Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the other family even require full time care?

OP here and yes. The other family currently has a weekday nanny as well. And our nanny is truly a great nanny.


And to the other PP - I don't micromanage but I have made decisions for DS that I know Nanny disagrees with (potty training, for example, nanny thinks we should have started at 18 months but I want to wait until after DS is 2). Nanny always does as I request but does make her opinion known.

WTF is wrong with people. Needing a nanny for 7 days a week? Pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

OP here and our nanny is NOT a pain in the ass and she is quite extraordinary. I will not find someone like her again as I have never met anyone like her. I don't want just any available nanny for my son and would pay double her current hourly wage if I could. My son loves her.

I don't like posts like yours, PP. Way too callous and generalizing for my taste.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

OP here and our nanny is NOT a pain in the ass and she is quite extraordinary. I will not find someone like her again as I have never met anyone like her. I don't want just any available nanny for my son and would pay double her current hourly wage if I could. My son loves her.

I don't like posts like yours, PP. Way too callous and generalizing for my taste.

Wth? lol I think the poster was saying that your stressing about this is a pita for you, not your actual nanny. But we all know what we would do if we could. It doesn't change the fact that you can't really afford her and it's sad we all know. But don't forget that she hasn't said anything yet to make you worry so just do what you have to do and relax until notice is given. You never know, her being able to walk vs better pay across town may be a perk for her

NP here and I agree with OP on this. PP said there were "tons of available nannies" out there and that her child will be fine with a new nanny. I agree it sounded very callous. Like someone who could hire any illegal nanny and not tell one from the other.

I like OP and I bet her nanny does, too. You should worry that you are going to lose something special when you have something special. Talk to your nanny, OP. I know that I would not voluntarily leave my charge at double the price and your nanny may be like me. I will happily transition to a new job when he no longer needs me but I will never quit him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the other family even require full time care?

OP here and yes. The other family currently has a weekday nanny as well. And our nanny is truly a great nanny.


And to the other PP - I don't micromanage but I have made decisions for DS that I know Nanny disagrees with (potty training, for example, nanny thinks we should have started at 18 months but I want to wait until after DS is 2). Nanny always does as I request but does make her opinion known.

WTF is wrong with people. Needing a nanny for 7 days a week? Pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the other family even require full time care?

OP here and yes. The other family currently has a weekday nanny as well. And our nanny is truly a great nanny.


And to the other PP - I don't micromanage but I have made decisions for DS that I know Nanny disagrees with (potty training, for example, nanny thinks we should have started at 18 months but I want to wait until after DS is 2). Nanny always does as I request but does make her opinion known.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

OP here and our nanny is NOT a pain in the ass and she is quite extraordinary. I will not find someone like her again as I have never met anyone like her. I don't want just any available nanny for my son and would pay double her current hourly wage if I could. My son loves her.

I don't like posts like yours, PP. Way too callous and generalizing for my taste.

Wth? lol I think the poster was saying that your stressing about this is a pita for you, not your actual nanny. But we all know what we would do if we could. It doesn't change the fact that you can't really afford her and it's sad we all know. But don't forget that she hasn't said anything yet to make you worry so just do what you have to do and relax until notice is given. You never know, her being able to walk vs better pay across town may be a perk for her

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

OP here and our nanny is NOT a pain in the ass and she is quite extraordinary. I will not find someone like her again as I have never met anyone like her. I don't want just any available nanny for my son and would pay double her current hourly wage if I could. My son loves her.

I don't like posts like yours, PP. Way too callous and generalizing for my taste.

Anonymous wrote:op, how do you plan on increasing your nannys salary when the baby is born?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends. She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us. The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive. She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2. And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her. We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more. We are renting and DH is still in graduate school. I know Nanny is devoted to my child but... Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA

Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask. Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition. They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait so she went from working 35 hours a week to 45 and you didn't increase her pay?

OP here no - her hourly rate is the same with the exception of 5 hours at time and a half. We simply cannot afford anymore.

Oh well with that being said, she's probably trying to get on at the weekend job after all. I know that I would be looking for a better position if I were her. No offense op but nannies need to climb up the payscale, pay bills, put food on the table etc like everyone else. It may be a good thing when she gives you notice. That way you can readvertise your position and make adjustments to hire within your budget or just find a different form of care if you can't really afford to have a full time nanny.

Actually a majority of nannies will take an $800/ week 50/ hr a week job over a parttim even 30 hour a week job, I?f they need to pay the bills. More hours does not mean a higher rate, it's quite the opposite of. We pay our former FT nanny more per hour, now that we only need her after school, it is not the same bug total as fulltime but we all found it works well.