Do you seriously think that a nanny who is reprimanded for serving broccoli over green beans is going to get any say whatsoever in potty training, meal planning, nap time discipline, etc.?

Folks, now here is someone you should have watching your children 9 hours a day. What a role model indeed.

LOL God, PP you really are an ass! But thanks so much for my first good laugh of the day!

Anonymous wrote:sounds like someone doesn't like nannying! wow.

if you don't like going to Gymboree with a toddler, what aspect of nannying do you like? Naptime (aka, browse the internet on your phone time)?

Go away, Troll, and try to find a life of your own.

While I suspect this thread is no one but trolls now...OP, tou either are a great nanny who ended up with a crappy employer and you need to work on your interview/screening skills and find a new job

OR

There is something in your overall performance that leads MB to think you need this level of supervision, in which case you need to take a long hard look at yourself and acquire any skills you are weak in, then find a new job.

Either way, it is beyond stupid when nannies say that they won't leave because they love their charge too much even though they have a terrible relationship with one or both parents. No. Your job is to support that entire family and if you have an acrimonious relationship with the parents then you are not a good fit. Your charge may love you, but he/she will love the next nanny too, and the next nanny may allow him to see positive and healthy interactions between his primary caregivers AND may be able to offer the parents advice and have them actually take it, because a mutually respectful relationship allows for that.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my new mantra. I am tired of every tiny decision I make regarding my charge being questioned and contradicted. From now on I will have no opinion or advice when asked - "whatever you feel is best" is my new response to anything and everything MB asks. If she feels that my charge should never touch a leaf or blade of grass due to the potentially toxic pesticides which are banned in our area - fine. His feet and hands will never leave the stroller again. If she feels that non-fat milk is the best choice for a 20 month old baby - fine. No more discussion from me.

I will continue to do the very best I can for my charge within his mother's guidelines. I am done receiving constant criticism when the choice is left to me and I always seem to make the wrong choice in her eyes. (If I make him broccoli, MB tells me it should have been green beans. If I make him green beans, MB tells me it should have been broccoli.)

I have been my charge's nanny since he was born. Everyone tells me how wonderful I am with him - his "Parent & Me" teacher, the librarians at the children's library, the "Music Together" teacher, neighbors who see us out and about -- but all I ever hear from MB is what she thinks I am doing wrong. My weekend nanny job made me realize how bad the MB/DB of my weekday job are.

I stay in this job ONLY because I love my charge and am not happy with any thought of leaving him.

Vent over. Thank you.

I certainly don't want to hand hold my nanny through things, so I'd get sick of that fast.
I noticed you praise yourself and give examples only of fun stuff like outings and playing. What about the equally important things such as nutrition, meal planning, cleaning up habits, nap time discipline, and potty training? Nannying is more than guzzling up play classes, and you have to be good at it all to do well.

You see going to library story time with a room full of two and three year olds "fun stuff"?! LOL You need to get out more, PP. Clearly you have never been to one or a Music Together Class or Parent & Me with a two-year-old. You're an ass, PP, and offer no help to OP whatsoever. Do you seriously think that a nanny who is reprimanded for serving broccoli over green beans is going to get any say whatsoever in potty training, meal planning, nap time discipline, etc.?

Folks, now here is someone you should have watching your children 9 hours a day. What a role model indeed.

sounds like someone doesn't like nannying! wow.

if you don't like going to Gymboree with a toddler, what aspect of nannying do you like? Naptime (aka, browse the internet on your phone time)?

This is a Nanny Forum. Nannies have the right to vent here. Maybe if the MBs just shut up for a second and read they would learn something. OP loves her charge and is devoted to him. She is tired of her MB's constant criticism. I get it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my new mantra. I am tired of every tiny decision I make regarding my charge being questioned and contradicted. From now on I will have no opinion or advice when asked - "whatever you feel is best" is my new response to anything and everything MB asks. If she feels that my charge should never touch a leaf or blade of grass due to the potentially toxic pesticides which are banned in our area - fine. His feet and hands will never leave the stroller again. If she feels that non-fat milk is the best choice for a 20 month old baby - fine. No more discussion from me.

I will continue to do the very best I can for my charge within his mother's guidelines. I am done receiving constant criticism when the choice is left to me and I always seem to make the wrong choice in her eyes. (If I make him broccoli, MB tells me it should have been green beans. If I make him green beans, MB tells me it should have been broccoli.)

I have been my charge's nanny since he was born. Everyone tells me how wonderful I am with him - his "Parent & Me" teacher, the librarians at the children's library, the "Music Together" teacher, neighbors who see us out and about -- but all I ever hear from MB is what she thinks I am doing wrong. My weekend nanny job made me realize how bad the MB/DB of my weekday job are.

I stay in this job ONLY because I love my charge and am not happy with any thought of leaving him.

Vent over. Thank you.

I certainly don't want to hand hold my nanny through things, so I'd get sick of that fast.
I noticed you praise yourself and give examples only of fun stuff like outings and playing. What about the equally important things such as nutrition, meal planning, cleaning up habits, nap time discipline, and potty training? Nannying is more than guzzling up play classes, and you have to be good at it all to do well.

You see going to library story time with a room full of two and three year olds "fun stuff"?! LOL You need to get out more, PP. Clearly you have never been to one or a Music Together Class or Parent & Me with a two-year-old. You're an ass, PP, and offer no help to OP whatsoever. Do you seriously think that a nanny who is reprimanded for serving broccoli over green beans is going to get any say whatsoever in potty training, meal planning, nap time discipline, etc.?

Anonymous wrote:This is my new mantra. I am tired of every tiny decision I make regarding my charge being questioned and contradicted. From now on I will have no opinion or advice when asked - "whatever you feel is best" is my new response to anything and everything MB asks. If she feels that my charge should never touch a leaf or blade of grass due to the potentially toxic pesticides which are banned in our area - fine. His feet and hands will never leave the stroller again. If she feels that non-fat milk is the best choice for a 20 month old baby - fine. No more discussion from me.

I will continue to do the very best I can for my charge within his mother's guidelines. I am done receiving constant criticism when the choice is left to me and I always seem to make the wrong choice in her eyes. (If I make him broccoli, MB tells me it should have been green beans. If I make him green beans, MB tells me it should have been broccoli.)

I have been my charge's nanny since he was born. Everyone tells me how wonderful I am with him - his "Parent & Me" teacher, the librarians at the children's library, the "Music Together" teacher, neighbors who see us out and about -- but all I ever hear from MB is what she thinks I am doing wrong. My weekend nanny job made me realize how bad the MB/DB of my weekday job are.

I stay in this job ONLY because I love my charge and am not happy with any thought of leaving him.

Vent over. Thank you.

I certainly don't want to hand hold my nanny through things, so I'd get sick of that fast.
I noticed you praise yourself and give examples only of fun stuff like outings and playing. What about the equally important things such as nutrition, meal planning, cleaning up habits, nap time discipline, and potty training? Nannying is more than guzzling up play classes, and you have to be good at it all to do well.

I am in a similar situation, OP. I truly love my charge, am well-paid and my commute is two short city blocks everyday. But my MB... I have decided to start asking her direct instructions as when I make a decision lately (like your broccoli -green bean example) it just ends up as a criticism. It is very disheartening and demoralizing.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't understand the nannies on this board who seem to have an issue with having an employer and that a job means following the employer's wishes.

Seriously, it is her child and she has the absolute right to have preferences on how to care for that child and expect the nanny to follow her directions.

That doesn't give her an excuse to be rude, but nearly all the responses on this thread make no mention of that. This is just another MB bashing thread merely because she has directions she expects her employee to follow.

I don't get it and reading the hatred you all have for MBs, I wonder why you bother to be in the childcare field. You all sound absolutely horrid.

And you sound lovely.

+1 And yet so poor at reading comprehension. GO back and read OP's original post as your response is way off base.

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't understand the nannies on this board who seem to have an issue with having an employer and that a job means following the employer's wishes.

Seriously, it is her child and she has the absolute right to have preferences on how to care for that child and expect the nanny to follow her directions.

That doesn't give her an excuse to be rude, but nearly all the responses on this thread make no mention of that. This is just another MB bashing thread merely because she has directions she expects her employee to follow.

I don't get it and reading the hatred you all have for MBs, I wonder why you bother to be in the childcare field. You all sound absolutely horrid.

And you sound lovely.

I honestly don't understand the nannies on this board who seem to have an issue with having an employer and that a job means following the employer's wishes.

Seriously, it is her child and she has the absolute right to have preferences on how to care for that child and expect the nanny to follow her directions.

That doesn't give her an excuse to be rude, but nearly all the responses on this thread make no mention of that. This is just another MB bashing thread merely because she has directions she expects her employee to follow.

I don't get it and reading the hatred you all have for MBs, I wonder why you bother to be in the childcare field. You all sound absolutely horrid.

Ugh, I'd quit. I will not be able to do my job properly and expose children to healthy foods and activities if they can't leave the stroller and are given nonfat milk. I'll never be a party to that type of detrimental behavior, even if it isn't quite disastrous. I mean, how much longer until he starts shrieking his head off because he can't get out of the stroller? No thanks, do not need the headache.