Anonymous
05/25/2015 08:21
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:I am the nanny for a wonderful two-year-old and have been since his birth - I love him and I love my job. But there is one little issue that has started to wear on me.
When DB relieves me at the end of the day, he waits for exactly my quitting time to become available to take over. And I mean not one second sooner. He comes home and does something or other until the exact stroke of my end time and then comes in and asks me about my charge's day. It takes maybe ten minutes to transition. MB wants to be with her child the second she gets home so I never have this issue with her but she only does the hand-off once a week.
Look, I know this is stupid but it has been going on for two years. It feels disrespectful to me to always make sure that I do debriefing after he has made sure he has gotten his money's worth from me.
It is the "to the second" than would bug me too, OP. I like a smooth transition so I would sacrifice five or ten minutes of my own time to do the debriefing but I can see why you'd be bugged. My MB always comes home and is ready to take over a few minutes before my quitting time.
Anonymous
05/25/2015 06:33
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
It's good that she has no interest in being a salaried nanny, since the IRS specifically states that nannies are classified as hourly workers in this country.
Anonymous
05/25/2015 02:22
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
NP here.
I don't think it's a problem if DB comes home early yet expects you to work until your end time, OP. BUT, he shouldn't expect you to stay later for a debrief. I like the PPs idea of writing down the debrief or keeping a log and handing it to him on your way out the door.
I don't think it's a problem if DB comes home early yet expects you to work until your end time, OP. BUT, he shouldn't expect you to stay later for a debrief. I like the PPs idea of writing down the debrief or keeping a log and handing it to him on your way out the door.
Anonymous
05/23/2015 02:10
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
This is not fair to the OP at all. Anyone who says she is being petty is just being ridiculous. It's not like this only happens once a week, it's 4 nights/week. And because she always arrives early that's an extra hour of time that she's working and not getting paid EVERY week. Assuming her pay is around $20/hour, that's at least $80/month that she should be making. That isn't just a free dollars.
OP, tell the dad when he gets home that you've got plans after work now and as a result you'll need to leave right at your end time going forward. If he doesn't get the hint start writing everything down and hand him the notebook and tell him you need to go.
OP, tell the dad when he gets home that you've got plans after work now and as a result you'll need to leave right at your end time going forward. If he doesn't get the hint start writing everything down and hand him the notebook and tell him you need to go.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 23:40
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
10 minutes of talking? That should take two mins.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 23:36
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:I am the nanny for a wonderful two-year-old and have been since his birth - I love him and I love my job. But there is one little issue that has started to wear on me.
When DB relieves me at the end of the day, he waits for exactly my quitting time to become available to take over. And I mean not one second sooner. He comes home and does something or other until the exact stroke of my end time and then comes in and asks me about my charge's day. It takes maybe ten minutes to transition. MB wants to be with her child the second she gets home so I never have this issue with her but she only does the hand-off once a week.
Look, I know this is stupid but it has been going on for two years. It feels disrespectful to me to always make sure that I do debriefing after he has made sure he has gotten his money's worth from me.
I wouldn't take it personally. He probablyjusthas a lot of work on his mind and is constantly emailing and calling work day and night.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 20:51
Subject: Re:A tiny issue that is bugging me...
OP clearly stated that she has always stayed for the debriefing and continued to come in early - so she is clearly doing what needs to be done to "get the job done".
She feels disrespected that DB is in the house but will not come in the nursery one second before her end-time and doesn't feel that her reporting about his son's day is important. I don't blame her.
She feels disrespected that DB is in the house but will not come in the nursery one second before her end-time and doesn't feel that her reporting about his son's day is important. I don't blame her.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 20:43
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
It's fine to be frustrated about it (normal, even), but I don't think it's worth doing anything about. If you're happy in the job and like everyone and everything, then just let it be.
A few times, experiment with saying you have to leave right on time, so can you talk about the situation right now? See if you can get him to talk with you ahead of time. I like the PP's suggestion of doing this, but rather than going right to saying you wrote it down, I'd first initiate it with this when he walks in the door:
"Hi, DB! Great to see you! I have to leave right at 5:30 tonight, so can we do our debrief in the next few minutes? I won't have time to talk after that."
If he doesn't start to get it after doing this a handful of times, I'd just let it go. If you feel like you're being paid fairly overall, then another 10 minutes isn't really the end of the world. The PP who was terribly rude to nannies is being a total jerk, but there is value in what she's saying in terms of the fact that many employees in all jobs are asked to stay longer without pay, and it's just what we have to do sometimes to keep a job we love. I used to be paid for 35 hours a week in an office job, but all of us usually worked about 45. It was what was needed to get the job done.
A few times, experiment with saying you have to leave right on time, so can you talk about the situation right now? See if you can get him to talk with you ahead of time. I like the PP's suggestion of doing this, but rather than going right to saying you wrote it down, I'd first initiate it with this when he walks in the door:
"Hi, DB! Great to see you! I have to leave right at 5:30 tonight, so can we do our debrief in the next few minutes? I won't have time to talk after that."
If he doesn't start to get it after doing this a handful of times, I'd just let it go. If you feel like you're being paid fairly overall, then another 10 minutes isn't really the end of the world. The PP who was terribly rude to nannies is being a total jerk, but there is value in what she's saying in terms of the fact that many employees in all jobs are asked to stay longer without pay, and it's just what we have to do sometimes to keep a job we love. I used to be paid for 35 hours a week in an office job, but all of us usually worked about 45. It was what was needed to get the job done.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 15:39
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship.
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship.
NP here and you can stop now, Asshole. I am sick of reading your crappy posts.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 15:30
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship.
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 14:19
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship.
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 13:57
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
Um, no. Jobs that are hourly can also have guaranteed hours (I've worked a few). If you are hourly, the manager will be kicking you out the door, that way they won't be paying overtime (again, had a few jobs like this).
You don't know how much OP makes, you don't know what her credentials, experience and skill set are. Maybe you are salaried (ie. not counting hours at all); in which case, yes, you are paid to sit there and listen. OP is not.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 10:01
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
You're getting a grand bargain then. It's kind of an underachievement to pay for master's from a top uni and still get paid what she does. Unless she actually wants to underachieve.
You need to get out more, PP. The "nanny world" is changing! Our nanny is American and retired from her previous career after being very successful for 25 years. She is now 60, holds not only a college degree (from a much better school than either DH or I attended) but also two masters degrees. She is very vibrant and energetic and didn't want to sit home so she went back to being a nanny (she was a nanny in France right out of undergraduate school). She raised two great kids and is the world's best nanny for our now two-year-old (she has been with him since birth). She drives a new BMW and lives in our neighborhood. Everyone thinks she is DC's grandmother.
A nanny friend of hers is 24, with a BA in Early Childhood Education from UCLA (top school) and just didn't like working in a preschool - so she is a nanny. She is beautiful, athletic, American and loves being a nanny. A librarian in our children's library is leaving in August to become a nanny. Every one thinks she is that child's mother.
You sound elderly, PP, and bitter. Just get out more and talk to some of the women caring for children who you assume are their mothers or grandmothers -- you will learn a lot.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 09:33
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
You're getting a grand bargain then. It's kind of an underachievement to pay for master's from a top uni and still get paid what she does. Unless she actually wants to underachieve.
NP here and you need to stop embarrassing yourself now, PP.
Anonymous
05/22/2015 09:32
Subject: A tiny issue that is bugging me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind.
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind".
How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
That "your" was supposed to be "yet".
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board.
BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor.
Masters degree from which country?
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that.
She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it.
You're getting a grand bargain then. It's kind of an underachievement to pay for master's from a top uni and still get paid what she does. Unless she actually wants to underachieve.