Anonymous wrote:OP here - she's Asian and we're in our 40s. Thanks so much - very helpful!

Would you be amenable to be called "Aunt" for yourself and "Uncle" for your husband? I understand that's the polite and affectionate way to address one's elders in many Asian countries.

Or, if she's Indian, you could suggest she add the suffix -ji to your first name, which denotes respect.

She might feel more comfortable if you provided alternatives and didn't force her to call you by your first names.

She calls us by our first names.