If this was work related, I would get it. However it's not.

Anonymous wrote:I think you're being super judgmental and making this way more dramatic than it is. good for her. it's THREE WEEKS. chill out everybody

Yes.

Also, there is a parent in the home. Would the outrage be the same if the father were gone for three weeks? I doubt it.

good thing you don't work for a world bank family.
sounds like you'd flip a lid when you saw their travel.

Meh. I don't think this should really affect you much, but yeah I would judge her. Its really selfish. Ignore everyone telling you that you have no right to judge her. You can judge whomever you like, just dont actually say anything to her. I need to be able to respect the parents that I work with. Too much selfish nonsense and I can't work for you. As a nanny you are put in the position of caring for children but having to let the parents make the ultimate decisions. I need to respect you enough to trust that you will act in the best interest of your kid, and that you will let me do the same. Someone this selfish can't be trusted to do that.

OP here....they told me I would have to come in earlier and stay later yes. And they pointed out to me that I cannot miss any days.

Have they told you that you'll be needed for extra hours or are you just assuming that you'll be the one picking up the slack? Perhaps the husband is working an hour less each day while she's out and they're counting on you to show up each day for the hours that you're scheduled for - that's not unreasonable on their part. Presumably you have no vacation scheduled then. If you fall sick, he'll deal with it like he would at any other time.

My husband's traveling for almost three weeks for work. I'm scheduling a babysitter to cover a few extra hours that my husband would normally be home for + I'm taking two days off. It's on me to make sure things are covered while my husband's out.

nowhere did OP say she was going to have work overtime. she is acting like a martyr and that she needs to sacrifice her entire life for three weeks. just do your job, work a little extra if you can/want/are needed and other than that let it go. this is none of your business and I"m sure your MB wouldn't appreciate your holier-than-thou tone

There are a lot of selfish mothers out there, OP. This is nothing new.

Make as much overtime as possible for three weeks and bank it.

you seem like a nanny that I wouldn't want

I think you're being super judgmental and making this way more dramatic than it is. good for her. it's THREE WEEKS. chill out everybody

I would never tell my nanny this.

Why do you need to know in advance that she will be gone for three weeks and why? Are your hours changing while she is gone? Even if she had to tell you she would be out of town, I really don't understand why she told you where she is going, knowing how judgmental people can be about those things.

No I don't think its extreme. But I tend to work for parents that leave for months at a time. It's always work related however, not a hobby.

I agree that three weeks is a long time to leave her family, but as the nanny you really aren't entitled to an opinion on what she does. At least, not out loud.

What I would be more concerned about is what you mentioned about the Father...W/him having so much to do at work AND only you available for childcare those three weeks, I agree the pressure is on!

But I guess there is not much you can really do about it at this point.

Hopefully you have already had a flu shot. Just keep your fingers crossed that you stay healthy for the next three weeks + that nothing catastrophic occurs.

Good luck to both of you.

I can clearly see on Mondays when my charge has been neglected during the weekend. He's a complete mess with tons of crying and screaming all day. And then the parents tell me about their crazy activities, none of which considered their child's real needs.

Anonymous wrote:My previous MB was into equestrian stuff. It's just one of those hobbies that you can really get sucked into the whole lifestyle and culture. My MB never left for 3 weeks but she did spend many weekends and holiday weeks at horse shows.

Even when her little ones were babies and toddlers?? That's so sad.