Anonymous wrote:This is a really interesting topic and a complicated one. I think as a MOM you should be understanding of her pregnancy.

Some parents have unrealistic expectations. This I never quite understood when parents expected me to have the energy, creativity and to constantly entertain their children for hours straight without any breaks but when they take over, they only have enough patience to be around their children for five minutes and then send them off to another room.

And hovering/ work at home parents suck. Their presence is a distraction to the children. Also, I tend to feel very self-conscious when I know I am being watched, which may inadvertently compromise my work. It’s one thing to work as a team, but completely different when I feel that I am under harsh scrutiny.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a really interesting topic and a complicated one. I think as a MOM you should be understanding of her pregnancy.

Some parents have unrealistic expectations. This I never quite understood when parents expected me to have the energy, creativity and to constantly entertain their children for hours straight without any breaks but when they take over, they only have enough patience to be around their children for five minutes and then send them off to another room.

And hovering/ work at home parents suck. Their presence is a distraction to the children. Also, I tend to feel very self-conscious when I know I am being watched, which may inadvertently compromise my work. It’s one thing to work as a team, but completely different when I feel that I am under harsh scrutiny.

It's not about being understanding or not. The point is that for whatever reason--be it a totally legitimate one or not, it doesn't matter--this nanny cannot perform the duties of her job. Her job includes picking the child up and taking the child outside. There are no reasonable accommodation to be made in this situation as there isn't anyone else there to help her perform said tasks. She needs to go. Period.

Anonymous wrote:If you regularly lift heavy loads in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, particularly if it's from the waist, it may increase your risk of miscarriage.

Cite, please.

Anonymous wrote:This is a really interesting topic and a complicated one. I think as a MOM you should be understanding of her pregnancy.

Some parents have unrealistic expectations. This I never quite understood when parents expected me to have the energy, creativity and to constantly entertain their children for hours straight without any breaks but when they take over, they only have enough patience to be around their children for five minutes and then send them off to another room.

And hovering/ work at home parents suck. Their presence is a distraction to the children. Also, I tend to feel very self-conscious when I know I am being watched, which may inadvertently compromise my work. It’s one thing to work as a team, but completely different when I feel that I am under harsh scrutiny.

I don't understand why she can't go outside. I don't understand why she can't lift stuff. I did not have those restrictions, and when I gasped and asked if everything was ok, she said yes and acted confused that I was even worried.

And nannies who think their MB's suck just for working from home are the ones who suck. Honestly.

Anonymous wrote:I had 2 toddlers when I was pregnant. I was 8 and 9 months during the hottest summer ever...I picked them both up at times! Your nanny is being ridiculous!

Ha not everyone has the same pregnancy.

18:51 Here...the first trimester was definitely difficult because I was exhausted and nauseated. It was still winter but we still got out as much as possible. Was it difficult? Yes, but I trudged on and the 2nd trimester was a breeze. Only got super tired the last 6 weeks of pregnancy which is when I quit working.

I had 2 toddlers when I was pregnant. I was 8 and 9 months during the hottest summer ever...I picked them both up at times! Your nanny is being ridiculous!

This is a really interesting topic and a complicated one. I think as a MOM you should be understanding of her pregnancy.

Some parents have unrealistic expectations. This I never quite understood when parents expected me to have the energy, creativity and to constantly entertain their children for hours straight without any breaks but when they take over, they only have enough patience to be around their children for five minutes and then send them off to another room.

And hovering/ work at home parents suck. Their presence is a distraction to the children. Also, I tend to feel very self-conscious when I know I am being watched, which may inadvertently compromise my work. It’s one thing to work as a team, but completely different when I feel that I am under harsh scrutiny.

Anonymous wrote:If you regularly lift heavy loads in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, particularly if it's from the waist, it may increase your risk of miscarriage.

Which is precisely why nannies should understand that when they choose to become a mother they are choosing to either leave the nanny field, or be a subpar nanny (they can argue this point all they want but the evidence present in this thread and many others on the forum speaks for itself).

If you regularly lift heavy loads in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, particularly if it's from the waist, it may increase your risk of miscarriage.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a brat and only crying because you are there. Also, the nanny may have been told by her OB not to pick up more than x number of lbs and she is also correct about the heat.

Do you know anything about children? 20 month olds aren't brats and you can certainly pick up 25 pounds at 8 weeks pregnant.

She is a brat if she cries all day.

Do you know anything about the first trimester of pregnancy? It's exhausting. The heat will definitely make things worse.

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Anonymous wrote:She is a brat and only crying because you are there. Also, the nanny may have been told by her OB not to pick up more than x number of lbs and she is also correct about the heat.

Do you know anything about children? 20 month olds aren't brats and you can certainly pick up 25 pounds at 8 weeks pregnant.

She is a brat if she cries all day.

16:03 again. Wanted to add that IF there really is a medical concern for which her doctor has recommended that she not pick up anything over ten or twenty pounds, and also to not spend time outside or go for a walk, then that simply means she can no longer perform her duties as a nanny to a young toddler. So, it's pretty simple. Regardless of her actual attitude towards DD, if she can't perform the physical requirements of the job, then that is that and it is time to move on for both of you.

Maybe she's looking to get laid off since shes pregnant and wants some severance.

Reading your post, I was on nanny's side at first, because comparing in home nanny care while you yourself are at home (and DD knows you are home) is VERY different from a church nursery, where there are new and exciting toys and kids to play with that she doesn't have every day at home, and presumably, you are not within sight of her, so she might not realize how close by you are.

However, this whole cant pick her up or take her outside thing is INSANE! I'm one of those nanny's that understands that nanny's perform their duties best when they are not themselves a parent to young children (or parent to be). If she chose to have a baby then she should understand that her nanny career will suffer, but honestly, given her crappy attitude it sounds like she doesn't even care!

I would definitely let her go, and either find a short term college student or figure out another solution. She obviously doesn't care at all about your child's needs, so it is time to move on.