Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 09:45     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:if you don't see the turd, how can you clean it up immediately?

or better yet, if you don't see the little kid with no diaper on or undies going around the house pooping, how can you clean up the poop?


Well... DD had a very hard little poop roll out of her pj bottoms once and DH and I didn't find it until much, much later. It happens...
Anonymous
Post 06/30/2015 09:28     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
if you don't see the turd, how can you clean it up immediately?

or better yet, if you don't see the little kid with no diaper on or undies going around the house pooping, how can you clean up the poop?
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2015 18:22     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:If I watched my nanny, I would know why my kid has what bruises, scratches and bumps, and also why there was a turd in the living room Friday at 6pm.


And it wasn't cleaned up immediately?!
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2015 16:28     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
If I watched my nanny, I would know why my kid has what bruises, scratches and bumps, and also why there was a turd in the living room Friday at 6pm.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 21:02     Subject: Re:Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
I honestly have no clue why parents or nanny's would be opposed to OP's suggestion of checking on your nanny while she has your child in a public space. If he nanny is doing a good job it would be affirming and great for the parent to see how she worked with the child and how hard she worked with the child. If the nanny was doing her job it would only increase her value to her employers.

I happen to agree with OP - drop in on your nanny from time to time when she and your child are at the park, library or play room. You owe it to your children.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 19:04     Subject: Re:Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and I would LOVE for my MB.DB to show up and check up on me when I have my charge out at the library, park or music class. I would love them to see how hard I work with and engage their child and see why he is doing so well in "academics" and group settings. They have no clue how hard I worked to get him to sit through an entire story time (which he now loves and asks for all the time) or how I got him to dance during music class when he is generally shy. I would love for them to see how hard he laughs when he is in the park with me and how I can engage him in play with other toddlers by being in the sand with them and facilitating it.

When we are home and in front of the nanny cams, he does more quiet play alone, art projects with me and I read to him - but we are out and about every morning and every afternoon and I would love the parents to see us.


Same here. Last position, the parents had three nanny cams: kid bedroom, kid bathroom (potty training, but whatever, still not supposed to be there) and kitchen. They had no idea what we did all day, because there is no way I'm confining a child to those three rooms. According to the family, I was endangering their child by not making sure that the child was visible to the nanny cam at least half the day. Yet we weren't even in the house half days most of the time! I quit because they were too cheap to get other cams or accept alternative documentation of where we were (ie. filming craft time at the library).
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 18:28     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.


That is actually not true. What you may think of as simply a part of their personality or age (like clinginess, crying, aggressiveness, moodiness, etc) is actually a result of being ignored by the nanny.

What exactly do you disagree with?


That if "smart parents" who do not see how their nanny treats their child when they are out they cannot know how to interpret a child's behaviors. So I disagree with your entire post that "smart parents know their child. If their child wasn't well-cared for they'd know it". My point is they cannot possibly know it without witnessing how the nanny interacts with their child.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 18:18     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.


That is actually not true. What you may think of as simply a part of their personality or age (like clinginess, crying, aggressiveness, moodiness, etc) is actually a result of being ignored by the nanny.

What exactly do you disagree with?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 18:11     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.


That is actually not true. What you may think of as simply a part of their personality or age (like clinginess, crying, aggressiveness, moodiness, etc) is actually a result of being ignored by the nanny.

I've been a nanny for a long time in northern va and I can count on 1 hand how many times I have seen nannies outright ignoring or harming a child. Yes foreign nannies / aupairs are typically on their phones but for the most part I see wonderful nannies playing with and engaging their charges. Even the ones on their phones care about and engage with the children.



Oddly, as a nanny mu experience has been the exact opposite. The nannies on their phones are ignoring their little charges and the charges, as in OP's experience, are acting out for attention. Where are you located?

I agree with OP 100%. And even if you are right in your little world you (and the other nannies) have nothing to lose by having your MB/DB check in on you.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 17:34     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.


That is actually not true. What you may think of as simply a part of their personality or age (like clinginess, crying, aggressiveness, moodiness, etc) is actually a result of being ignored by the nanny.

I've been a nanny for a long time in northern va and I can count on 1 hand how many times I have seen nannies outright ignoring or harming a child. Yes foreign nannies / aupairs are typically on their phones but for the most part I see wonderful nannies playing with and engaging their charges. Even the ones on their phones care about and engage with the children.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 16:47     Subject: Re:Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Nanny here and I would LOVE for my MB.DB to show up and check up on me when I have my charge out at the library, park or music class. I would love them to see how hard I work with and engage their child and see why he is doing so well in "academics" and group settings. They have no clue how hard I worked to get him to sit through an entire story time (which he now loves and asks for all the time) or how I got him to dance during music class when he is generally shy. I would love for them to see how hard he laughs when he is in the park with me and how I can engage him in play with other toddlers by being in the sand with them and facilitating it.

When we are home and in front of the nanny cams, he does more quiet play alone, art projects with me and I read to him - but we are out and about every morning and every afternoon and I would love the parents to see us.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 16:41     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Anonymous wrote:Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.


That is actually not true. What you may think of as simply a part of their personality or age (like clinginess, crying, aggressiveness, moodiness, etc) is actually a result of being ignored by the nanny.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 16:39     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
Here's what smart parents do:
They know their child.
If their child (that they know) wasn't well-cared for,
they'd know it.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 15:47     Subject: Re:Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
BACK TO THE TOPIC:

Yes, OP, I agree that all MB/DBs should check up on their nannies to see how they are caring for their children when they are out of the house.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2015 07:16     Subject: Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out
I agree with the fact that the foreign sitters are more likely overworked and underpaid, burdened with the children AND the house cleaning, especially if they're undocumented.

They need some opportunity to communicate with other adults during their long days of hard work.