These are not "small" issues OP. I think you have a valid reason for being a bit miffed at these things.

The Dad should not be making those comments to you. The next time he does so, I would respond back, "Look Mr. ____, while it seems I do nothing for the majority of the day, I am still responsible for your child when he is sleeping. When if there is an intruder? A fire? Or he wakes up earlier than expected due to a bad dream or loud noise outdoors? Unless I am allowed to leave the house and sit at the park w/a book, then I am still working. I am on call. I am here because I NEED to be here. Do firefighters do "nothing" when there is no fire? Is sitting around the station playing cards a vacation?"

And I would ask him to please not mention me "doing nothing" anymore since as his child gets older, the naps will get shorter and eventually cease altogether.

I would also ask MomBoss to please not awaken the baby during nap time and to please not make any sounds that may do so. Let her know the baby does not get a solid nap and is crabby the rest of the day, thus making your job much harder.

And I agree w/you....Doggie duties are not your responsibility. If they want you to do any specific dog care, then let them pay for someone else to do it.

The only thing I don't agree with you on is not wanting to chat with MomBoss during lunch.
I get that you want to study and all, but sometimes it's nice to have another adult to talk to plus it gives you some one-on-one time to discuss any issues/concerns about the job.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, find another job before your current charge outgrows naps entirely. Please find a job that pays you to study. Maybe just keep aiming for kids only under 9-12 months who still take 3 naps a day.

I love how rude people are to an honest question. It's not about the naps. It's not about having study time. You people respond as if I said OMG THEY EXPECT ME TO WORK!! Jesus.

It's 1:42pm on a weekday.
Do you know where your nanny is?
Not cooking, not tidying up, not folding onsies, not studying..... She's on Dcum, rapid fire posting OMGs, insults and petty complaints!

The only legitimate complaint I can understand is DB's comments. He's out of line. The rest of the stuff is pretty normal. You chose to accept a position that has a dog. I love working for families with dogs because the care I give the dog gives my day more variety. As far as the nap time problem goes they need to deal with a cranky baby when they get home, if that's what they want then so be it.

If the mom accidentally-on purpose is waking the baby, it's probably because she really misses him. I'd have a little empathy there.

At the same time, you can talk with her honestly about how this makes him cranky later (you can also ask if on those days she wakes him, he's also crankier for his parents in the evening?)
They might like it if a shorter nap gets him to bed earlier in the evening. But if it's making him cranky for you and for them, she might be amenable to trying harder not to wake him.

But really, if I were her, the whole point in coming home for lunch would be to snuggle with my baby. I am not sure you should hold that against her.

I've had employers like that. On hiring, we all agree to a schedule for the child(ren), other duties, and some have even said I could do my own things during nap. Pay and benefits are agreed to, etc. THEY AGREED and we all seem happy with the agreement. Then one/both resent the downtime I have during nap.

Sorry, OP, the dog thing sucks, but I'm not sure there is a good solution. I'm a nanny at a house with two dogs. I love animals, but the dogs can be such pains in the butt. I've cleaned up dog vomit, dog poop, and taken my car and charge to go retrieve the dog when she dug out under the fence (multiple times). Sometimes it feels like I have an extra kid or two to take care of. But what am I going to do, leave dog barf on the floor all day? A "I know the dogs have been tough this week, thanks for looking out for them" tip would be nice, but I've never gotten one.

tml wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

MB may be making a passive-aggressive move to break up the nap because she also feels your job is too easy. That also needs to be addressed. This will be harder. How often is she coming home?

I don't know that "too easy" is the right word, but if taking a 3 hour nap means that he doesn't go to bed until 10pm or wakes up at 4am or something, I can see how that would be annoying. If you are a SAHM, you can make that decision. But when the two of you are effectively splitting the care of this child, it is kind of unfair that you get the bonus time (long nap), and she has to deal with the consequences (up late, wakes up during the night, etc)

The nap is not the issue. It's not my job to decide when and how long he naps, I go along with the schedule his parents want him to be on. It's not as if I'm making decisions on my own that negatively affect them when I leave - this is the schedule he is ALWAYS on, whether I am here or not. It's not "unfair" that I get the bonus time - she's his mother. If she wants that then she should be a SAHM.

I'm sorry. My understanding was that that they did NOT want him to take these long naps. So DB was making these comments, and MB was coming home during the day to wake him up.
So, your MB asks you to let him sleep from 12-3 or something, then comes home at 1:30 and wakes him up? Is she then annoyed that you let him wake up?

And by bonus time, I just meant that when I was a SAHM, sometimes I would let my babies sleep for 4 or 5 hours during the day, knowing there would be hell to pay that night, because I wanted to get things done, and I would take my punishment when it came. But when my nanny did that, so she could get things done, but I was the one up at 3am accepting the punishment for the long nap, I asked her not to let the baby sleep more than x amount of hours before waking him up.
And yes, I am his mother. But that doesn't mean that I want to be up in the middle of the night if it can easily be helped.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, find another job before your current charge outgrows naps entirely. Please find a job that pays you to study. Maybe just keep aiming for kids only under 9-12 months who still take 3 naps a day.

I love how rude people are to an honest question. It's not about the naps. It's not about having study time. You people respond as if I said OMG THEY EXPECT ME TO WORK!! Jesus.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

MB may be making a passive-aggressive move to break up the nap because she also feels your job is too easy. That also needs to be addressed. This will be harder. How often is she coming home?

I don't know that "too easy" is the right word, but if taking a 3 hour nap means that he doesn't go to bed until 10pm or wakes up at 4am or something, I can see how that would be annoying. If you are a SAHM, you can make that decision. But when the two of you are effectively splitting the care of this child, it is kind of unfair that you get the bonus time (long nap), and she has to deal with the consequences (up late, wakes up during the night, etc)

The nap is not the issue. It's not my job to decide when and how long he naps, I go along with the schedule his parents want him to be on. It's not as if I'm making decisions on my own that negatively affect them when I leave - this is the schedule he is ALWAYS on, whether I am here or not. It's not "unfair" that I get the bonus time - she's his mother. If she wants that then she should be a SAHM.

Anonymous wrote:No sympathy for the school work thing -- you have been very lucky to have this kind of time to get paid to do your homework. It's not a work/study job at the library.

A 2-3 hour nap is long, but not crazy for an 18-month old, and obviously someone has to be there! The only way to get DB to stop is to address him about the comments directly. Spend some time composing a polite, non-confrontational way to say the comments are hurting your feelings.

MB may be making a passive-aggressive move to break up the nap because she also feels your job is too easy. That also needs to be addressed. This will be harder. How often is she coming home?

It's typical for him, we are out all morning and he gets himself worn out. He sleeps the same for the parents as he does for me. My job being "too easy" is really none of my concern, we laid out my duties and responsibilities and I do all of them with no issue. I have the time to do my work because he takes a nap, not because Im neglecting my charge or other parts of my job to do homework. She comes home 4/5 days a week.