I have been an nanny and now mommy personally I prefer at least 1st playmates with me present just so I can see interaction. If play date for whatever reason should be when I'm not home then child must have parent or nanny present end of story. I having ten hour play date is a like having another child there and nanny should be compensated.

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Anonymous wrote:I refuse hour-long play-dates with a child I don't care for so yes, refusing a ten hour play-date is more than reasonable.

So basically your charges never gets to see their friends. What an awesome nanny you are.

Let's blame the real culprit here, the parents. What shitty parents for hiring such a horrible nanny.

Just say no, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm actually the nanny. I didn't want to write from my side because some people automatically jump to certain responses when it is the nanny writing. There are other assumptions when it is the mb writing. Also, try will not be paying me for the time with the extra kid.

OP you are confusing everybody here. When you post a thread be clear so that everyone can give you good advice.

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Anonymous wrote:I refuse hour-long play-dates with a child I don't care for so yes, refusing a ten hour play-date is more than reasonable.

So basically your charges never gets to see their friends. What an awesome nanny you are.

There is only one friend of my charge's that I don't care for. My charge has parents who can invite this obnoxious brat over anytime they are with their own child.

But yes, I truly am an awesome nanny.

That isn't a playdate, that is free child care for the other family. Plus, I think the nanny's employers should listen to her opinion regarding the children's difficulty getting along.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm actually the nanny. I didn't want to write from my side because some people automatically jump to certain responses when it is the nanny writing. There are other assumptions when it is the mb writing. Also, try will not be paying me for the time with the extra kid.

If you put up with that, you're a doormat.

Sounds like a big mess. If the kids don't get along, then it's silly and I agree that 10 hour playdates is really child care. But, my son has a 5 hour play date today - it's summer and my nanny would prefer that he have something to do so she usually likes it better when he has a friend over. If the nanny wants to say no, she should be able to and she should also certainly tell the mom that the kids don't get along so that is too long.

Anonymous wrote:I refuse hour-long play-dates with a child I don't care for so yes, refusing a ten hour play-date is more than reasonable.

So basically your charges never gets to see their friends. What an awesome nanny you are.

Op here. I'm actually the nanny. I didn't want to write from my side because some people automatically jump to certain responses when it is the nanny writing. There are other assumptions when it is the mb writing. Also, try will not be paying me for the time with the extra kid.

Anonymous wrote:And is it okay for her to say no?

Here's the situation. Mom asked nanny to supervise playdate. Nanny states that she knows the boys don't really get along. Every day at school (and now camp) there is a situation between the two of the kids. Nanny said she doesn't feel comfortable with this play date on Friday when there is no camp. Nanny would be with the boys in the nanny family's home and will be from 8 am till 6 pm .

You're the mother of the problem child looking for free childcare, right? You should be ashamed of yourself, OP.

I ask my nanny if she is okay playing with a friend's child (and my child) for five minutes when a friend comes over to drop something off and I would absolutely respect her decision if she said no. So ten hours?! Come on, of course the nanny has more than a right to say no.

10 hours is childcare, not a play date.

I refuse hour-long play-dates with a child I don't care for so yes, refusing a ten hour play-date is more than reasonable.

As the parent, it would be extremely disrespectful of him/her to ask their nanny to watch two children who do not get along very well. And most especially for a whole TEN hours!!

Said nanny has already told her employer that she does not want to do it, so why would the employer ask her to do it when she has already made herself perfectly clear...??

Employers need to respect their nannies.

Happy Nanny = Happy Child.

Simple as that.