Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
There is a reason people are believed innocent until proven guilty in this country. Your "suspicions" are flimsy and this woman doesn't deserve to have you meddle in her life. I find it hard to believe, and OP should as well, that your nanny suddenly hurts children and even if that were true, why would she do it somewhere so visible? It was probably an accident. Maybe babies are her strong suit, but you already told the new employer as much. You have done your job.
theres a reason so many people die and criminals go free in this country, and coincidentally it's also the innocent until proven guilty bull crap.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
I've talked with cps about certain parents. Based on what I witnessed, CPS asked me if I'd like to file a formal report. I didn't do it. I pray for that child every day. Do you think maybe I should have? It wasn't exactly a life or death thing. But clearly neglectful... the kind of thing CPS gets involved with.
Regardless of if you file a report or not, when you speak to CPS or DCFS or any of those agencies, if they hear something that would warrant a report they have to follow up.
On the same note, you may be a mandated reporter in your state if you are a nanny or other primary child care provider who is not immediate family. Find this out and don't shirk your responsibilities in the future.
If nannies want to be taken seriously as professional individuals, they need to start adhering to professional standards, no matter how uncomfortable it may make them.
1. You don't know what you're talking about, because they can't investigate until I provide pertinent details, hence the report.
2. Do you take public school principals and teachers seriously? It'd be amazing when they all report known sexual abuse of students by their colleagues.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
I've talked with cps about certain parents. Based on what I witnessed, CPS asked me if I'd like to file a formal report. I didn't do it. I pray for that child every day. Do you think maybe I should have? It wasn't exactly a life or death thing. But clearly neglectful... the kind of thing CPS gets involved with.
Regardless of if you file a report or not, when you speak to CPS or DCFS or any of those agencies, if they hear something that would warrant a report they have to follow up.
On the same note, you may be a mandated reporter in your state if you are a nanny or other primary child care provider who is not immediate family. Find this out and don't shirk your responsibilities in the future.
If nannies want to be taken seriously as professional individuals, they need to start adhering to professional standards, no matter how uncomfortable it may make them.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
I've talked with cps about certain parents. Based on what I witnessed, CPS asked me if I'd like to file a formal report. I didn't do it. I pray for that child every day. Do you think maybe I should have? It wasn't exactly a life or death thing. But clearly neglectful... the kind of thing CPS gets involved with.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
There is a reason people are believed innocent until proven guilty in this country. Your "suspicions" are flimsy and this woman doesn't deserve to have you meddle in her life. I find it hard to believe, and OP should as well, that your nanny suddenly hurts children and even if that were true, why would she do it somewhere so visible? It was probably an accident. Maybe babies are her strong suit, but you already told the new employer as much. You have done your job.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.
Or, you could follow your conscience and call new employers to share an updated reference. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I suspected someone of harming or having the potential to harm a baby, then passed that person off to another family to care for their infant. Scary.
Anonymous wrote:Ok! I appreciate the leveled feedback I received. Thank you for that. I'll follow my preferred course of action which is to do/say nothing to the new employer.